Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

QUESTION: My brother in law put his hand on my arm & tried 2 take my cell. I later told him not to slam my bedroom door. He said its his own home. Islamically, is a brothers home his home & his right to come? i dont trust him anymore as he denise grabbing my arm while i had a bruise. Should my husband defend me? or let it pass

08 Sep

ANSWER: No, its not his home, its his brother’s home and you must abide by the proper hijab around him at all times and must not mix with him whatsoever as he is non mahram to you, let alone touch you like this! You must escalate this with your husband and demand that he never […]

QUESTION: Can I ban my mother-in-law from visiting forever our house due to privacy invasion, comparison, judgment & dictation? Her visits ruin my mental peace, caused me depression. Is it possible to set boundaries, considering my Islamic rights? As islam tells man to give his wife her place.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Sep

ANSWER: You have no right in stopping her from visiting her son in HIS HOUSE! It’s not obligatory for you to maintain ties with her but if she visits her son once in a while then it shouldn’t be a problem. You can always leave the house and go to your parents if you don’t […]

QUESTION: I wanted to ask if it is islamically permissible to get married to a man that does not believe or follow shirk or dargah practices, but his parents do. His parents do not influence their practices on their son and assures that they will not impose their beliefs on their wife or future kids.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

14 Aug

ANSWER: No problem in marrying him if he is a practicing Muslim with correct aqeedah and he won’t live with his parents in a joint family system

QUESTION: After marriage, inlaws had a condition that wife have to give salam by bowing down and touching legs every occasion, Friday and pray accordingly to hanafi style. The wife is forced to do otherwise alot of anger problems arouse in the house if she doesn’t do it. Deep in her heart she knows this is wrong and cries out to Allah every night. What can she do in this

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Innovations

02 Aug

ANSWER: She must stand her grounds and not compromise her beliefs. She should also demand form her husband a segregated separate home where she is not forced to meet up with her in laws and face such situations.

QUESTION: Last year my MIL throw me out of her house. My husband and I used to live in my parents house and then my husband moves abroad for job.. I am still living here now my MIL got operated and my husband ask me to meet her I said no and reminds him that what she did to me. Now he is not talking to me,disrespects my parents.Involve my relatives. What should I do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

23 Jun

ANSWER: You should go & visit her to honor your husband & to save your marriage! It’s not that he’s asking you to go live with your in laws. Visiting the sick is also from the sunnah and you will be rewarded for it. If all of this doesn’t appeal to you, you can ask […]

QUESTION: My wife’s family practices non-Sunnah rituals like Khatam on the 3rd, 7th, 40th day and yearly for the deceased, and seek help from Hazrats against evil. I avoid these as they aren’t from Quran or Sunnah. They call me Wahabi or extreme. I stay respectful, attend normal visits, and my wife supports me. Am I wrong for avoid their invitations?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Innovations, Sects, Shirk and its different forms

18 May

ANSWER: No, you’re not wrong! In fact, what you’re doing is what needs to be done. Your wife shouldn’t also go to such gatherings. Calling the dead for protection is shirk.

QUESTION: “I am living with my narcissistic mother-in-law. Her husband has passed away, and she has three sons. I am the wife of her youngest son. She does not give my husband and me our own space and takes care of him as if I do not exist. I feel unworthy and stressed. What are the Islamic rulings on this?”

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

20 Mar

ANSWER: There are two ways to describe a glass that has water to the middle of it. Either you say it is half full or you say it is hall empty! Both descriptions are correct but it depends whether you are an optimistic or pessimistic! If you are supposed to work x amount of hours […]

QUESTION: My mother-in-law often doesn’t pick up my calls or return them. Recently, she was busy with shifting, so I asked her to call me back when free, but she hasn’t. She is also rude. My husband insists I call her again, saying the marriage can’t proceed without it. I’m tired, and it’s affecting my self-respect. What should I do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

25 Jan

ANSWER: Islamicly, you don’t have to call her nor obey him! Technically, if this would lead to divorce, it is your preference whether you decide to draw the line and show him that you are not going to do this anymore unless she pays attention as well and calls back or you want to preserve […]

QUESTION: My husband doesn’t like me to call my sisters or them to call me. He is saying they are no longer my siblings and his siblings are now my relatives. He is telling me once in every week go to his parents to stay. I do not like this. Am i sinful if i refuse to go to my inlaws every week?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

19 Dec

ANSWER: No, you’re not sinful for not wanting to go! He’s totally wrong in demanding this from you as they’re not your relatives (kinship)! Your own siblings are your siblings for life and nothing can change this and his siblings or parents can’t be compared to yours!

QUESTION: There is a marriage proposal for me. He is a good guy, a practicing Muslim, and has good knowledge about Dee. The problem is, our parents want videography for our wedding, but I don’t. Even though the guy knows about it, he didn’t take any step. He said, “I don’t know anything. It’s all up to my family. Whatever they want to do, they will.” What should I do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

16 Oct

ANSWER: You must put your foot down and do not agree to this. If he is as practicing as you say, he should man up and talk to his parents rather than being a mommas boy! Such a negative attitude about what is halal and haram should give you a preview of how life would […]

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