Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

Am a doctor by profession presently not living with my in laws as we work out of the state.but whenever I think of living with them as they are old I get hurt because they sometimes taunt.i get so much hurt that I can’t be normal but Alhamdulillah I never misbehave.i never said a word back.i want to settle in Muslim country for my kid but my husband wants to stay with his fam

18 Jun

ANSWER: It’s not your duty at all to live with them or serve them. You have all the right to have a separate accommodation.

I have told my in-laws I don’t celebrate birthdays anymore but they took it the wrong way thinking I’m saying I’m getting older and it’s for kids. I went quiet as they don’t understand anything I say when it comes to Islam and they don’t like to be told. My mil said its ok to do kids birthdays. How do I deal with a situation like this?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

02 Jun

ANSWER: Don’t argue with them and let your husband explain it to them. Don’t participate with them in it.

I always get in to fight with my husband because of brother in law coming without any hasitation claiming his parents lives here i feel very abused in this matter , home respecting no women with in there is avery little privacy in home what would you say about it

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

24 Apr

ANSWER: You must always be fully covered whenever he comes and keep your room locked so that he doesn’t enter there and you know when he’s home, so that you be prepared and not come in contact with him unnecessarily. It is best to move out to a separate home where you can get your […]

how can a husband deal with a wife who abuse her mother’s husband infront of people and can they leave in different House coz the husband is unable to pay rent.until he gets a job

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

14 Apr

ANSWER: He must not allow his wife to abuse his mother! He must segregate them and live in different houses.

After marriage taking decisions like what to wear where to go isn’t allowed ?When my husband permits me something todo so the intervention of in laws is right?My in laws always said not to stay at your parents home and try to manipulate my husband 2.My husband’s very kindhearted,fearful person to Allah so he always took my side when needed.Tell me the ruling over their interference

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Apr

ANSWER: Your in laws have no right to interfere in your life at all. You’re only obliged to listen to your husband.

Currently I’m working abroad and i cannot afford to keep my family with me as i hv to settle some debts.my wife and 1 year old daughter was staying with my parents.my paraents have some issues with my wife and i asked her to stay in her house.but my parents is too attached with my daughter and wants them home,but in their mind they still dnt like my wife.i love my parents and wife. What should i do

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

12 Mar

ANSWER: Your wife must stay at her parents house while you are away and not at your parents house. She’s not obliged whatsoever to stay with your parents. Your wife can bring their granddaughter once in a while to visit or she can leave her there for a few hours, without your wife staying there, […]

if a wife do all duties2wards husband’s house,kids n his parents(to co oprate him),but if she shortcums in his parents duties,he scold n mistreat wife by saying that its not her responsibility but if she won’t do it properly,he leaves the job to serve his parents coz he earns for wife n kids n not get tym to serve parents,otgerwise wife is obliged to this duty in his behalf.how correct it is?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

12 Mar

ANSWER: This is totally wrong and unislamic. It is solely his duty to financially support you and your kids and your duty is to serve him and your children and take care of your house and not his parents or siblings. He can keep a maid for them. Kindly refer to the following link(s): https://youtu.be/NWK6kJcMytI […]

Im a …… married with …… man.its past 1 year and we are visiting my husband parents every weekend,we sleep here al the weekend,in ramadam we remain also 2 weeks.we stay more here then in our house.here i dont have pravicy, my 2 kids dont listen to me, im with hijabb frommorning till night.its normal we visit them so much even they are not sick?im.obligated to come with him every week?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

11 Mar

ANSWER: You’re not at all obligated to visit your in laws. Your husband can visit them on his own, without you.

I am visiting my in laws with my husband.My brother in law lives in the same house.I wear hijab&loose clothing and don’t approach him/ talk to him unless absolutely necessary(very rarely).Sometimes he asks me a question directly regarding kids or something else. Can/how can I answer back?my husband made it clear to his family he doesn’t like non mahram talking to me.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

28 Feb

ANSWER: You must not communicate with him especially when alone and you must abide by the full hijab in his presence.

ya shaykh if i dont obey my husband by agreeing to join his gathering with his cousin,cousins mother and his cousins wife at my house , he got extremely upset and went on a rant that i am not being cordial to his family. He even was about to smash something of mine out of anger. Please advise.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Mahram

04 Feb

ANSWER: If he requires you to mix with any of his male cousins, this is not permissible whatsoever as they are non mahram to you. You must not come in front of them nor mix with them. You have to hold your grounds, be diplomatic with your husband but not compromise your Islam. If he […]

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