Kind Treatment of Spouses

How to advice a spouse who follows culture more than islam? And when you do try to explain they get verbally abusive, and don’t want to listen..

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Knowledge & Propagation

03 Jun

ANSWER: By advising them and reminding them of Allah and the ruling from the Quran and sunnah when they are willing to listen and by choosing the right times.

My husband doesn’t like me to have hobbies. He allowed me gardening 2 hours a day, but even so he reproaches me for that, as he says house in not tidy enough for his likings. He demands ideal house, everything even in drawers arranged in perfect way, as he is perfectionist. And I am not, I keep house clean, but not ideal. Am I allowed in Islam to have 2 hrs gardening even if house is not perfect?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

02 Jun

ANSWER: Such things are not clear black and white as you are supposed to have what is normally accepted in the society as a clean and tidy house. You are not obliged to make it in an obsessed way like he wants you to. Try to be diplomatic and demand from him as well things […]

About Divorce and second marriage: Sheikh, If a man love a woman and wanted to marry her but his parents not allowed him to get marry to that woman and forced him to get marry with other woman. So that he left that woman whom he love and get married other woman and after few months he feels not attracted by his wife and he wanted to go back to that woman whom he loved, so in this situation what he have to do?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

29 May

ANSWER: He should have been Man enough to put his foot down and tell his parents that he won’t marry this girl. Now after getting married, he has ruined that poor girl’s life! If she is a good practicing muslimah then he should try and make things work as getting married and divorcing is not […]

I live with my in laws and they want me to spend much of my time with them even when i don’t want to or i want to do something else also my husband want me to ask permission from my mother in law that whether i go to my parents home and other matters etc and my husband also don’t give me a separate kitchen even i want it i wanna know are they sinful to do such things and interfere in my life

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

22 May

ANSWER: They have no such rights, none whatsoever and they’re definitely sinful for this transgression! You have all the right in Islam to ask your husband for a separate accommodation. Your in laws have no say or right in this. He must fear Allah and give you your rights. If he cannot give you a […]

I heard a shaikh saying that umar ra said to someone he knows that he should be atleast be with his wife the fourth day. The other three days before he is praying and islamic things but he should atleast be with his wife the fourth day. Is this correct. If so where is the hadith? Or a ijtihad

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Jan

ANSWER: This is not a hadith. There is no specific time mentioned in the Quran or the sunnah for intimacy between husband and wife.

My husband who is naturally short tempered blackmails me on going for a second marriage every time I do some mistake (even very little ones) . It really hurts me and I can’t show same love to him. I pray Allah for patience and continue to love him for sake of Allah. Is this type of behavior permissible for men just because Allah had made it halal to have 4 wives?

Etiquette, Morals and Heart-Softeners, Kind Treatment of Spouses

30 Dec

ANSWER: He is sinful for hurting your feelings like this and he is an ignorant imbecile. Abusive people want to depress you or at least to make you say a negative remark or response to what they had said. When you ignore them, not defend yourself and not argue with them, this kills them and […]

Sir in india when a women is about to deliver child,her husband sends her to her parents for delivery and he doesn’t pay for anything,all the hospital and delivery expenses should be paid by her parents,if they dnt then they force them by threats of divorce and says its their responsibility as its cultural ,plz tell me isnt it the responsibility of a man to pay for his childs birth and delivery

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Dec

ANSWER: This is totally prohibited as this is the responsibility of the child’s father. Her parents shouldn’t pay anything. However, it is unfortunate that many husbands in India are not real men!

If the husband asks for my social media passwords,can I request him not to burden me like this?Since i might have conversations with my family that I don’t want him to know,and accidents(like he is angry and posts something bad on my Facebook for which i lose my reputation)rather can i say that if he suspects i will show him at the moment in front of me if i am suspicious?

Halal/Haram Matters, Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Dec

ANSWER: He has no right in asking you for your passwords!

I recently got married and we had a son. My parents had a fight with my wife and now she doesn’t live with us anymore. My parents won’t let me see any of them. I didn’t even give her a chance to explain herself. What should I do? I can’t disobey my parents.

Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

07 Dec

ANSWER: You were mistaken to get married in the first place as you were not fit for that! Marriage is only suitable and permissible for real men who would care, protect and fro vide security for their wives and be their rock. Mommy’s boy can’t do that! No man would ever say: my parents won’t […]

Does a husband have the right to force wife to take care of his family members saying wife is obliged to listen to husband so if a husband says to serve his family she must serve.But she says she honors his family but she don’t want to serve them, she tells the husband to appoint a service giver for his parents as he has no right to force her in this.Who is right?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

26 Nov

ANSWER: The husband has no right whatsoever to force his wife to serve his parents. If he asks her to stand on one foot or to cook food for the whole neighbourhood, is she obliged to obey him? Of course not! My motherinlaw is bing vry aggressive and vile towards me, I’m not allowd to […]

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