Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

Sheikh this might sound stupid but I’m being serious. I see some people always arguing about this in Facebook. The man, his wife, and his mother goes somewhere in his own car. The man is driving, so who is more worthy to be in the front seat next to the driver? The mother or the wife? And why?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

08 Aug

ANSWER: The mother should be in front as this is respectful and dutiful of him unless she prefers the back seat.

In a joint family do my wife has to wear the jilbab all the time or just if she dkes niqab it’s ok?if she wears a dress like gown(not as outer garment like jilbab but only a cloth where her bones curves are not visible) in joint family then is it ok?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Women clothing

09 Jul

ANSWER: Her in laws are like any stranger on the streets if not worse! She has to wear an outer garment along with covering her face when she is in front of non mahrams in a joint family system and neither she can mix with them.

I am married for a 1.5 year. Me and my husband are in long distance relationship which i do not like. He has gone to other country for job.I live with my in laws .I feel alone. Recently i had a miscarriage, since then i am depressed so much. I ask my husband to come soon.I can’t live like this.he calls me mad if i complain. Am i sinful if i dont talk to him?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

04 Jul

ANSWER: You need to weigh the consequences of your actions and consider your options and what you want from this marriage. If you behave in a certain way while he is away from you, he could easily consider divorcing this woman whom he has no children from and she is causing him and his family […]

I have been married for 12 years. My in-laws have always been mentally and physically abusive to me and my 2 kids. Just last years my marriage was on the verge of divorce,Since then me n my kids have not kept any relationship with my in-laws n alhamdulillah everything is goin great. But past few months my husband is insisting me talk to my in-laws but I fear doing that.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Halal/Haram Matters, Pedagogy education and upbringing

14 Jun

ANSWER: It’s not obligatory upon you at all to maintain ties with your in-laws. However, it’s mandatory upon your kids to maintain ties with their paternal family, you have no right whatsoever in stopping them from meeting their grandparents and uncles and aunts etc.

Sheikh.i live with my in laws. They very frequently taunt me and say things that hurt me.whenever i tell my husband about it he says that I should talk to them and solve it myself and that it is not right for him to speak into these matters.what should I do? Is it right for husband to not take my stand and ask me to deal with it on my own?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Jun

ANSWER: It is your right to demand a separate accommodation where you don’t need to see any of them! However, you should weigh the pros and cons as if you know he can’t afford that, you shouldn’t embarrass yourself. It is not logical to expect him to disrespect his mother or scold her for a […]

I live with my in laws and they want me to spend much of my time with them even when i don’t want to or i want to do something else also my husband want me to ask permission from my mother in law that whether i go to my parents home and other matters etc and my husband also don’t give me a separate kitchen even i want it i wanna know are they sinful to do such things and interfere in my life

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

22 May

ANSWER: They have no such rights, none whatsoever and they’re definitely sinful for this transgression! You have all the right in Islam to ask your husband for a separate accommodation. Your in laws have no say or right in this. He must fear Allah and give you your rights. If he cannot give you a […]

My friends mother in law’s took all my friend’s zakat money without her consent and travelled to other country. Her husband also knew this but he didn’t say anything to his mother and now my friend is struggling to pay zakat as she is left with nothing

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Zakat

06 May

ANSWER: She must pay the zakat money to the poor and needy! Her mother in law is a thief and must be held accountable for the money she stole without her consent. She and her son are obliged to return it.

Does a husband have the right to force wife to take care of his family members saying wife is obliged to listen to husband so if a husband says to serve his family she must serve.But she says she honors his family but she don’t want to serve them, she tells the husband to appoint a service giver for his parents as he has no right to force her in this.Who is right?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

26 Nov

ANSWER: The husband has no right whatsoever to force his wife to serve his parents. If he asks her to stand on one foot or to cook food for the whole neighbourhood, is she obliged to obey him? Of course not! My motherinlaw is bing vry aggressive and vile towards me, I’m not allowd to […]

How must one who wants to start wearing niqab deal with the non mahrams in her family who don’t view it as obligatory? Also if she wears niqab can she go chat with them but wearing niqab, not alone in the room together. Is it impermissible to chat regularly with non mahram family members?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Halal/Haram Matters

15 Nov

ANSWER: She must wear the niqab in front of non mahram family members as well. It’s not permissible for her to chit-chat, hang around or socialise woth them at all. Therefore, she simply ignores them and not reply to them if they insist on mixing with her and socializing.

My father passed few months back and my relatives taunts my mother and tells that she is reason for his death should she keep kinship what to do

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

24 Sep

ANSWER: Breaking ties with those who are her kinship is a major sin. She must maintain Salam with them at least. If they are her in laws, she is not obliged to be in contact with them and can boycott them if she wants.

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