Kind Treatment of Spouses

QUESTION: This summer my dad got me in an arranged marriage and didn’t ask for my permission and I’m not happy with this marriage in fact I like someone else and he’s on deen I haven’t spoken to him before as I want to do it the halal way but now that I’m marred off without my convent can I still pray for his to make the other man my Naseeb?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

23 Nov

ANSWER: This is totally prohibited and decent married women don’t think about other men, lest alone pray to be with them! You had a chance to say no to the marriage but you chose not to so you must give your 100% to this marriage and make your husband happy if you want Allah to […]

QUESTION: Is it important for men also to ask his wife before going anywhere?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Fiqh of Marriage

13 Nov

ANSWER: No. He is not obliged to ask for her permission or to even tell her. However, it is part of being a good husband to tell her or inform her so that her mind would be at ease.

QUESTION: I got married without liking the girl, for the sake of my parents. Its been more than 7 months but i still can’t have the feelings I should have for her. Im just married to her mostly for the sake of my parents, society and i fear that if i leave her, her life would be ruined. Should i still be with her if i dont find peace and comfort with her?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Fiqh of Marriage

07 Nov

ANSWER: You had already ruined her life when you married her in the first place without being able to act like a man and refuse. You must look at the good attributes in her and appreciate her for who she is instead of being focused on leaving her and justifying this with lame excuses!

QUESTION: Can someone curse her husband for doing injustice to his wife? Such as divorcing her because she doesn’t look pretty? Although He saw her before marriage & very much interested about her. Just after 2 days of marriage he told her she’s not pretty & he doesn’t want to be in this marriage. The girl is totally devastated & broken. Doesn’t know what to do . This man just ruined her life & her family.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

31 Oct

ANSWER: She shouldn’t weep over such an ignorant imbecile, rather she should be grateful that Allah has saved her from continuing to be married to him and that she had separated from him before having any children.

QUESTION: What is the ruling of husband sharing to his parents/family regarding personal matter of his wife such as health problems, daily routines and places we go?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

25 Sep

ANSWER: This is not permissible if the wife is not happy with that or agreeing to it.

QUESTION: My husband doesn’t do any job and want me to work outside and do household chores and doesn’t even want kid because of the responsibility of it …meanwhile he is loving towards me but put responsibility of his mother on me also.. should I keep patience and continue my marriage and pray from Allah for better days or leave him right now as this is effecting me mentally all the time?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Sep

ANSWER: You are not obliged to work outside the house or even take care of his mother. Providing for the house is the man’s responsibility, not the other way around. Be firm and adamant about staying at home and make him man up. You must weigh the pros and cons of leaving him wisely and […]

QUESTION: In sub-continent mostly people say that the husband is a virtual god in urdu (مجازی خدا) is it right to say this.

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Innovations

08 Sep

ANSWER: This is totally prohibited!

QUESTION: I have a sister in law she has only been married to my brother for hectic 2.5 years and in those years she has made my mum suffer by making my brother constantly get angry at my mum. He will get his own home but he never wanted to leave home and made that clear when he got married but now has to due to his wife behaviour. please advise.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

19 Jul

ANSWER: He should have moved out right after he got married because Allah has given the right to women to ask their husbands for a separate accommodation after they get married. Better late than never! Let them live their lives without any intervention from the in laws.

QUESTION: Till 7 years my husband gave the zakath as i don’t work and he himself opted to do so . Also once when he was unable to pay it i sold some jewelry and paid the zakath. Now last year i gave most of my jewelry back to my parents saying i don’t need it and i want to return it back . When he learned about this he said either give me the zakath amount of all those years or the gold .

Zakat, Kind Treatment of Spouses

11 Jul

ANSWER: He has no right in asking for such a thing as he paid it as a gift and not as a loan. The prophet salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said: the one who goes back on his gift is like a dog that vomits and then eats back its own vomit!

QUESTION: My husband says his Only responsibility is to earn. Is that true? He doesn’t help me in any way. Me or kids I’ll not his concern, he goes out and chill with friends but demands me to fulfill whatever he orders. Is that true that I’ve to obey him ANYWAY?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

24 Jun

ANSWER: What he is doing is totally wrong as he is responsible for his children and his wife in other means than financial provision! It is his responsibility to teach them all about Islam and to raise them up to be good individuals in their communities. The wife can also claim that her responsibility is […]

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