Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

QUESTION: When relatives stay at our house especially cousins childrens as their parents allow them to stay as per their choice for weeks during summer holidays, we lose our privacy and can’t do our work properly. Is it okay in Islam to politely ask them to go back home, or is it wrong? We feel very guilty about wanting them to leave.”

Character and Morals, Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

18 Jul

ANSWER: Guests in Islam are to stay for not more than 3 days.

QUESTION: Where should we draw the line on what we compromise / be tolerant on when it comes to non muslim family and Islam, so that we don’t ruin ties?

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Fiqh of the family

14 Jun

ANSWER: We maintain family ties, kindness, good character, and patience with non-Muslim relatives. We do not compromise on matters of belief, worship, haram actions, or anything that involves disobeying Allah. Be as accommodating as possible in worldly matters, but do not obey anyone in sin. Preserve the relationship while politely declining what Islam forbids.

QUESTION: Regarding visiting my grandparents aunts or uncles if I know non Mahram female cousins and aunts will be present and uncovered. My family is loose in faith and does not observe Hijab. I fear that if I stop visiting to avoid seeing them they will label me an extremist and cause serious problems. What’s the best thing I could do?

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Mahram

10 Apr

ANSWER: Try to visit at a time when your female relatives (non mahram) would not be around. Keep the visit short and sweet and if they enter the room, lower your gaze, make an excuse and leave. Call them often to check up on them

QUESTION: My question is what to do if you are forced by parents or relatives like aunts and uncles to attend events like khattams and loud dhikr sessions

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Innovations

08 Jan

ANSWER: This is not permissible as there’s no pleasing or obedience to anyone at the cost of displeasing and disobedience to Allah!

QUESTION: If my mother invites my aunt (her sister) and her husband over to have lunch with me, brother, Mom and dad present, since theres freemixing between my dad and my mom’s sister and aunt’s husband and my mom, am I sinfull for sitting down at the table and having food, though everyone is mahram or male to me

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Halal/Haram Matters

04 Sep

ANSWER: You must not be part of this as there’s free mixing between non mahrams.

QUESTION: There is a poor cousin of mine who got her leg fractured so can i keep a house help at her house and pay off her salary from my zakat

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Zakat

10 Aug

ANSWER: If she is labeled as poor or needy Muslim and she is in need of such a helper and can’t afford one, you may tell her that you have zakat money whether she would like it in cash or you would pay for such a helper. As a recipient of zakat money, she is […]

QUESTION: An uncle of mine who lives next door to us, falsely accused and slandered my mother and sister. all this happened when I was in another city. I know you must reply whenever someone says salam to you. but can I completely ignore him, as me replying to him may show that I support his claims too. how should a slanderer be treated?

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

07 Aug

ANSWER: You must reply to the salam and confront him about what he had said about your mother.

QUESTION: Close relative owes interest based debt to few and asked us to lend some money. We are able to help only to a certain extent but they ask often. Are we obliged to help even if they are irresponsible and don’t work the way out of their situation and instead continue to fall under more debt?

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Loans

17 Jun

ANSWER: If you lend them and they pay you back, this is permissible But if you lend them and they don’t pay back, you would be stupid to lend them again

QUESTION: If my father real brother fought with words and his brother says him very bad and his wife also like you are wife slave many more . In the hadith tells that if brother does not forgive his brother in 3 days and dies he go to hell ,can you tell me that my father is sinful

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

22 Feb

ANSWER: There is no such thing to my knowledge that when a person dies that he would go to hell for that No doubt that fighting with one’s own brother and saying such nasty words is sinful but dying while in such a state is a major sin but not something that would put a […]

QUESTION: My husband’s mother has decided by her personal reasoning that his wife shall be banned from her house and from any other gathering from my husband’s side because of the family because she shall be there. Whats the ruling on this ? Should I let his family isolate me. My husband leaves me home alone and takes the kids for all events and even eid and iftar dinners.

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

27 Dec

ANSWER: What choice do you have if you’re not invited there? People who don’t want to see you, you are better off not wanting to see them either! Focus on your hobbies and readings and house chores and show them that you are happy with it. Your husband & your children must visit the family […]

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