Fiqh of the family

QUESTION: I’m a 28yo male (un employed) I stay with my parents. Can my mom do laundry, bedding and cooking for me or should I do on my own? I mean like is it her responsibility or mine. I depend on her cooking and laundry bcoz I don’t know about them & I depend on her for bedding and cleaning my utensils cuz I’m lazy & also i think that it’s her job.

17 Feb

ANSWER: If you are unemployed and not contributing anything in the house then you should help out around the house instead of being a burden on her.

QUESTION: Been married to my husband for 5 years and have 1 small daughter. In laws keep on telling vulgar things about my family. They never can accept my husband having good relation with them. My mother in law is the main person to use my father in law as a weapon to always trigger my husband. Son has stopped contact with them for our peace orelse they just make everything worse. What should I do ?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

06 Feb

ANSWER: He is sinful for not contacting them. He should go and be dutiful and respectful to them but must not reply to their abuse or defend you or your family. Let them talk as if they are crazy talking to themselves without replying to them.

QUESTION: My husband has committed a sin with another women. I dont feel towards him like I use to. We’ve been married for 7yrs. It’s been over one year that my heart can’t accept him. I have tried but I don’t know what to do.

Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

29 Jan

ANSWER: If he has sincerely repented to Allah from this sin and apologised to you and if he’s a changed man now then you must give him a fair chance and put those days behind and make your home a safe haven for him to come back to. Allah the almighty forgives sins, don’t you […]

QUESTION: Sheikh my elder brother wears tawiz from his childhood so can i remove it.

Fiqh of the family, Knowledge & Propagation, Shirk and its different forms

28 Jan

ANSWER: You can give him dawah diplomatically, with wisdom, knowledge and fair preaching but you cannot forcefully take it out as its not your right.

QUESTION: When my parents come to visit me and my children my wife misbehaves with them and fights with me afterwards saying that my parents have no right to come in my house. My parents live in their own house normally. I know that my wife has the right to a separate house in Islam but can she refuse to allow my parents to come to my house for a visit also?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family

26 Jan

ANSWER: She has no right to stop them from visiting you in your house as this is your house! She can object to them living there but not to visiting you!

QUESTION: Sheikh my 20 year old younger brother is very rude to my mother. I tried to speak to him gently but he keeps doing it. I tried to be patient but it’s very difficult when it occurs often. Islamically speaking would I be rewarded if I use violence to defend my mother and teach him a lesson or would I be sinful?

Fiqh of the family

25 Jan

ANSWER: Beating him up has two consequences, either you will give him a good beating which may injure him or lead to him reporting you to the police or he would give you a good wiping which will break you and humiliate you till the rest of your life. You should talk this over with […]

QUESTION: Sheikh my question is regarding house chores.if one person is doing their part but other person(lets say2sisters)is not fulfilling her part on regular basis, then what does islam says about it, specially even if u mention it to them but they don’t bother and causing stress and u both knows u can’t even go somewhere else. Then what can be done about it ? How to deal with it?

Fiqh of the family

12 Jan

ANSWER: Father must interfere and order them to do their chores. If there is no father or mother in the house to order them, do your chores and leave theirs until they come to an understanding that they must cooperate. You can also stop doing your chores and live in the house serving only yourself, […]

QUESTION: Shiekh, My father want to me to do all his bank works as he didnt have much time , He tell me to do a fixed deposit of xyz amount , invest in Sip, ppf etc. I tell him so many times that dealing in riba is like engaging in war with Allah but he ignores me what to do should i listen to him?

Fiqh of the family, Halal/Haram Matters, Riba

01 Jan

ANSWER: You must not obey him in this regard as there is no pleasing or obedience to anyone at the cost of displeasing and disobedience to Allah. Try to be diplomatic and explain to him that you love him and you would do anything for him but you can’t disobey Allah.

QUESTION: I am forced to go to a Madarasah (Islāmic school) which follows the Naqshbandī/Sufīyyah with Bid’ah everywhere. Is it permissible for me to just take Hifz and Fiqh or I should resist my mother that she will become very angry MIGHT (possibility) boyycot me via talking. Not leaving me.

Fiqh of the family, Sects

30 Dec

ANSWER: You must not go there at all as they have corrupt aqeedah and shirk. There is no pleasing or obedience to anyone at the cost of displeasing and disobedience to Allah.

QUESTION: Sheikh.. I want to ask what should one do when his/her parents always keep comparing them to other children or even compare a girl child with a boy cause this leads to such a toxic heartbreak..?

Fiqh of the family, Psychological Problems

28 Dec

ANSWER: A righteous child is not concerned by such remarks because he is doing what he is doing for the sake of Allah and he anticipates the reward from Him alone. He pardons his parents due to their ignorance and he continues to give them unconditional love even if they are ungrateful. He doesn’t show […]

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