QUESTION: She is living with her in laws in jeddah and is not able to adjust with her mother-in-law. The MIL is constantly criticizing her including body shaming as the sister in law recently gave birth and has gained a few pounds. Her husband listens to his mom and hence he’s also started to body shame her after listening to his mom.

Character and Morals, Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws
31 May

ANSWER: What they are doing is sinful and prohibited and only ignorant imbeciles do such things. 

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QUESTION: If you have given anything to your wife then it is important for husband to give the same to his sister..anything What are the rights of sister on brother… and they have equal rights as his wife?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family
29 May

ANSWER: This is totally baseless and not found in Islam

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QUESTION: I live with my in laws and we have often visits from one of the siblings who I do not speak with and makes silly comments that makes me boil inside. I do not want to be influenced by these evil comments and let shaitan whisper. But at the same time I do not know what to do as I have no choice of who visits the home. I cannot be leaving home everytime they come in over. What to do please

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws
22 May

ANSWER: When a bully says what he does, he wants to sadden you and aggravate you. If you allow this to happen, you would serve his purpose and make him happy. Instead, if you were to ignore his comments, not defend yourself nor reply or debate with him, this would kill them softly as they […]

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QUESTION: My husband wants to bring his brother from overseas to live in our house where we live with our children, which means that when my husband goes to work I will end up at home alone with my children and his brother. Please advise.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage
07 May

ANSWER: This is not permissible and you must not agree to that.  He can arrange for his brother to live somewhere else!

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QUESTION: I am married and live with my parents and sister. My sister is disabled. My father is partially blind. My mother has late stage cancer and a difficult person (always been abusive). My wife and Mom have issues. I have considered putting distance between my wife and Mom but my parents never accept any compromises (separate house, separate story). How can I give my wife her right of privacy?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses
10 Mar

ANSWER: She has all the right in Islam to ask you for a separate accommodation. Your parents have no say or right in this. You must fear Allah and give your wife her rights. If you cannot give her a separate house, you must give her a separate room, washroom and a place to cook […]

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QUESTION: Should a woman serve her MIL because her husband asks her to do it? Because he isn’t able to do it as he is busy with work. And he says things like “you must obey your husband in whatever he says, so please do it”

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses
08 Mar

ANSWER: No, he has no right in ordering the wife to serve his parents or family! Why doesn’t he order her to wash the cars of the neighbors as well? He can hire a maid for his mom. If the wife does it out of love for her husband, without any pressure from him then […]

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QUESTION: I don’t know what to do ,I’m married .. But my parents are asking me to study further and do job and sling me to be financially independent .. on other side my in-laws doesn’t like me studying.. even I’m not interested in further studies.. I’m in such a dilemma.. what should I do … How can I convince my parents??

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family
25 Feb

ANSWER: Simply ignore their demands without being disrespectful. Your parents and your in laws have nothing to do with your life. This is between you and your husband. Everyone else must mind their own business and stay out of your life. 

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QUESTION: I’m living abroad with my wife and son. My parents wants to visit us for 10 days, but my wife doesn’t like them coming as last time they came before 2 years and stayed for 3 months, there was misunderstanding between my wife and mother. As my mom keeps on nagging my wife even for small things. I’m stuck in between and don’t know what to do. Please advise

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage
23 Jan

ANSWER: Your wife should understand that these are your parents and that you love them and they can come and stay for a few days. It’s not as if she has to live with them forever! You have a right to host them for 10 days without her complaining and she can stay out of […]

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QUESTION: My husband and I live in *****, we are both working and got married last year. After marriage, he uses religion only to oppress me. His brother lives with us he tells me to stay in normal clothing and asks me to spend time with him, cook for him and treat him like a son. He is only 2 years younger to me. His parents are also very controlling and create issues if I don’t call them.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family
09 Jan

ANSWER: This is totally prohibited! You must put your foot down and never come in front of him like this and never be alone with him in the house. He is obliged to provide you with a separate house. If he doesn’t do that, you are better off leaving him before you conceive from him!

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QUESTION: How important is to stay in contact with in laws like sister in laws or brother in laws?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws
06 Jan

ANSWER: This has no importance at all as they are not your kinship.

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