Kind Treatment of Spouses

Sheikh if my husband wants to be intimate and i reject him politely for any reason, and he is okay with it would i still be sinful and cursed by angels? even though he says its fine?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

20 Jul

ANSWER: If he is fine with it, you are not sinful. Praise be to Allaah. If a woman refuses her husband’s request to come to bed with no Islamically-sound reason (such as sickness, or his being drunk, for example), what happens is as described below: Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The […]

Not daily, but just once after a very tired day, if I ask my husband to massage my feet, am I being disrespectful to him or degrading him? Is it allowed in Islam? Or am I sinful for asking such favors? I have this doubt because of the high status Islam has given a husband over a wife.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Jun

ANSWER: No problem in massaging the feet of a spouse.

My husband never shows love, or laughs with me or share any moments as a couple. When he feels like he wants to have sex only then comes to me. Fights are very common. smallest things are blown out of proportion. married for nine years now. I have given up. My heart, shaitaan is lurking it. I am looking for that love, attention, kindness from elsewhere. am scared of sinning. But I feel so empty.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

03 May

ANSWER: You need to be more realistic and logical! If he is providing for you and he is respectful and tries to make you happy but fails to express his feelings or to say love words for you, this is what most men are alike! You must not be ungrateful to Allah and wanting to […]

My husband doesn’t know the duas that we does in salat and he always perform 5 salats on time. When I came to know about this I asked him to study duas and also he doesn’t know ayat ul Kursi etc .Some times we had fight on this topic .I asked him to study and he behaves like he is doing it Only for me and he is not ready to study this but I still forces him .What can i do now ?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Knowledge & Propagation

30 Apr

ANSWER: You are not his mother! You must not force him in learning duaa that are not mandatory. You can only advise him when he is in good mood as such person might get away from what they are already following. Find out some other ways diplomatically to recite in front of him so that his […]

Sheikh, my husband left me and our kids for almost 3years, no words from him or his family. Then he came back later and said he was sorry, though his mother never wanted us to be married, she controls him and now he said he wants us to be a family again, and my parents have said they are no more in support of the marriage that I should seek divorce frm him and he refuse.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

03 Apr

ANSWER: If he didn’t divorce you yet, you are still his wife. He is obliged to give you the back pay of the past 3 years for your maintenance and child support of your children. After he does this, you can discuss whether you want to continue in this marriage or not! You need to […]

Sheikh Me & My husband have a very good understanding & my husband stays in UAE and I was too with him der but my in laws called us back and they now want me to stay in India with them and telling my husband to go back after marriage they kept us away for 1year.My husband doesn’t take a stand against it and he obeys his parents even in their wrong decision he thinks disobeying them would be sinful

Kind Treatment of Spouses

24 Mar

ANSWER: It would be oppression on you if he were to leave you with them while abroad! He can’t be obeying the parents when it comes to taking your rights away. He should man up and tell the parents that either you go with him wherever he goes or you stay with your parents till […]

My husband says that if you want to keep me happy for my sake you have to serve my mother as i say, as it’s Allah’s command to keep husband happy and also he is providing me food house etc. So it’s my turn to repay him.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Mar

ANSWER: It is not your obligation to make his mother happy. If you do that out of your own good will, this is rewardable and a good deed. He can’t expect you to do things that are not obliged upon you just to make him happy! If he is happy if you don’t open your […]

My mother curse me all the time if i don’t listen 2 her like to let her control my marriage. She ordered me not to take my wife to shopping or to give her money even to extend i should not let to her talk to her own parents. And i don’t do as she command She start cursing and start saying i will go to hell to not to obey her and she says there is blssng in mothrs cursing. Is it true?

Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Mar

ANSWER: Your mother is transgressing against your wife and she has no power or control over her. It is obvious she wants to enslave her. If you are a real man, you should protect your wife from such aggression and pay no attention to what your mother is ordering you to do, while being respectful […]

I am a woman in polygamy the last wife of 3 wives. I recently got married and didn’t know my husband is struggling financially. I’m responsible for my upkeep 100% and do give my husband money from time to time. I have some savings and willing to forfeit them for him to pursue a new career which in sha Allah will benefit us all. However, I’m scared of what the future would be.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

19 Feb

ANSWER: You are not obliged to spend on yourself, let alone your husband! It is his responsibility to look after you and not vice versa. With wives like you, he wouldn’t have to work as long as he has “sugar mommy”!

Married for 14 yrs.Husb gave nafkah only for 1st year of marriage&stop till today.Reminded him its a must to give wife nafkah but he didn’t care.He went for counselling with an ustadz but still refuses to give nafkah.I’ve been working 14 years&all my money is used to help him with kids&financial.Once in 3 months I’ll take abit from my salary to buy my necessaties.What should I do?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Feb

ANSWER: You must not spend anything. You must not give any money to your husband. It is his responsibility to take care of you and to provide for you and your children. You can take him to court if he has money and refuses to give.

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