Fiqh of the family

My husband and I have been married for 7 years now. We used to live together. After 5 years he got a job transfer, so we started living separatly. I am staying with his family. He usually comes after 8 to 10 months. When he came for the 1st time everything was ok and he went back again. When he came for the 2nd time, from no where I saw some text with a christian woman him having an affair. I asked for divorce but he refused and he said there is nothing going on now. I stayed because of my mother-in-law who at the same time is my grandmother, me and my husband we are related. Now he is back there again and I can see some change in him but am still worried maybe he is still cheating me. Please advise me how to control myself.

27 Jun

Such complications normally are seen when couples live apart. If you can somehow live with him, this will be great, however, in current situation, if you see change in him for good, you must bear patience with him and give him a chance. Make dua to Allah and seek His help and guidance.

is it a must on the son to take care of a mother who’s evil and if he brings her into his life she will destroy his marriage? because now she lives alone but still engages in the haram and lying, nameemah, fraud, etc… how to deal with such a case? and if he exposes her fraud, the mother will end up going to jail..

Fiqh of the family

13 Jun

If she is this evil, you must not live with her and your wife in the same house! Try to check on her every now and then, be respectful and obedient and avoid anything that would bring harm to you or your family.

My family is being very harsh to me, so can I leave them. We are not understanding each other, and they are even creating problems between me and my father?

Fiqh of the family

07 Jun

It isn’t allowed to sever the family ties. You should upkeep the ties of kinship. You can live in a separate place if you wish and afford and you are married. Leaving your parents when you are not married is not permissible.

My husband lived most days in my parents house as I don’t have any siblings. And his parents live with their married daughter in a same building. Now he wants me to live in a same building, but separate apartment with his mother. And his mother will live with her married daughter in a same apartment. But my parents will be alone. Should I obey him or insist him to live with my parents?

Fiqh of the family

23 Mar

You should obey your husband, if he wants a separate accommodation.

In our custom after marriage, the husband used to stay in his wife’s house and their children will grow in her house itself till the time the husband build a house of their own. I would like to ask if is this permissible in Islam.

Fiqh of the family

13 Jan

This is permissible if the wife permits it!

My husbnd touch his part from my back side(only bumps) not insid only frm outside area it touching on bumps coz insert is haram .Many tym he do while foreplay over clothes. Plz tell that this thing will not maqrooh our nikah. and he want to intercourse from back postion he didnt insert in anal just position is back rest he do it according to islam . Is he allow to do so.He never do anal sex,only like that position so i want to make it confirm.

Fiqh of the family

30 Dec

It is not permissible to have anal sex or to have foreplay there! Even of he doesn’t insert it, playing round it will make him do that one day. Satan is just waiting for the right moment. If it was while wearing your clothes, this is ok.

If one’s father/husband asks family to cut down relationship with others (relatives) as they bring nothing but Fitnah and everything negative possible. What’s the ruling? Their gathering includes backbiting/slandering of others and evil eye too Allahu Alam.

Fiqh of the family

05 Nov

If this is real and true, one can minimize relationship to the least possible degree that would protect him or her from harm and at the same time maintain what Allah ordered us to connect.

My wife is someone who is not really interested & doesn’t enjoy intercourse & intimacy.I have to ‘start’ anything myself to fulfill my desires, but cannot do so as much I would want to. I don’t think I will be able to do justice to two wives if I take a 2nd wife. Would it be allowed for me to use some sexual toys rather than falling into a Haram relationship outside marriage?

Fiqh of the family

21 Sep

Using such toys is prohibited on your own as this is masturbation. Try to coach your wife and to teach her how to please you bit by bit.

My daughter and son in law are not allowing me and her step father to see the baby anymore. She is 10 months now and we have done everything for them. My daughter has chronic fatigue and we are always there to help FINANCIALLY as well. My husband is a joker and has made joking comments over the years and months as he does with his own family. He said to my daughter maybe I can teach baby some Algerian cooking , maybe she will be a doctor or something nice when she is older if you encourage her in her education. Sometimes he calls me his wife whitey woman and I call him browny man as JOKE. HE SAID IT LOVINGLY TO MY GRANDDAUGHTER WHITEY GIRL AND SAID GRANNY IS GRUMPY.We helped my daughter and son in law to move house financially last week and now they sent a text to me from my son in law saying that we can not see the baby to take her out as they do not want my husband to see her as he is a bad influence. My husband is a practicing Muslim that loves to joke, only he did not know he was upsetting anyone. My son in law said I can come to their home and see the baby but not take her out. My daughter and son in law are both revert Muslims and have really hurted me. I am in the middle and at my wits end I did nothing wrong but I can’t take my grandchild out. Please could you advise me on this situation that shaitan has created

Fiqh of the family

18 Sep

I had a similar question for a woman and I told her that she must obey her husband in what he tells her even if this angers her mother! Having said this, it is the FATHER’S RIGHT to allow his daughter to go or not to go to places! Being ten month old, this is […]

Is it halal to have affair with one’s husband when it is not her duty as in the case of a woman who has a rival and she is not staying in the same house with the rival?

Fiqh of the family

17 Sep

You shouldn’t reject him. If he is not fair it is his sin not yours.

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