Kind Treatment of Spouses

I don’t like to get close with my husband.i hate when he gets close to me.but I don’t want that to happen. I try my best but it happens.but I do full fill his desires though I don’t want.what to do sheikh .please give me some advise

19 Jun

ANSWER: This is not enough! His rights over you are far greater than this and he is your gateway to paradise. Pleasing him is part of pleasing Allah. If you can’t be happy with him, fake it as if you are happy and pleased with him for the sake of Allah.

My wife compares her right with my parents.If I say no to something or will give when able,she disrespectfully tells me so many hurtful words just like a grownup.I try to explain her politely,but she doesn’t stop.She later says sorry when I stop talking to her.If I complain to her or my parents,they say that she is like a little girl,it will be ok.Kindly advise.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

18 Jun

ANSWER: Why would you complain to your parents about your wife? This will only cause them to hate her in the future despite whether you two kiss and make up! Be a man and conceal your marital affairs from the rest of the world. A wife has her rights and the parents have theirs. They […]

I often find my husband seeing pics of other women like actresses he also sees adult movies now I am facing three big issues he is pushing me to have intercourse the haram way. I have let music long ago but he keeps playing it and also includes our children. He also takes riba from bank. He is a very nice man n he has always fulfilled my rights but it’s such things that are destroying my marriage

Kind Treatment of Spouses

11 Jun

ANSWER: Keep reminding him in the best way to give up watching pornography and also to stop indulging in Riba. Once you have warned him about the dangers of such a deed, your responsibility ends, don’t worry about him agreeing or not agreeing to give it up, as he is responsible for his acts but […]

And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them;does this apply to both husband and wife or is it only for husband?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

11 Jun

ANSWER: Both.

My question is if one’s parents give money n jewellery to their daughter on their wedding m after on any occasion like eidi on eid etc, so husband have right on the wifes money because in pakistan men this if we not work its ok wife money is their money to spend on their family.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

30 May

ANSWER: The money and gifts that are given to a woman are her own possessions and her husband has no right on these whatsoever. She should take it and put it in a safe deposit box in a bank.

I live in my mother’s house and recently wed, my husband lives on the opposite coast but will be moving here soon Insha’Allah and into my mom’s house with me. She will still be the owner of the house and main provider even when he gets a job here so I was wondering would I need to get his permission whenever I leave the house?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

20 May

ANSWER: Yes.

Im the only son of my parents who are aged and sick. Before marriage,i said to wife that im looking for someone who will stay with me and my parents and she agreed then. i have no other brothers, no issues of non mahram here.now she is asking for her own house, and as Im not agreeing to this, she is now looking for divorce. Will knowingly not giving her right of house break my imaan?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 May

ANSWER: If this was made clear to her and she had agreed, you are not sinful in Sha Allah. If this agreement was not stipulated in the marriage contract then you should provide her separate accommodation near your parents house so that you can go to your parents everyday and serve them. Keep a 24/7 […]

Does Islamic law (sharia law ) allows me to keep both wife’s in same house , but different rooms , as I can’t afford another house , but a separate room is possible. Kindly suggest me the book where I can refer this law.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

28 Apr

ANSWER: This is only permissible if both wives agree. Each wife’s right is to have her own accommodation where no one shares it with her, with a bedroom, kitchen and a bathroom.

sheikh.i am married for 6years.My husband has 3brothers out of which 2 works and 1 is jobless.He daily takes their tension,their kids tension.So the main thing is due to tension and he took responsibility of everyone he is not having physical relation with me.I tell him balance both work give me also my Haqq but he say i have lot of work and ignores me and yell at me.what can i do?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Apr

ANSWER: You must never try to stop him from giving money to his family and try to advise him with good manners and wisdom without nagging him as this will only make him feel more under pressure. Try to lure him by smelling and looking appealing for him at all times and create a positive […]

My husband complain so much about me. I know am not perfect and make mistakes but am getting fed up with all d negative comments every day . I cant say anything back, he goes ballistic. How do I remain patient with his complain every single day? If i want to correct he thinks am arguing. Shall I just allow him to think wrongly of me and not say a single word to correct it? I don’t always corret him

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Apr

ANSWER: Just ignore his negative comments and never argue with him if you want to save your marriage. Do this for the sake of Allah and you will rewarded for it and you will have the peace of mind as he will get tired of not getting a negative response from you and will eventually […]

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