Kind Treatment of Spouses

QUESTION: If I were to carry out full financial responsibilities towards my wife, I can’t help out my elderly parents. My dad can’t find a job and my mum has to work to make ends meet. On paper, it is a man’s duty to work and spend on his family, but the reality may not be so straightforward. How to go about?

Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

06 Aug

ANSWER: You are obligated to provide for your wife and children and will be accountable for that. Supporting your parents is virtuous, but if you cannot afford it, you are not sinful.

QUESTION: How to balance kindness to wife and not letting her disrespect you

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

29 Jul

ANSWER: You need to become a man and differentiate between being kind and when someone disrespects you! There are many wacko people out there who exaggerate things way beyond proportion and make an issue of a no issue! Such people are hard to live with and they need counseling and a lot of mentoring until […]

QUESTION: Is it permissible for a woman to please her husband by wearing the hijab and cover her beauty as this is what he wants from her?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Women clothing

06 Jun

ANSWER: She must wear the hijab and cover her beauty in front of non mahrams as this is what Allah has ordered her to do! She would be pleasing Allah and pleasing her husband as well.

QUESTION: Before marriage my in laws and husband agreed for my job and studies as a physiotherapist now my MIL influence my husband to wait and my husband asked me to wait for few months and he wants me to join where he will be working after he understands that environment as he is also physio ,he says I have to listen to him as he is my husband is it rational do I have to listen to him

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses, Marriage Contract

08 Apr

ANSWER: If he had agreed to you studying and doing a halal job after marriage and this was stipulated in the marriage contract, he cannot go back on his word! If he does, you have the option to ask for divorce

QUESTION: If a man commits zina because his wife doesn’t accept him marrying a second wife, and threatens to take khula, take custody of the children etc. Then is the wife also sinful and takes share in the sin of zina?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

02 Apr

ANSWER: She is sinful for threatening him with such unislamic things and for not sufficing him sexually but she has no sin in whatever sins he commits as he is an adult and accountable for his actions.

QUESTION: Should a man obey his parents if they order to divorce his wife for her infertility or dumbness or introvert nature?

Divorce, Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

02 Feb

ANSWER: Of course not unless he is not a real man!

QUESTION: I live in my fathers home with my wife and intend to move out in the next couple of years. my father wants my wife to inform him before leaving the house, but my wife doesnt like that and says she will inform me only So i politely refused my fathers request. However my father is angry at me. am i sinful for not fulfilling demands of my father

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

30 Nov

ANSWER: Your father has no right, NONE WHATSOEVER on your wife or what she does and where she goes etc as long as she has your consent.

QUESTION: Me and my wife are living in a joint family with my parents. They are very nice to her but very restrictive. We need their permission for things like going out or visiting my wifes parents etc. We want to live seperately but I cannot tell my parents this because they will get offended. Can I lie to them and tell that i got a job in a different state and would have to move there along with my wife.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Sep

ANSWER: You must not lie as this is haram in Islam. Try to get a real job and relocate and this way you won’t need to lie

QUESTION: My wife isn’t very practicing and often neglects her duties, e.g., she leaves a Qur’an translation I gave her unread while reading other books. When I mention it, she feels attacked. I feel tired and drained. Am I sinful if I stop reminding her in general?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

03 Sep

ANSWER: No you will not be sinful as these things are voluntary and not mandatory such as prayer and hijab. However try to deal with her with love and in a diplomatic way so that she does not get offended when you remind her.

QUESTION: We have no home.we plan to sell gold of my wife & my mom to buy a home along with few money from me and dad.My wife is willingly ready to give her mahr for this purpose.Ive not forced her although ive proposed this idea to her & she is 100% willing as home is better then having gold. Am i wrong to take it if she fully agrees to it?

Dowry, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

20 Aug

ANSWER: You must either write a document stating how much gold she gave which is a debt upon you to her if you were to divorce or die or you write in the deed that she owns 20% for example of the house so that her rights won’t be wasted.

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