Kind Treatment of Spouses

QUESTION: My in-laws are harassing me and my parents for dowry after marriage, my husband doesn’t want anything from us but in- laws are harassing me like anything what should I do

30 Nov

ANSWER: Your husband has to man up and stand up against them whenever anyone brings about the topic of dowry from you. You simply do not reply to any of their comments. Abusive people want only to depress you and to sadden you and to get a negative reaction or response from you that would […]

QUESTION: Shiekh, My husband came to US two years ago. He is working, but still struggling to meet our needs. I work and take care of my own needs.Each month he sends money to his family back home even he doesn’t have enough to send.He doesn’t give me any allowance. Even if I am working and contributing to home more than him, shouldn’t he give me something for my allowance as a husband?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

16 Oct

ANSWER: If he doesn’t earn enough and you are working, why would you burden him by asking him to give you something? He is poor and unable to make ends meet! You want him to stop sending any money to his parents and family and give you an allowance while he sees you working and […]

QUESTION: I understand husband is superior to a wife and deserves alot of respect. However, husband acts in a way that upset the wife, would she be sinful for getting angry?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

15 Oct

ANSWER: She is a human being and has all the right to be angry. However, what makes her sinful is not her anger but rather what she does as a result of such anger.

QUESTION: In my culture when someone is married they give the couples a white wrapper to use on their first night to wipe the blood of the virgin, and the wrapper has to be returned to the relatives. I know it’s not islamic to do so. But to protect my wife’s honor, would it be appropriate to prick my finger and put some blood on the wrapper just to protect my wife from harassment.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Oct

ANSWER: You must put your foot down and totally prohibit anyone checking your bedsheet at all, this is absolutely degrading and insulting.

QUESTION: What should be the general behaviour of a husband towards his relatives&siblings who openly hate his wife, insult her and want him to divorce her? My husband remains quite on spot when i am insulted and later confronts them in my absence.This hurts me.Also, he will be angry for a moment but after a few days will be laughing with them like nothing happened.So, they keep repeating it.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

18 Sep

ANSWER: She shouldn’t be free mixing with men who are non mahram. If she is not living with them in a joint family system, she can demand from her husband a separate home as this is her right in Islam. If she is already living separately, she is not obliged to ever meet them. This […]

QUESTION: I have a very beautiful wife but I don’t want her wearing makeup I feel insecure and think she will attract other men I have told her but she said likes wearing makeup and don’t want to stop but she doesn’t wear it a lot or wears very natural after I asked her am I being unfair on her. She tries her best but I can’t help feel like this. She tell me that I control her a lot.

Beautification & Cosmetic Suregry, Kind Treatment of Spouses

11 Sep

ANSWER: It’s totally prohibited for her to wear makeup and go out in front of non mahram men and while going out exposing her face with make-up You must stop her and she must obey you but not to be seen by non mahram man as no real muslim man would allow his wife to […]

I have a question regarding my mum and my husband’s treatment of my mum. I understand that islamically he is not obliged to obey or do anything for my parents but does it mean he can treat my parents like dirt and can get away with it? My mum looks after our baby while i work but he treats her not in a nice way at all.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Aug

ANSWER: He is sinful for treating her like that especially when she is older than him and taking care of his child. You should keep them away from one another so that they don’t meet and he doesn’t get a chance to mistreat her like this.

What to do if a man marries a second wife and the first wife does not allow to visit wife equaly. So the second wife is always alone, because the man says he has to do what the first wife says becaus of his children and he thinks this is equaly and right for him. Amd he says this is also islamic right und equal because of the children.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

09 Aug

ANSWER He is sinful and will be punished for not being equal with both wives and for obeying his first wife like this as it doesn’t matter whether he has children or not as this won’t exempt him from accountability and will come on the day of judgement with his side tilted for being unfair. […]

Is it compulsory for women to serve in laws. Make it clear plz .also i have asked my husbamd so many times to provide me sperate accommodation but he just ignore me.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

23 Jun

ANSWER: She is not obliged at all to serve her in laws. Her duty is towards her husband and children. She has all the right in islam to ask her husband for a separate accommodation. Your in laws have no say or right in this. He must fear Allah and give you your rights. However, you […]

Is it oppression if a man tells/orders his wife to not go outisde of home 365 days a year as he says that quran said that it is better for a woman to be in a house. So, is he doing oppression and sin?

Fiqh of Marriage, Halal/Haram Matters, Kind Treatment of Spouses

20 Jun

ANSWER: Of course this is total oppression! Such a person is mentally sick and she must not stay married to him. Did the prophet salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam ever prevent his wives from leaving their homes like this ignorant imbecile or does he know more than the prophet?

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