Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

I live with my inlaws and their children are very ill mannered they waste food,yell at elders,throw away food,burp on faces and if i try to correct them strictly their parents dont like it, i have 6 monthsold son too m scared he will get influenced by them.grandmother gets angry if we try to correct them she tells they can do anything as they r small for it to learm manners!! What should i do?

21 Apr

ANSWER: You have all the right to have a separate accommodation. If this is not possible then keep yourself to your room and only come out when it’s necessary. You have no right in correcting these children if their parents don’t want you to!

I wanted to ask as my husband went for some work to his country for 2 weeks and I am living here with my mother in law and father in law in Saudia Arabia. So if I need to go outside like shopping I need to take permission from inlaws?? Is it compulsory ??just want to add that I am a working woman. Kindly reply

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

05 Apr

ANSWER: You are not obliged to take permission from anybody other than your husband.

My husband lives abroad and wants me to live with his family in their house. I have been married for 4 years now and living where he desires. But I can’t do it any longer,his mom keeps nagging at me all the time for every little thing,it’s difficult for me to stay with them. I told him I don’t want to stay here but he refuses to listen. What should I do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

02 Apr

ANSWER: Try to be diplomatic as you don’t want to end up being divorced if he is a stubborn man who listens to his mother’s nagging! You are not obliged to serve his family as your responsibility lies only in serving him and his children. Do not argue with his mother no matter what she […]

Could you please tell me about the relationship of father-in-law with her daughter-in-law

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

25 Mar

ANSWER: Father in law is a permanent mahram of a daughter in law. He remains her mahram all her life, even if his son dies or he divorces his wife.

I would like to know if I am wrong or not. Being a daughter in law, my mother in law allows herself to move freely in my house( note that I live upstairs) or comment negatively on my way of cooking and my way of cleaning my house (note that i am a working mother). My sister in law also do tell me things like my husband is depressive since he got married.. how do I respond to that

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

15 Feb

ANSWER: Do not pay any attention to their comments and do not engage in any argument or dialogue with them! If they accuse you with something, give them a big smile and do not defend yourself. This will kill them softly for failing to provoke you to respond in a negative way! After a while, […]

My mother in law while having food together always offer food to my hubby n she even takes food from her plate n offers it to him n ignores me though i have made all the food.this is only one thing i have mentioned. my hubby says he can’t say anything to his mom coz he will go to hell.i want to know cant he tell her politely,even if they r doing wrong v should b quiet?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

13 Feb

ANSWER: Your mother in law is not required to offer it to you and is only doing what is natural to her by looking after her son. You must act according to your beliefs and convictions! Your good upbringing declares that you are kind and respectful towards your mother in law. Don’t let her attitude make […]

My brother is travelling to my country for a visit and is staying at my flat for a month. Is he allowed to stay at my flat? I live with my wife in a 2 bed flat. Our bedroom has an attached bathroom and my brother will have his. If I’m out for work and my brother happen to be at home, is he allowed to stay as long as he remain in his room?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

10 Feb

ANSWER: It is not permissible at all for him to stay in the same apartment with your wife while you’re not home. https://youtu.be/OvPMHo5SGZ0

Does a man have equal financial duty towards his wife & children and widowed mother?My brother does not give monthly pocket money to my mother for her expenses (she lives alone).In case he buys (say) a flight ticket for my mother, he cuts that amount & then gives her the balance monthly pocket money. She has no income of her own.He however pays for his wife&kids as required/is not stingy with them

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

04 Feb

ANSWER: He is obliged to spend on his wife and children and will be held accountable if he doesn’t. He must serve his mother to the best of his ability is rewarded for whatever he spends on her, however, all of her children are equally required to do that. It seems he is trying to […]

My husband is going abroad for his office work. I am willing to stay at my parents home but my husband wants me to stay at my in laws place. There are constant disputes between me and in laws regarding very small issues. So i think its better to stay at my parents home. How to convince this to husband

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

02 Feb

ANSWER: It is not normal for you to stay with your in-laws in the absence of your husband especially if he has brothers as this would cause you to have to abide by the proper hijab 24/7. Tell him you would like to stay with your own parents until you can be together again.

My husband want me to ring a call to my sister in law every Friday some times I miss is it disobedient?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

02 Feb

ANSWER: No, this is not disobedience as you’re not obliged to maintain ties of kinship with your in laws. However, if you do this to please your husband, this is something that you would be rewarded for.

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