Kind Treatment of Spouses

QUESTION: I have a dad who lacks the ability to control his anger and this leads him to get mad sometimes in which leads my mom crying and i am afraid that if i get a wife i could potentially make a poor girl cry, what should i do?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

06 Jun

ANSWER: Be a real man and treat women like a real Muslim!

QUESTION: I am married and have my own accommodation. There have been times some immediate family members make comments about my wife or her parents to me saying they don’t do this right etc etc, how do I deal with this appropriately without my wife feeling uncomfortable visiting my parents house where they all live?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

04 Jun

ANSWER: If they are abusing your wife to her face and saying hurtful things, she must not visit them as she is not obliged to do so, especially if she doesn’t have a man who would stand up for her and protect her.

QUESTION: Where is the hadith of the Hur al Eyn cursing women that nag their husbands sourced from? Is it authentic?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Knowledge & Propagation

02 Jun

ANSWER: The hadith is authentic. I don’t give references here due to lack of time Refer to islamqa.info for detailed answers with references

QUESTION: During childbirth I endured a lot of pain and couldn’t continue without a spinal injection. there was no female doctor so a male doctor put the injection on my back with my husband and 2 female nurses present in the room. my husband always insults me and says i am shameless to expose my back to a male. He calls me weak for not being able to endure the pain and gets angry at me. Was i sinful?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

01 Jun

ANSWER: No! Your husband is an ignorant imbecile for saying such things!

QUESTION: I did arrange marriage. My wife’s parents were very clear about her dark complexion and average looks. I and my parents assured them we had no issue. She is very pious, good character goes above and beyond to keep me happy.also she was clear she didn’t want to go ahead if I was interested in polygamy. She is a nice girl. Now I don’t feel attracted for her looks. Should i divorce her ?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

27 May

ANSWER: A real man doesn’t act like this! You went into the marriage knowing what you were doing and choosing despite all the warnings you were given as if they had a bad feeling about you! No one forced you to marry her. Now, if you want to destroy her life by divorcing her, this […]

QUESTION: How can a woman save herself from her abusive husband?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

15 May

ANSWER: Avoid the reasons that make him abusive or try to communicate and reason with him. If these don’t work, let her involve the men in her family who could intimidate him as men, and if this doesn’t work, she can file for khulu and ditch him as he is not a real man to […]

QUESTION: Will i get reward too if i morally support my husband in good deeds like he donated money for masjid or for water plant?

Charity, Kind Treatment of Spouses

23 Apr

ANSWER: If you encourage him to do good deeds, you will get rewarded.

QUESTION: Is it permissible for a man to say to a woman that you only belong in the kitchen?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Apr

ANSWER: This is fine if she can also say to him that he only belongs in the barn!

QUESTION: My husband does not know to recite quran in Arabic so can i recite a full quran on his behalf? Wil he get that reward?

Innovations, Kind Treatment of Spouses, Reading/Reciting the Quran

08 Apr

ANSWER: No, this is not permissible and he won’t get the reward. You can recite it while he is listening to it and both of you will be rewarded for that.

QUESTION: Is it permissible for parents to want to know whether or not their daughter was a virgin before marriage? In my culture, it has been made completely that once a lady is married, her husband should buy gifts for the family if she is a virgin, and if not, they simply don’t speak about the matter. However, it is evident that she was not.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

21 Mar

ANSWER: What kind of culture is this?! This is absolutely prohibited and disrespectful for the girl!

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