ANSWER:
Such things are not clear black and white as you are supposed to have what is normally accepted in the society as a clean and tidy house. You are not obliged to make it in an obsessed way like he wants you to.
Try to be diplomatic and demand from him as well things that required from a husband as a perfectionist to give him a taste of his own medicine such as a day out for the family, couple of hours every day quality time with you and the children, certain things needed in the house that require money which may place some pressure on him until he feels the heat which he is imposing upon you as well so that he can give you a break.