Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

QUESTION: My father sends money to my grandmother, who’s happy in our home country. During her visit in early 2024, she showed dislike for my mother and caused tension, sometimes making my father angry with us. She took my sister’s toys without asking to give to my uncle’s son. Now, my father wants her to visit again, but my mother and I feel uncomfortable. Should we refuse?”

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

04 Oct

ANSWER: It’s his house and he can definitely bring his mother for a visit once in a while. Your mother should be thankful to Allah that she’s living separately from her in laws and not living in a joint family like millions of other women in the subcontinent

QUESTION: In my culture it’s like Haram and not respectful if a wife doesn’t cover her hair infront of her husband’s dad and If I don’t follow this will I get sins even tho islam says that a woman can show her hair to her father-in-law?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Women clothing

25 Jul

ANSWER: No problem in doing this if this is cultural and you do not believe this has anything to do with Islam especially when surrounded by ignorants who do not understand

QUESTION: Should a girl prove her virginity on her wedding night if the inlaws are demanding

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

19 Jul

ANSWER: Of course not!

QUESTION: My inlaws kept my gold with them for “safety purposes” and when I demanded my gold back they refused to give the part which my husband gifted me saying that he still owes some money to them and wouldn’t give me until it is paid. They say it is their right to possess whatever my husband owns. Am I sinful for asking it back?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Jul

ANSWER: You are not sinful at all! In fact they’re the sinful ones and doing zulm & oppression against you! You can take them to court and complain to the police if you wish as they don’t have any right in asking you to pay for your husband’s debt as this gold is yours and […]

QUESTION: My mother and wife had a huge fight and my wife’s parent got involved in the fight. Now my mother says if I do not divorce her. she will disown me and not give me anything from heritance. she also says that I should divorce my wife as it is part of obeying parents. what should I do sheikh?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Jun

ANSWER: I don’t know whether your wife is a righteous woman or not! If she checks all the boxes and you love her, you can’t obey your mother in divorcing her. What your mother is saying is totally wrong and against Islam! She has no right none whatsoever in asking you to give your wife […]

QUESTION: I am married and have my own accommodation. There have been times some immediate family members make comments about my wife or her parents to me saying they don’t do this right etc etc, how do I deal with this appropriately without my wife feeling uncomfortable visiting my parents house where they all live?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

04 Jun

ANSWER: If they are abusing your wife to her face and saying hurtful things, she must not visit them as she is not obliged to do so, especially if she doesn’t have a man who would stand up for her and protect her.

QUESTION: She is living with her in laws in jeddah and is not able to adjust with her mother-in-law. The MIL is constantly criticizing her including body shaming as the sister in law recently gave birth and has gained a few pounds. Her husband listens to his mom and hence he’s also started to body shame her after listening to his mom.

Character and Morals, Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

31 May

ANSWER: What they are doing is sinful and prohibited and only ignorant imbeciles do such things.

QUESTION: If you have given anything to your wife then it is important for husband to give the same to his sister..anything What are the rights of sister on brother… and they have equal rights as his wife?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family

29 May

ANSWER: This is totally baseless and not found in Islam

QUESTION: I live with my in laws and we have often visits from one of the siblings who I do not speak with and makes silly comments that makes me boil inside. I do not want to be influenced by these evil comments and let shaitan whisper. But at the same time I do not know what to do as I have no choice of who visits the home. I cannot be leaving home everytime they come in over. What to do please

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

22 May

ANSWER: When a bully says what he does, he wants to sadden you and aggravate you. If you allow this to happen, you would serve his purpose and make him happy. Instead, if you were to ignore his comments, not defend yourself nor reply or debate with him, this would kill them softly as they […]

QUESTION: My husband wants to bring his brother from overseas to live in our house where we live with our children, which means that when my husband goes to work I will end up at home alone with my children and his brother. Please advise.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

07 May

ANSWER: This is not permissible and you must not agree to that. He can arrange for his brother to live somewhere else!

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