Kind Treatment of Spouses

QUESTION: I gained wt after 4th pregnancy and my husband doesnt even want to kiss me He watches pon n talks to his exes and other girls on social media And tells me tht he doesnt have feeling for me.. why dont u look at other things i do why only sxual thing matter to u… we haven’t have had s*x in 3 years not even kiss What can i do i have desires too ? I m 32 only.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

18 Jul

ANSWER: Take care of yourself by eating healthy and exercising and lose weight to make yourself beautiful for him as he’s your husband and he has desires and needs too. Adorn yourself in front of him, always smell good & fresh whenever he’s around, wear clothes that he likes and don’t be nagging, give him […]

QUESTION: My friend is working abroad but hasn’t been able to take his wife (married since a year) with him bcos he keeps sending money to his parents. What should be his priority in this case? Should he stop sending money and save that to bring his wife or let his wife stay away from him & keep supporting his dad who’s already earning (but less)?

Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Jul

ANSWER: His priority should be to bring his wife to him. After that, he should give whatever extra he has got to his parents after securing his own needs and his wife’s if his parents do not have anything at all and are in need

QUESTION: My mother and wife had a huge fight and my wife’s parent got involved in the fight. Now my mother says if I do not divorce her. she will disown me and not give me anything from heritance. she also says that I should divorce my wife as it is part of obeying parents. what should I do sheikh?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Jun

ANSWER: I don’t know whether your wife is a righteous woman or not! If she checks all the boxes and you love her, you can’t obey your mother in divorcing her. What your mother is saying is totally wrong and against Islam! She has no right none whatsoever in asking you to give your wife […]

QUESTION: Does a rightoeus wife do all household work perfectly without any mistakes. Does it mean that if I forget something in the fridge or I didn’t see anything properly once in a while. . I need to be scolded or insulted compared with others for not doing the home work properly.? Is your wife and your daughters perfect in household work.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

09 Jun

ANSWER: This is not fair nor just! He himself has many flaws and shortcomings and two can play this game!

QUESTION: I have a dad who lacks the ability to control his anger and this leads him to get mad sometimes in which leads my mom crying and i am afraid that if i get a wife i could potentially make a poor girl cry, what should i do?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

06 Jun

ANSWER: Be a real man and treat women like a real Muslim!

QUESTION: I am married and have my own accommodation. There have been times some immediate family members make comments about my wife or her parents to me saying they don’t do this right etc etc, how do I deal with this appropriately without my wife feeling uncomfortable visiting my parents house where they all live?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

04 Jun

ANSWER: If they are abusing your wife to her face and saying hurtful things, she must not visit them as she is not obliged to do so, especially if she doesn’t have a man who would stand up for her and protect her.

QUESTION: Where is the hadith of the Hur al Eyn cursing women that nag their husbands sourced from? Is it authentic?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Knowledge & Propagation

02 Jun

ANSWER: The hadith is authentic. I don’t give references here due to lack of time Refer to islamqa.info for detailed answers with references

QUESTION: During childbirth I endured a lot of pain and couldn’t continue without a spinal injection. there was no female doctor so a male doctor put the injection on my back with my husband and 2 female nurses present in the room. my husband always insults me and says i am shameless to expose my back to a male. He calls me weak for not being able to endure the pain and gets angry at me. Was i sinful?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

01 Jun

ANSWER: No! Your husband is an ignorant imbecile for saying such things!

QUESTION: I did arrange marriage. My wife’s parents were very clear about her dark complexion and average looks. I and my parents assured them we had no issue. She is very pious, good character goes above and beyond to keep me happy.also she was clear she didn’t want to go ahead if I was interested in polygamy. She is a nice girl. Now I don’t feel attracted for her looks. Should i divorce her ?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

27 May

ANSWER: A real man doesn’t act like this! You went into the marriage knowing what you were doing and choosing despite all the warnings you were given as if they had a bad feeling about you! No one forced you to marry her. Now, if you want to destroy her life by divorcing her, this […]

QUESTION: How can a woman save herself from her abusive husband?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

15 May

ANSWER: Avoid the reasons that make him abusive or try to communicate and reason with him. If these don’t work, let her involve the men in her family who could intimidate him as men, and if this doesn’t work, she can file for khulu and ditch him as he is not a real man to […]

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