Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

My in-laws have taken my gifts in their custody that were given to me by my family on my wedding. What should I do, i can’t tell them directly to give them back.

01 Feb

ANSWER: What they have done is absolutely prohibited and they have no right whatsoever in taking your gifts. Ask your husband to take them back from your in laws as these are your possessions and not anyone else’s. What they’re doing is absolute zulm. If your husband declines, you can address your parents and ask them […]

Is in-laws come under silatu rahim for woman? Is woman obliged to main relationship with parents and siblings of husband?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 Jan

ANSWER: No to both. They are not from among those Allah has ordered us to uphold ties of kinship with.

Im newly married,his mom tortured me in 1st mnth n his sisters got separated us,takes care of his mom.i live alone,in a 1bedroom house where i feel suffocated,my husband goes 40kms away to office,even if im sick theres nobody to take care,can i ask him to move near his office where he can visit in emergencies? Or am i sinning?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

06 Jan

ANSWER: If you mean you live alone and your husband lives with his mother, this is absolutely wrong. You must live with him. You’re not sinning at all as having a separate accommodation with your husband is your right.

I have conflicts with my mother in law. So we don’t talk to eachother on calls.But when we meet we talk nicely.Now she’s in other country &her brother died.Should i call her &console? As she didn’t called me one month ago when i gave birth.She even didn’t tell anyone that her son had another baby.This breaks my heart.I don’t want to call her but if islamically i should then i will.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Jan

ANSWER: You treat others by your caliber and not by theirs!

A Pakistani sister lives in Europe,she has no bonding with her in laws and they don’t like each other due to two reasons. 1.Her husband marry her without telling his family 2.she is religious and not participate in immoral activities of family. She doesn’t want that any of her in law member come in vacation to stay with her in her home. can she stop them tactfully islamically?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

30 Dec

ANSWER: How can she be a practicing woman if she doesn’t honor her guests? She should bear them for a few days if they come for a visit only, to please her husband, though this is not mandatory. There are millions of women who have to live with their in laws day in and day […]

She is mentally challenged and very abusive. I’ve been living with her since 6 months after my father in laws death. It’s been very tough for me and my life has been affected with the amount of verbal fighting going on 24/7. She gives us no privacy to go outside together even for 5 minutes. Can I ask my husband to move us separately in another house or is it wrong. He’s the only son she has.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

21 Nov

ANSWER: This is your right in Islam but I don’t know whether your husband will be able to do that. You need to totally ignore her verbal abuse as if she doesn’t exist! She unconsciously lives on making you stressed out and saying bad things or being impolite. If you manage to control yourself, never […]

Alhamdulillah I m earning good, I do not want my father-in-law to spend his money on her daughter (my wife) in neither way by gifting her gold ornaments or in the form of dresses or money. I dislike him because of his rude behavior towards me, he do not have talking manners, is it fine if I ask him to stop OR I ask my wife not to accept any gift from him. Plz advice.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

18 Oct

ANSWER: This is transgression from your side! If he wants to be kind to his daughter, you have no right in stopping him or preventing her from accepting her father’s gifts. Be better than him if you are earning well and buy him gifts whenever you go and visit him. This would soften his heart […]

Mother and daughter in law living in separate cities. Mother unhappy and wants her to serve. mother tells her daughters about the problems and complains (truth/false) she has from her daughter in law. If try to turn the talk, she cries and goes into depression and becomes very angry, hyper and abnormal. Does her complains(true/false) fall under ghibah or slander? What should the daughter do then?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

29 Sep

ANSWER: Yes, this definitely falls under backbiting which is a major sin. She has no right whatsoever to want her daughter in law to serve her! She can keep a servant for that! As a daughter, you must try and make her understand the Islamic ruling regarding this topic. But if she is as described, this […]

i want my future husband(whoever he is) to live in separate house after marriage.this decision should be entirely his own and his family should be supporting this decision.is this too much to ask for?is this demand islamically right?can i reject a proposal if a man doesn’t want to live in separate house?people around me often get amazed and tell me that this is not right…i m from pakistan!!!

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

26 Aug

ANSWER: It is every woman’s right in Islam to have a separate accommodation after marriage. Yes, you have the right to reject a proposal if he is not ready to provide you a separate accommodation. However you must not keep rejecting proposals like this as it would become very difficult to get good ones after […]

My husband want to go on hajj with his mother but i am pregnant due at same time of hajj.He wants to leave me & kids with his brother as we staying in a joint family….What should i do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

22 Jun

ANSWER: He should not go leaving you with his brother. His brother is not mahram to you. If his brother has his wife as well, she can break such seclusion. You can also stay at your parent’s house.

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