Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

QUESTION: I live in my fathers home with my wife and intend to move out in the next couple of years. my father wants my wife to inform him before leaving the house, but my wife doesnt like that and says she will inform me only So i politely refused my fathers request. However my father is angry at me. am i sinful for not fulfilling demands of my father

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

30 Nov

ANSWER: Your father has no right, NONE WHATSOEVER on your wife or what she does and where she goes etc as long as she has your consent.

QUESTION: Every day when my husband returns from the office, his nother, his wife, and his daughter stand He first hugs his mother warmly,and love her then calls our daughter . He only says salam to me and goes upstairs. I wish he would meet me lovingly too, but in our culture it feels awkward. What is the Islamic guidance? Please advise how I should address this matter kindly and wisely”

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

25 Nov

ANSWER: This is quite childish of you! Ask yourself these questions: do you doubt that he loves you? Isn’t there a possibility that his mother might feel a bit jealous of you and this is why he is trying to avoid Satan from coming in the house, as it seems he is already in the […]

QUESTION: Is this hadees authentic. Question: Taking care of parents and taking care of in laws can give Jannah if they are unhappy you will go to jahannum. ( Even if in laws are abusive).

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

24 Sep

ANSWER: This is not true A woman is not obliged to serve or take care of her in laws and this is not her job or duty

QUESTION: Me and my wife are living in a joint family with my parents. They are very nice to her but very restrictive. We need their permission for things like going out or visiting my wifes parents etc. We want to live seperately but I cannot tell my parents this because they will get offended. Can I lie to them and tell that i got a job in a different state and would have to move there along with my wife.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Sep

ANSWER: You must not lie as this is haram in Islam. Try to get a real job and relocate and this way you won’t need to lie

QUESTION: My brother in law put his hand on my arm & tried 2 take my cell. I later told him not to slam my bedroom door. He said its his own home. Islamically, is a brothers home his home & his right to come? i dont trust him anymore as he denise grabbing my arm while i had a bruise. Should my husband defend me? or let it pass

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 Sep

ANSWER: No, its not his home, its his brother’s home and you must abide by the proper hijab around him at all times and must not mix with him whatsoever as he is non mahram to you, let alone touch you like this! You must escalate this with your husband and demand that he never […]

QUESTION: Can I ban my mother-in-law from visiting forever our house due to privacy invasion, comparison, judgment & dictation? Her visits ruin my mental peace, caused me depression. Is it possible to set boundaries, considering my Islamic rights? As islam tells man to give his wife her place.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Sep

ANSWER: You have no right in stopping her from visiting her son in HIS HOUSE! It’s not obligatory for you to maintain ties with her but if she visits her son once in a while then it shouldn’t be a problem. You can always leave the house and go to your parents if you don’t […]

QUESTION: I wanted to ask if it is islamically permissible to get married to a man that does not believe or follow shirk or dargah practices, but his parents do. His parents do not influence their practices on their son and assures that they will not impose their beliefs on their wife or future kids.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

14 Aug

ANSWER: No problem in marrying him if he is a practicing Muslim with correct aqeedah and he won’t live with his parents in a joint family system

QUESTION: After marriage, inlaws had a condition that wife have to give salam by bowing down and touching legs every occasion, Friday and pray accordingly to hanafi style. The wife is forced to do otherwise alot of anger problems arouse in the house if she doesn’t do it. Deep in her heart she knows this is wrong and cries out to Allah every night. What can she do in this

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Innovations

02 Aug

ANSWER: She must stand her grounds and not compromise her beliefs. She should also demand form her husband a segregated separate home where she is not forced to meet up with her in laws and face such situations.

QUESTION: Last year my MIL throw me out of her house. My husband and I used to live in my parents house and then my husband moves abroad for job.. I am still living here now my MIL got operated and my husband ask me to meet her I said no and reminds him that what she did to me. Now he is not talking to me,disrespects my parents.Involve my relatives. What should I do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

23 Jun

ANSWER: You should go & visit her to honor your husband & to save your marriage! It’s not that he’s asking you to go live with your in laws. Visiting the sick is also from the sunnah and you will be rewarded for it. If all of this doesn’t appeal to you, you can ask […]

QUESTION: My wife’s family practices non-Sunnah rituals like Khatam on the 3rd, 7th, 40th day and yearly for the deceased, and seek help from Hazrats against evil. I avoid these as they aren’t from Quran or Sunnah. They call me Wahabi or extreme. I stay respectful, attend normal visits, and my wife supports me. Am I wrong for avoid their invitations?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Innovations, Sects, Shirk and its different forms

18 May

ANSWER: No, you’re not wrong! In fact, what you’re doing is what needs to be done. Your wife shouldn’t also go to such gatherings. Calling the dead for protection is shirk.

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