Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

QUESTION: How important is to stay in contact with in laws like sister in laws or brother in laws?

06 Jan

ANSWER: This has no importance at all as they are not your kinship.

QUESTION: Mostly in India/pakistan,sons are told by their mom’s not to share things with their wife.like a divorce,upcoming close relative wedding or any small stuff which eventually surfaces n causes fights amongst couples.what advise you give to d mom n the husband?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

26 Dec

ANSWER: A wife who would make an issue of this deserves what she gets! She should be bigger than this! If she has small brains that would make her pick up fights over such silly things that would not benefit her or gain her anything, she is the only one to be blamed for what […]

QUESTION: My husband and my in laws live in the same apartment but separate houses. Though I have a house, there is zero privacy. My mom in law backbites about me to my father in law and sister in law which creates a huge problem everyday. I ask my husband to take my to a house next street so there is some distance. But he denies saying he has to be available for his father

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

05 Nov

ANSWER: As long as he has given you a separate accommodation where nobody can enter without your permission, you are good! Ignore your in laws and what they say. If someone calls you a donkey, will you grow two ears and a tail?

QUESTION: What is the ruling of husband sharing to his parents/family regarding personal matter of his wife such as health problems, daily routines and places we go?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Sep

ANSWER: This is not permissible if the wife is not happy with that or agreeing to it.

QUESTION: I have a sister in law she has only been married to my brother for hectic 2.5 years and in those years she has made my mum suffer by making my brother constantly get angry at my mum. He will get his own home but he never wanted to leave home and made that clear when he got married but now has to due to his wife behaviour. please advise.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

19 Jul

ANSWER: He should have moved out right after he got married because Allah has given the right to women to ask their husbands for a separate accommodation after they get married. Better late than never! Let them live their lives without any intervention from the in laws.

QUESTION: Can a mother-in-law prevent her daughter-in-law from sleeping in the morning on weekends after offering Fajr solely because it is the household’s practice not to sleep in the morning? Also can she scold daughter in law for not doing things according to her rules. PS: The husband does not have any issue with his wife sleeping, only the mother in law gets angry over this.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

15 Jul

ANSWER: The mother in law has no such rights over her daughter in law. She should ignore her demands and be diplomatic and not argue with her but serve her husband and children as this is her obligation in Islam and not to obey her mother in law!

QUESTION: I am not happy in my husband’s family because of the issue between mother in law and me. The problem is my husband is the only son of his parents though they will not let us to leave to another house. what can i do with this situation in Islamic way

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

30 Jun

ANSWER: Don’t complain, tackle him with love and diplomacy and ask for a separate kitchen atleast and your own room where no one can enter without your permission so that you do not have to interact with your mother in law frequently. If he doesn’t and there is no way out of this, you have […]

QUESTION: Have a mother who interferes in my wife’s life excessively as to when to have a child what clothes she must wear and what time she must wake up. She doesn’t let my wife pick out clothes she likes for an event and always has a complain about how it is not nice. She also complains that my wife never served/cooked my side of the family. When she gives me too much pressure I come take it on my wife.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

28 May

ANSWER: Your wife does not have to serve her inlaws and has all the rights in the world to her privacy. You need to man up rather than take your mother’s complaints out on your wife! Your wife did not marry you so that you can be a momma’s boy rather she married you so […]

QUESTION: My mother in law doesn’t allow me to go to my mother’s home,she says what is the need to go again and again she only allows me 2 days a month but my husband doesn’t have any problem he allows me but his mother is shouting on him because she says without my permission you shouldn’t allow her and he can’t argue with his mother in this case I’m confused what to do

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

20 May

ANSWER: You don’t have to take her permission nor even inform her because she has no right, none whatsoever over you. What matters is your husband’s permission, if he’s OK with you going then go ahead without waiting for anyone else’s approval.

QUESTION: My marriage has almost 2 years and I am the only son of my parents. Due to some reasons my mom and my wife both relation are not enough so my wife demand a separate kitchen. For this reason when I discuss with my father he angry and said we are going from this house and submit us to old age house. Kindly please reply what should I have to do now ? Am I sinful ?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

13 May

ANSWER: Your wife has all the right given by Allah to ask you for a separate accommodation and you MUST give her her right!

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