Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

QUESTION: “I am living with my narcissistic mother-in-law. Her husband has passed away, and she has three sons. I am the wife of her youngest son. She does not give my husband and me our own space and takes care of him as if I do not exist. I feel unworthy and stressed. What are the Islamic rulings on this?”

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

20 Mar

ANSWER: There are two ways to describe a glass that has water to the middle of it. Either you say it is half full or you say it is hall empty! Both descriptions are correct but it depends whether you are an optimistic or pessimistic! If you are supposed to work x amount of hours […]

QUESTION: My mother-in-law often doesn’t pick up my calls or return them. Recently, she was busy with shifting, so I asked her to call me back when free, but she hasn’t. She is also rude. My husband insists I call her again, saying the marriage can’t proceed without it. I’m tired, and it’s affecting my self-respect. What should I do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

25 Jan

ANSWER: Islamicly, you don’t have to call her nor obey him! Technically, if this would lead to divorce, it is your preference whether you decide to draw the line and show him that you are not going to do this anymore unless she pays attention as well and calls back or you want to preserve […]

QUESTION: My husband doesn’t like me to call my sisters or them to call me. He is saying they are no longer my siblings and his siblings are now my relatives. He is telling me once in every week go to his parents to stay. I do not like this. Am i sinful if i refuse to go to my inlaws every week?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

19 Dec

ANSWER: No, you’re not sinful for not wanting to go! He’s totally wrong in demanding this from you as they’re not your relatives (kinship)! Your own siblings are your siblings for life and nothing can change this and his siblings or parents can’t be compared to yours!

QUESTION: There is a marriage proposal for me. He is a good guy, a practicing Muslim, and has good knowledge about Dee. The problem is, our parents want videography for our wedding, but I don’t. Even though the guy knows about it, he didn’t take any step. He said, “I don’t know anything. It’s all up to my family. Whatever they want to do, they will.” What should I do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

16 Oct

ANSWER: You must put your foot down and do not agree to this. If he is as practicing as you say, he should man up and talk to his parents rather than being a mommas boy! Such a negative attitude about what is halal and haram should give you a preview of how life would […]

QUESTION: My father sends money to my grandmother, who’s happy in our home country. During her visit in early 2024, she showed dislike for my mother and caused tension, sometimes making my father angry with us. She took my sister’s toys without asking to give to my uncle’s son. Now, my father wants her to visit again, but my mother and I feel uncomfortable. Should we refuse?”

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

04 Oct

ANSWER: It’s his house and he can definitely bring his mother for a visit once in a while. Your mother should be thankful to Allah that she’s living separately from her in laws and not living in a joint family like millions of other women in the subcontinent

QUESTION: In my culture it’s like Haram and not respectful if a wife doesn’t cover her hair infront of her husband’s dad and If I don’t follow this will I get sins even tho islam says that a woman can show her hair to her father-in-law?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Women clothing

25 Jul

ANSWER: No problem in doing this if this is cultural and you do not believe this has anything to do with Islam especially when surrounded by ignorants who do not understand

QUESTION: Should a girl prove her virginity on her wedding night if the inlaws are demanding

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

19 Jul

ANSWER: Of course not!

QUESTION: My inlaws kept my gold with them for “safety purposes” and when I demanded my gold back they refused to give the part which my husband gifted me saying that he still owes some money to them and wouldn’t give me until it is paid. They say it is their right to possess whatever my husband owns. Am I sinful for asking it back?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Jul

ANSWER: You are not sinful at all! In fact they’re the sinful ones and doing zulm & oppression against you! You can take them to court and complain to the police if you wish as they don’t have any right in asking you to pay for your husband’s debt as this gold is yours and […]

QUESTION: My mother and wife had a huge fight and my wife’s parent got involved in the fight. Now my mother says if I do not divorce her. she will disown me and not give me anything from heritance. she also says that I should divorce my wife as it is part of obeying parents. what should I do sheikh?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Jun

ANSWER: I don’t know whether your wife is a righteous woman or not! If she checks all the boxes and you love her, you can’t obey your mother in divorcing her. What your mother is saying is totally wrong and against Islam! She has no right none whatsoever in asking you to give your wife […]

QUESTION: I am married and have my own accommodation. There have been times some immediate family members make comments about my wife or her parents to me saying they don’t do this right etc etc, how do I deal with this appropriately without my wife feeling uncomfortable visiting my parents house where they all live?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

04 Jun

ANSWER: If they are abusing your wife to her face and saying hurtful things, she must not visit them as she is not obliged to do so, especially if she doesn’t have a man who would stand up for her and protect her.

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