Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

After marriage my mother house is not mine and my in laws house is my house and my everything. What islam say in this matter.

15 Sep

ANSWER: This is baseless. Your house is the house or accommodation that your husband provides for you. You do not have any right on your inlaws house. At the same time, you are not obliged to serve or obey them as they are not your parents.

Sheikh, i live with my inlaws my husband is in abroad he sent money every month to his parents they not even asked me that if i need something for my personal use etc they said we are providing food n shelter then why she needs money so my husband sends for me separately in my account my mother inlaw taunts his son is this necessary for my husband to tell her that he is sending money for

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 Sep

ANSWER: No, he must not tell his mother anything and you must not tell them anything nor give anyone access to your bank account.

Is it permissible to call our parents-in-law as father and mother or how they should be addressed and called?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

22 Aug

ANSWER: No problem in this.

My parents talk to my wife like they have authority on her.They try to control her in various matters.I explain them politely that they shouldn’t do it,they can speak nicely & she will listen,if she misbehaves or has mistakes,they should complain to me.They become very upset If I say this.Am I sinful?She is given separate accommodation though but she only eats with them.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

13 Jul

ANSWER: They have no right, none whatsoever over your wife and she should have her own room, washroom and kitchen that nobody enters without her permission and she must not be forced to sit with them and eat! Be a man and protect and honor your wife as she is your responsibility and at the […]

My husbands family do not like me at all because i am a different race they have made fun of me and bullied me countless times.i have tried for years to have patience and be kind to them however the pressure and bullying got so bad i got really sick with my pregnancy. I am pregnant again and could get same sickness from stress what should i do islamically.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

14 May

ANSWER: You are not obliged to keep ties with them as they are not from among those Allah has ordered you to uphold ties of kinship with. No problem in keeping a healthy distance from them and giving them salam whenever you see them. People who bully you want to upset you and hear an […]

My husband says that if you want to keep me happy for my sake you have to serve my mother as i say, as it’s Allah’s command to keep husband happy and also he is providing me food house etc. So it’s my turn to repay him.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Mar

ANSWER: It is not your obligation to make his mother happy. If you do that out of your own good will, this is rewardable and a good deed. He can’t expect you to do things that are not obliged upon you just to make him happy! If he is happy if you don’t open your […]

Whenever i have to go anywhere to hospital or to buy anything or in any emergency if my husband is busy he told me to go with my brother in law but i dont want to go with him but my husband forces me to go with him is it permissible to go?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

17 Jan

ANSWER: If you’re going alone with him, this is not permissible at all because he’s a non mahram to you and Prophet salla Allahu Alaihi wa sallam said that the the brother in law is death! You must observe complete hijab in front of him and never chit-chat, hang out or socialize with him, not […]

I started to cover my head in front of male members in my in-laws home . But my brother in law dsn’t care, and enters at sudden, I try to cover it immediately? How can I handle it? If Iam sinful? 2ndly his wife says I should cook for him when she is not at home as she cooks for my husband?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

18 Dec

ANSWER: You are not obliged to cook for your brother in law as this is his wife’s job. Likewise, it is not her job to cook for your husband in your absence as you are responsible for looking after your husband and children. You must ask your husband for a separate accommodation as this is your right […]

Me and my spouse love each other too much. We’ve a son and I’m preg with our second one alhamdullilah but my inlaws are very cruel , they don’t let me and my spouse meet. His Parents don’t let me in nor they let him come to me. They’ve warned him if he meets me they won’t let him in again. His sisters are very jealous of us and use very bad language on me all the time.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

17 Dec

ANSWER: This is your husband’s responsibility to show his real skin and to act like a man. If he allows them to play with him like a mummy’s child, then he only has himself to blame. It is his responsibility to provide for you a separate accommodation and to not obey his parents and sisters […]

Is the husband sinning if his wife does not want to live with someone she does not like even though the person she doesn’t like is a woman? she cries everyday and uncomfortable and wants to go live with her parents. the wife had to live with the in-law’s family there were also non-mahram living with the wife under the same roof. what is the husband’s way of dealing with this?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

30 Nov

ANSWER: Of course he is sinful. It is his responsibility to provide for his wife a separate accommodation where she doesn’t have to meet any of his family members. If he is away, she must go and live with her parents and not stay in a house with non mahram! No man with jealousy would […]

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