Fiqh of the family

My question is very old lady who comes every Thursday to our house for begging food or anything to eat so I give her without my parents knowing is that call sadaqah and will I be rewarded for that and my parents too because the lady is not a Muslim Or I am a sinner for not telling my parents that I’m giving food without them knowing.

13 Jan

ANSWER: As long as this is your father’s house, you need to ask his permission first unless you are certain that he wouldn’t mind.

Disobeying Parents is a Major sin. If I feel I disobeyed my parents in Past but repent for it to Allah Swt, is that Sufficient enough? Or need to ask forgiveness to parents too? What if one of my Parent passed away? But I am really Sorry whatever I did in past?

Fiqh of the family

01 Jan

ANSWER: You MUST seek your parents forgiveness as well. Make a lot of dua for the deceased parent besides repenting to Allah for this major sin.

I have an abusive father who is destroying my life since childhood. I’m not an emotional person. Now he is throwing me away out of his life. If he dies is it obligatory on his only son(me) to arrange everything(e.g.. his funeral)? I know Allah loves kindness but I can’t do it with this man. Please pardon me & just let me know is it ok if I manage anyone else to arrange everything like funeral etc?

Etiquette, Morals and Heart-Softeners, Fiqh of the family

21 Dec

ANSWER: You are asking me to give you a fatwa of depriving you to go to heaven through the middle gate, which is your father. You must be kind, gentle, respectful and humble with your father no matter what. If he has wronged you, he will be answerable before Allah and you would go straight […]

Is it enough to just say assalamu alaikum if you have a brother and your relationship is not that good?

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Fiqh of the family

18 Dec

ANSWER: You should also try and amend things between the two of you as he’s your brother, your own blood.

Should I listen to my parents if they say don’t take the food or drink to the bedroom?

Fiqh of the family

26 Nov

ANSWER: You must obey them.

My family thinks that as I have a dark complexion (synonymous to being ugly), I’m not likely to get married that easily so the only wise option left for me is to get a job. Only then i would be able to get any decent proposal based on my job status. But I really don’t want to opt for job and would rather stay at home pursuing my desire to study deen. This type of criticism is making me bitter.

Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family

19 Nov

ANSWER: You must not get affected by such remarks as Allah has created everyone beautiful and its the religious commitment that makes a person shine. As for acquiring a job, this doesn’t guarantee anything and if it’s a mixed place then it’s forbidden for women to work there. Have complete faith in Allah and keep […]

I love my parents very much. The problem is that my mother does not like my wife. We have been married for almost 20 years. Unfortunately my mother is abusive towards my wife but . Still we go and have dinner with them every week. I visit myself at least twice a week and call twice a day. I also financially suport my parents. My mother still thinks I am not a dutiful son.

Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family

19 Nov

ANSWER: What you’re doing is good, however it’s not obligatory for your wife to maintain relationship with your parents or siblings. If she’s insulted there then you must not take her along with you. You must always be humble, respectful and dutiful towards your parents no matter what but be fair with your wife as […]

My husband is a very good practicing Muslim and he is very good to me. In the past few months, he has had a great fall and committed zina with several women. When I found out, he got very angry with me at first. Later he told me to pray for him and be patient and believe that he is doing good. Now, he does not come home many nights, and i cannot ask him where he has been. Can I explain more pls?

Fiqh of the family

08 Nov

ANSWER: Allowing him to commit adultery and be addicted to his sins just so that he won’t be angry is a road to destruction. Once he is accustomed to haram, he won’t feel good going back to halal. You must get his parents involved in this and explain to them what he is doing so […]

My father has a life insurance.No point in explaining him as he never listens even the first word and gets angry. Now, he orders me to deliver a cheque in the bank, for the premium of life insurance. Am I as a son allowed to obey him ? He will then ask my mother. Is she allowed to obey him ? Should parents be obeyed in other haram acts that directly dont belong to me just like the above example

Fiqh of the family, Halal/Haram Matters

25 Oct

ANSWER: No, you must not obey him in this regard as obeying Allah takes precedence over everything, however you must be respectful, never raise your voice, humble and diplomatic when dealing with your parents in these kind of situations.

Will my deceased father also recieve reward for every good deed that I do? I’ve been told that pious child is sadaqah jaria so whatever good u do, ur parents get reward of that.

Fiqh of the family

18 Oct

ANSWER: Whatever he had taught you, he will be rewarded for it whenever you do it.

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