Kind Treatment of Spouses

QUESTION: My husband says his Only responsibility is to earn. Is that true? He doesn’t help me in any way. Me or kids I’ll not his concern, he goes out and chill with friends but demands me to fulfill whatever he orders. Is that true that I’ve to obey him ANYWAY?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

24 Jun

ANSWER: What he is doing is totally wrong as he is responsible for his children and his wife in other means than financial provision! It is his responsibility to teach them all about Islam and to raise them up to be good individuals in their communities. The wife can also claim that her responsibility is […]

QUESTION: My nieces husband will not allow her to leave the house unless unaccompanied by him She is not allowed to sit in the front of the car with him She is not allowed to go outdoors with her mother or any other female relative She wears a full hijab He has said that even if she wears niqab he will not change his rule She is struggling with this and wants to know if it is permissible

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

15 Jun

ANSWER: I don’t know the full story here but I have seen many similar cases where it ended in divorce as such enslaving of the wife has dire consequences in the future but it would have been too late then. She must get him to have counseling or she is better off without such a […]

QUESTION: Sheik I am pregnant and living with my mother because I am not well but my husband doesn’t support me financially and he says that my parents should take the responsibility of first child birth expenses

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

15 Jun

ANSWER: What he is saying it an absolute lie and not related to Islam. It might be related to Hinduism! You and your child are his sole responsibility and he must provide for both of you. He can stop providing for you if you left his home without his permission.

QUESTION: If a husband is angry and saying some really bad words to his wife (not threatening to divorce her), how should a wife react? Also, this happens every time whenever the husband is angry. How should his wife calm him down?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Jun

ANSWER: By not responding to his insults or defending herself at all and de-escalating things.

QUESTION: Sheikh, is i am sinful if i go out with my wife and children without asking my mother’s permission? as she always create a fuss when we leave the house without taking her with us, she curse me for leaving her alone in house…I don’t know if this is right or wrong as my wife also don’t want her to go with us. Is my wife has right to object?

Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

12 Jun

ANSWER: Your mother has no right in interfering in your married life at all. You can DEFINITELY take your wife and kids anywhere you want without taking your mother along or even informing her! You can compensate your mother by taking her alone with you or with your kids without your wife to wherever it […]

QUESTION: I don’t like my husband I don’t want to see his face or hear his voice I don’t know why is that from the first day of my marriage I didn’t let him touch me I’m sinful I know but I can’t live with that man.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

11 Jun

ANSWER: Technically, if you are unable to live with him or fulfill his rights, you can divorce him. Realistically, this is not logical! You accepted him and agreed to marry him without anyone forcing you. After all this time wasted and money lost, you simply want to divorce him and for a silly reason such […]

QUESTION: What’s the ruling on marrying a 2nd wife if a person cannot even provide proper shelter, food, clothes for the first wife and his children, including their education? The wife does a job and BARELY manages house expenses. Is this permissible? If not, can I get ONLY 1 reference please? I need to show it.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Jun

ANSWER: The wife is not obliged to pay a penny in the house or to pay any bills. This is the sole responsibility of the husband. If he manages to provide for both houses, this is permissible. Otherwise, it is not permissible for him to take a second wife. The first wife is entitled to […]

QUESTION: Sheikh! Is it true that I am supposed to do ANYTHING my husband ask’s me to do as long as it doesn’t go against Allah? For example one time He asked me to kneel down because I said something he found offensive to him(I said I was going to call the security on his friend who is an Artisan, who had refused to deliver or refund)

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

06 Jun

ANSWER: No, this is totally bogus and you don’t have to obey him in whatever he tells you as you are not his slave! He has no right to ask you yo kneel down like this! Such oppressive husbands must be stopped before they take this as norm and would make their wives’ life a […]

QUESTION: Sheikh, If a woman earns and pays for the expenses of household, and do house chores, take care of children and her in-laws and man do nothing .doesn’t man have to do household and taking care of the children. Or it is still duty of the woman.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

05 Jun

ANSWER: Her duty is to look after her house, husband and kids. It’s not her responsibility to chip in in the expenses so she can quit the job and be home and let her husband take care of the finances.

QUESTION: Have a mother who interferes in my wife’s life excessively as to when to have a child what clothes she must wear and what time she must wake up. She doesn’t let my wife pick out clothes she likes for an event and always has a complain about how it is not nice. She also complains that my wife never served/cooked my side of the family. When she gives me too much pressure I come take it on my wife.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

28 May

ANSWER: Your wife does not have to serve her inlaws and has all the rights in the world to her privacy. You need to man up rather than take your mother’s complaints out on your wife! Your wife did not marry you so that you can be a momma’s boy rather she married you so […]

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