Kind Treatment of Spouses

QUESTION: At first I wasn’t ready to get married to my husband as I didn’t like him. Bt my parents wer aftr me I said no bt my dad warned tat if I domt marry him he will never talk so I said yes. At first I felt his nice n decent n he is nice I wont deny that but since a few days I’ve noticed he is very lazy does no work n little disrespectful n cuz of that I feel no love for hi

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

09 Feb

ANSWER: Since you had agreed to marry him, you must make it work. There may be many shortcomings and character traits about you that he might find off putting! No one is perfect in this world, you must look at the good qualities that he possess and overlook his negative points exactly like how you […]

QUESTION: Shaikh , is it a sin if I force my husband to tell me his phone password? As for me he knows my password and everything related to me but when I ask him , he says there are soo many secrets, should i let it go , because it hurts me alot when he says he have loyalty issues with me , i trust Allah fully, but what should I do ? Please advice me.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

05 Feb

ANSWER: You have no right in asking for his passwords nor does he have any right in knowing your’s!

QUESTION: What is the ruling on a woman who just married but refused her husband to have an intimate moment during their first night as husband and wife because the wife doesn’t want to get pregnant yet? Is the marriage nulled or void? What is the right of the husband on this matter?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

01 Feb

ANSWER: The marriage is valid! The wife is cursed by the angels all night long till the break of dawn and this is every single night! Why did she marry him in the first place?

QUESTION: My husband has committed a sin with another women. I dont feel towards him like I use to. We’ve been married for 7yrs. It’s been over one year that my heart can’t accept him. I have tried but I don’t know what to do.

Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

29 Jan

ANSWER: If he has sincerely repented to Allah from this sin and apologised to you and if he’s a changed man now then you must give him a fair chance and put those days behind and make your home a safe haven for him to come back to. Allah the almighty forgives sins, don’t you […]

QUESTION: Sheikh, is this authentic hadith that: All the doors of Jannah are opened for women if they follow 4 things. 1)Salah 2)Fasting 3)Doing parda 4)Obeying her husband. Is this authentic?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Paradise and Hell

16 Jan

ANSWER: The following is the authentic hadith: “If a woman does her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: Enter whichever of the gates of Paradise you want.”

QUESTION: My husband says I am obligated to serve his parents if he says so, because it’s my obligation to obey him. Is it true? Do I have to serve his parents and his other relatives? Please let me know in detail.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

31 Dec

ANSWER: What he’s saying is not true! You are obliged to obey him and to serve him and not serve other people! This is not slavery!

QUESTION: Is it wrong if a husband and wife make a common goal to enter Jannah together or to be with each other in Jannah?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Paradise and Hell

20 Dec

ANSWER: Of course not! This is what an ideal couple work and aim for.

QUESTION: My husband has a habit of keeping malice with me for weeks on end, usually after petty arguements. He stops all communication with me except when absolutely necessary (eg. Have you seen my keys?) even when I apologize to make peace he doesn’t stop giving me the cold shoulder – only in his own time. This can go on for several days or

Kind Treatment of Spouses

11 Dec

ANSWER: Let him go through his fit and keep your distance if you did not do anything wrong to him until he comes around on his own time. When he is in a good mood, you can try to discuss his behaviour with him and to ask him whether this was the way of the […]

QUESTION: What can you do, when they got u married to a man u don’t love but u ignored it since u can’t do anything about it and thinking that for a mean time, u may love him but u tried all means u couldn’t love him, you feel hurt when he is talking to u even his words are not hurtful, an he is very good man he loves me so much, and i don’t want to hurt him. since u got married he didn’t come. Please

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Dec

ANSWER: Technically, if you are unable to love him or fulfill his rights, you can divorce him. Realistically, this is not logical! You accepted him and agreed to marry him without anyone forcing you. After all this time wasted and money lost, you simply want to divorce him and for a silly reason such as […]

QUESTION: I want to live in a separate house but my husband does not agree. i feel very uncomfortable with his family.my mother in law fights for my gold ornaments Which was brought my husband. I said my husband to keep me in a separate house but he was like.. no I will not keep you in a separate house until my mom is alive. So Sheik tell me what to do? about my husband condition.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

06 Dec

ANSWER: You have all the right in Islam to ask your husband for a separate accommodation. Your in laws have no say or right in this. He must fear Allah and give you your rights. However, you must be smart in dealing with this sensitive issue. Do not nag your husband about this, rather be […]

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