Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

My brother is travelling to my country for a visit and is staying at my flat for a month. Is he allowed to stay at my flat? I live with my wife in a 2 bed flat. Our bedroom has an attached bathroom and my brother will have his. If I’m out for work and my brother happen to be at home, is he allowed to stay as long as he remain in his room?

10 Feb

ANSWER: It is not permissible at all for him to stay in the same apartment with your wife while you’re not home. https://youtu.be/OvPMHo5SGZ0

Does a man have equal financial duty towards his wife & children and widowed mother?My brother does not give monthly pocket money to my mother for her expenses (she lives alone).In case he buys (say) a flight ticket for my mother, he cuts that amount & then gives her the balance monthly pocket money. She has no income of her own.He however pays for his wife&kids as required/is not stingy with them

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

04 Feb

ANSWER: He is obliged to spend on his wife and children and will be held accountable if he doesn’t. He must serve his mother to the best of his ability is rewarded for whatever he spends on her, however, all of her children are equally required to do that. It seems he is trying to […]

My husband is going abroad for his office work. I am willing to stay at my parents home but my husband wants me to stay at my in laws place. There are constant disputes between me and in laws regarding very small issues. So i think its better to stay at my parents home. How to convince this to husband

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

02 Feb

ANSWER: It is not normal for you to stay with your in-laws in the absence of your husband especially if he has brothers as this would cause you to have to abide by the proper hijab 24/7. Tell him you would like to stay with your own parents until you can be together again.

My husband want me to ring a call to my sister in law every Friday some times I miss is it disobedient?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

02 Feb

ANSWER: No, this is not disobedience as you’re not obliged to maintain ties of kinship with your in laws. However, if you do this to please your husband, this is something that you would be rewarded for.

My in-laws have taken my gifts in their custody that were given to me by my family on my wedding. What should I do, i can’t tell them directly to give them back.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Feb

ANSWER: What they have done is absolutely prohibited and they have no right whatsoever in taking your gifts. Ask your husband to take them back from your in laws as these are your possessions and not anyone else’s. What they’re doing is absolute zulm. If your husband declines, you can address your parents and ask them […]

Is in-laws come under silatu rahim for woman? Is woman obliged to main relationship with parents and siblings of husband?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 Jan

ANSWER: No to both. They are not from among those Allah has ordered us to uphold ties of kinship with.

Im newly married,his mom tortured me in 1st mnth n his sisters got separated us,takes care of his mom.i live alone,in a 1bedroom house where i feel suffocated,my husband goes 40kms away to office,even if im sick theres nobody to take care,can i ask him to move near his office where he can visit in emergencies? Or am i sinning?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

06 Jan

ANSWER: If you mean you live alone and your husband lives with his mother, this is absolutely wrong. You must live with him. You’re not sinning at all as having a separate accommodation with your husband is your right.

I have conflicts with my mother in law. So we don’t talk to eachother on calls.But when we meet we talk nicely.Now she’s in other country &her brother died.Should i call her &console? As she didn’t called me one month ago when i gave birth.She even didn’t tell anyone that her son had another baby.This breaks my heart.I don’t want to call her but if islamically i should then i will.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Jan

ANSWER: You treat others by your caliber and not by theirs!

A Pakistani sister lives in Europe,she has no bonding with her in laws and they don’t like each other due to two reasons. 1.Her husband marry her without telling his family 2.she is religious and not participate in immoral activities of family. She doesn’t want that any of her in law member come in vacation to stay with her in her home. can she stop them tactfully islamically?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

30 Dec

ANSWER: How can she be a practicing woman if she doesn’t honor her guests? She should bear them for a few days if they come for a visit only, to please her husband, though this is not mandatory. There are millions of women who have to live with their in laws day in and day […]

She is mentally challenged and very abusive. I’ve been living with her since 6 months after my father in laws death. It’s been very tough for me and my life has been affected with the amount of verbal fighting going on 24/7. She gives us no privacy to go outside together even for 5 minutes. Can I ask my husband to move us separately in another house or is it wrong. He’s the only son she has.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

21 Nov

ANSWER: This is your right in Islam but I don’t know whether your husband will be able to do that. You need to totally ignore her verbal abuse as if she doesn’t exist! She unconsciously lives on making you stressed out and saying bad things or being impolite. If you manage to control yourself, never […]

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