Kind Treatment of Spouses

My question is if one’s parents give money n jewellery to their daughter on their wedding m after on any occasion like eidi on eid etc, so husband have right on the wifes money because in pakistan men this if we not work its ok wife money is their money to spend on their family.

30 May

ANSWER: The money and gifts that are given to a woman are her own possessions and her husband has no right on these whatsoever. She should take it and put it in a safe deposit box in a bank.

I live in my mother’s house and recently wed, my husband lives on the opposite coast but will be moving here soon Insha’Allah and into my mom’s house with me. She will still be the owner of the house and main provider even when he gets a job here so I was wondering would I need to get his permission whenever I leave the house?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

20 May

ANSWER: Yes.

Im the only son of my parents who are aged and sick. Before marriage,i said to wife that im looking for someone who will stay with me and my parents and she agreed then. i have no other brothers, no issues of non mahram here.now she is asking for her own house, and as Im not agreeing to this, she is now looking for divorce. Will knowingly not giving her right of house break my imaan?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 May

ANSWER: If this was made clear to her and she had agreed, you are not sinful in Sha Allah. If this agreement was not stipulated in the marriage contract then you should provide her separate accommodation near your parents house so that you can go to your parents everyday and serve them. Keep a 24/7 […]

Does Islamic law (sharia law ) allows me to keep both wife’s in same house , but different rooms , as I can’t afford another house , but a separate room is possible. Kindly suggest me the book where I can refer this law.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

28 Apr

ANSWER: This is only permissible if both wives agree. Each wife’s right is to have her own accommodation where no one shares it with her, with a bedroom, kitchen and a bathroom.

sheikh.i am married for 6years.My husband has 3brothers out of which 2 works and 1 is jobless.He daily takes their tension,their kids tension.So the main thing is due to tension and he took responsibility of everyone he is not having physical relation with me.I tell him balance both work give me also my Haqq but he say i have lot of work and ignores me and yell at me.what can i do?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Apr

ANSWER: You must never try to stop him from giving money to his family and try to advise him with good manners and wisdom without nagging him as this will only make him feel more under pressure. Try to lure him by smelling and looking appealing for him at all times and create a positive […]

My husband complain so much about me. I know am not perfect and make mistakes but am getting fed up with all d negative comments every day . I cant say anything back, he goes ballistic. How do I remain patient with his complain every single day? If i want to correct he thinks am arguing. Shall I just allow him to think wrongly of me and not say a single word to correct it? I don’t always corret him

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Apr

ANSWER: Just ignore his negative comments and never argue with him if you want to save your marriage. Do this for the sake of Allah and you will rewarded for it and you will have the peace of mind as he will get tired of not getting a negative response from you and will eventually […]

My husband is a wonderful man who prays regularly. But his sleep is deep and sometimes it’s difficult to wake him up for prayers. How much responsibility is it on me to keep trying? Should I keep trying? Please let me know. I really struggle with this.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Apr

ANSWER: You must just wake him up once or twice and if he doesn’t wake up even after that then the sin is on him as you had done your job.

As a house wife i tend to save aome money from monthly house expense n over the period Alhamdolillah i have saved enough but I would like to invest this money so that my money can grow and the easiest i find is fixed deposit but the shariah doesn’t allow, so please can you guide where can I invest according to sunnah.

Halal/Haram Matters, Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Mar

ANSWER: It is prohibited to save from the monthly house expenses that your husband gives to you without his permission. If he gives this as a gift for you to utilize as you please as if it is pocket money, then you can save that and do with it what you like. But if he […]

My husband is paying interest on cards and doesn’t make full payments or doesnt pay at all. He keeps lying to me and has lost his trust. He can pay off but he keeps spending too much on his siblings. I talked to him abt interest but he said its between Allah and him. Should i ignore everything he does wrong? Its bothering me a lot. His siblings are misuing him they make$$

Kind Treatment of Spouses

07 Mar

ANSWER: It is his money and his problem. You did your job of reminding him about interest money, now the sin is on him. You can keep reminding once in a while but you must not nag him and it looks like you’re more bothered about him spending money on his family rather than the […]

My question is that can a wife should always obey her husband’s command ? If he wants that his wife won’t talk to her family members then what should a wife do? Further if he says choose any one either your family or me then what should she do ?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

01 Feb

ANSWER: She is not obliged to obey him in severing her kinship. If he orders her to not talk to her family, he is sinful for this and she may talk to her parents or mahrams behind his back. If he is not a good man to be married to and her Iman is decreasing […]

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