QUESTION: Due to misunderstandings, my husband accused me for infidelity without solid evidence of me having an affair. He insulted me openly. Still to save my marriage, me and my parents asked for forgiveness. I offered to agree to all his conditions as i was loyal yet he wants to divorce me without hearing any explanation. He didnt talk to me in private. He only talks with his mother. What should I do?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses
05 Oct

ANSWER: This is your choice If you wish to remain a doormat for the rest of your life, you can keep on trying

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QUESTION: I have a family (mother, wife, and a young daughter), and my salary is moderate. I often struggle financially by month’s end. I give sadaqa monthly but feel it’s too little. Is there a recommended amount for sadaqa?

Charity, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses
28 Sep

ANSWER: No. Providing for your family is a sadaqa by itself.

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QUESTION: I previously asked if a wife can do only basic house duties, and you responded that if the husband is okay with it and they can hire a maid then its fine. but, does the wife have to pay for the maid? The wife doesn’t have the funds, and the husband is willing to cover the cost.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses
16 Sep

ANSWER: No problem in husband paying for the maid at all!

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QUESTION: My wife likes to stay awake during the night and this upsets me. She stays awake till 2 am everyday and she says she reads religious knowledge but also browses through her phone. She also says she can’t sleep early but I feel she doesn’t try. Is she sinful for doing something I don’t like because I told her many times to try to sleep early .she sleeps late, wakes up prays

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses
09 Sep

ANSWER: If she wakes up and prays her fajr on time and does her other daily chores and she is not messing up with your right, there is no need to be upset with her. 

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QUESTION: I work office hrs. My wife stays home. i took care of the kids when i get back and cleans the house. she is lazy and seldom prays she keeps saying she is not a slave, what can i do to avoid quarrel?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses
25 Aug

ANSWER: This is not normal at all and you should involve her parents in this if she doesn’t listen and behave! She is obliged to work in the house as you are obliged to work and provide for her and the kids. If she is not complying after all of that, you can divorce her […]

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QUESTION: What can a woman do, when she wants to stipulate the condition of living in a separate accommodation, but the culture and society doesn’t accept it? especially her own parents as well?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses
23 Aug

ANSWER: If she gets a proposal like that then she should accept it or else make dua to Allah to send a husband who would provide her with a separate accommodation  If there is no way such a proposal comes and her age is passing then she should look at the pros and cons of […]

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QUESTION: Can my husband command me to not look at the faces of daees and Islamic scholars out of jealousy? Do I have to obey him, or can I just not show him that I am?

Fiqh of Marriage, Halal/Haram Matters, Kind Treatment of Spouses
13 Aug

ANSWER: No, he has no right in doing so and you are not obligated to obey him. You can also do it without showing him.

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QUESTION: I’m in England and My nikah was done online but rukhasti is not done yet and wife is living with her parents in Pakistan. I will be applying for her visa. Do I need to pay for her visa or her parents will pay as she is living with them?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses
27 Jul

ANSWER: What kind of a question is this? No real man would ask about such trivial financial issues unless he has a problem of being stingy or a miser! This woman is better off calling such a marriage off as her life would be hell with him! The husband is obliged to pay for the […]

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QUESTION: I gained wt after 4th pregnancy and my husband doesnt even want to kiss me He watches po*n n talks to his exes and other girls on social media And tells me tht he doesnt have feeling for me.. why dont u look at other things i do why only s*xual thing matter to u… we haven’t have had s*x in 3 years not even kiss What can i do i have desires too ? I m 32 only.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses
18 Jul

ANSWER: Take care of yourself by eating healthy and exercising and lose weight to make yourself beautiful for him as he’s your husband and he has desires and needs too. Adorn yourself in front of him, always smell good & fresh whenever he’s around, wear clothes that he likes and don’t be nagging, give him […]

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QUESTION: My friend is working abroad but hasn’t been able to take his wife (married since a year) with him bcos he keeps sending money to his parents. What should be his priority in this case? Should he stop sending money and save that to bring his wife or let his wife stay away from him & keep supporting his dad who’s already earning (but less)?

Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses
13 Jul

ANSWER: His priority should be to bring his wife to him. After that, he should give whatever extra he has got to his parents after securing his own needs and his wife’s if his parents do not have anything at all and are in need

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