Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

Can i do salaam to my non mahram cousins Who are bigger than me ?

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Mahram

10 Jul

ANSWER: No problem in giving Salam when your mahram is around in the same room. But you must not chit-chat or hang around there.

My grandparents and my father’s side relatives dont like me, my brother and my mother too.so what are our duties towards them? And is it compulsory to perform?

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

29 Jun

ANSWER: Allah mandates upon you to uphold ties of kinship with them therefore, you must visit them and call them often to check if there is anything you can do for them. As far as your mother, they are not from her kinship and she is not obliged to meet with them if they don’t […]

I live abroad. So I call my relatives to uphold the ties of kinship only for the sake of Allah. But they do not receive my call. They don’t even reply to my messages where “assalamualaikum” is written. Am I getting rewarded for this? And are they sinful? If I am not being rewarded, I won’t do it anymore.

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

25 Jun

ANSWER: Yes, you’re rewarded for this. You must continue to try and maintain kinship with them and they’re sinful if they do not reciprocate or initiate.

My brother n his wife have been fighting with my parents for 10 plus years. She is ver manipulative and has completely turned my brother against us like we are his enemy and she causes arguments against us. He treats his parents badly abuse them and his uncles. Alhamdulilah I started practici age 19 and wear niqab they put me down calling me fake.

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

08 Jun

ANSWER: When they abuse you like this, they want to depress you or to get a negative response from you. If you simply smile in their faces and whenever they abuse you, you say to them kind words, you would be like pouring water on a red hot piece of iron! Never defend yourself when […]

sheik,our cousin lives with us and my brother is present.she wears hijab but no socks.at home they say she is family.she enters our brothers room and our brother enters the room she stays though she wear hijab without socks.pls sheik are we doing right? I am not happy at all.

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

08 Jun

ANSWER: She is non-mahram to him and must not mix with him nor communicate freely whatsoever and must abide by the proper hijab at all times. As for socks, the feet are part of her awrah and she must cover it while going out or when in front of non-mahram men.

In order to maintain kinship is it ok to contact head of the family like to call aunt/uncle only for sula rehmi or I’ve to call individually all their children from the family like all my male/female couzins? Male couzins are non mehram for me.And Some of my female couzins are so modern they wont follow islam in dressing,making fun of others. So am I obliged to maintain kinship with such couzins?–

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

08 May

ANSWER: Calling your uncles and aunts is mandatory. Contacting your female cousins is also mandatory but of a lesser degree. You must not have any contact with your male cousins.

My husband wants us to celebrate Eid with his family and said that we will never celebrate Eid with my family as they are non Muslim and they only celebrated Eid for my sake (he meant my family doesn’t want to hurt me so they celebrated it for my sake). Is it wrong to celebrate Eid with my family? Or is it better to celebrate Eid with Muslims?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

01 May

ANSWER: Do not make it a huge issue, you could host a big get together at your place and invite both the in-laws and your family at the same time. Or You could visit them the next day too. Concentrate on creating a happy atmosphere rather than keeping score.

sheikh, my family go out to far places sometimes for the purpose of enjoyment and they are not practicing and careless about the salah and I fear that if I go with them I would miss my salah and would be difficult for me to pray and I have to disobey them in this regard, is it permissible for me to disobey or should I go?

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Prayer

23 Apr

ANSWER: No problem in joining them and performing your prayers on time even if you have to disobey them in this regard. Your presence might be a deterrent for them from doing a lot of more sins and you might also be a reminder for them to pray on time. There’s no obedience to the created at […]

I want to know can we maintain distance frm relatives who tell im spoiling their daughter inlaw or tell about about me n my hubby in the same relation….can i keep the kinship with only salam please clarify…

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

20 Apr

ANSWER: Allah mandates that you uphold ties with those who are in your kinship. You must maintain Salam at least when you see them or call them every now and then to check up on them or see if there is anything you can do for them. The in laws on the other hand are […]

I don’t quite understand what it means to uphold the ties of kinship. Do I have to talk with my relatives on phone (I don’t live near them) regularly to uphold the ties? I see them once in a year or two.

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

14 Apr

ANSWER: Yes, you must call them regularly to maintain Salam with them and see if they need anything and answer their invitations and invite them to yours.

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