Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

ya shaykh if i dont obey my husband by agreeing to join his gathering with his cousin,cousins mother and his cousins wife at my house , he got extremely upset and went on a rant that i am not being cordial to his family. He even was about to smash something of mine out of anger. Please advise.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Mahram

04 Feb

ANSWER: If he requires you to mix with any of his male cousins, this is not permissible whatsoever as they are non mahram to you. You must not come in front of them nor mix with them. You have to hold your grounds, be diplomatic with your husband but not compromise your Islam. If he […]

I have a deep rooted grudge with my mother in law of 15 years.I have always felt that I was wronged by her and have retaliated badly in response.Adding insult to injury is my husband’s biased attitude to his family completely sidelining me.Now I want to let go and restrain my tongue and have a forgiving heart for Allah’s sake.How do I do it?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

20 Jan

ANSWER: You can forgive her by thinking that Allah’s mercy is far beyond anyone in this world and He is the Most Forgiving. So in order to achieve Allah’s mercy, we should be forgiving enough to anyone who does bad to us so that we gain Allah’s forgiveness for our sins. Kindly refer to the following […]

My motherinlaw is bing vry aggressive and vile towards me, I’m not allowd to sit with the family eat with the family n also cook for my husband or myself. She says I can’t eat the food she makes when she sleeps I go to kitchen to eat.She keeps calin me very hurtful names and brings my father and family into it,I only leave my room for work,husband says he won’t move out! What cn I do

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

15 Jan

ANSWER: Your mother in law is the mother of your husband and if he had to choose between her and you, he will choose her! Therefore, you have to be wise and patient. Most abuses thrive on the reaction they get from those they abuse! This is the fuel that keeps them going. Your frustration, […]

I lived with my in laws but few months ago my husband live outside the country so now Im living my parents my mother in law said I have to live with my in laws reason she give because my husband parents are there that’s why but I don’t feel comfortable bcz my two brother in law are also live

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 Jan

ANSWER: You do not have to obey your mother in law and must not be alone with your brother in laws whatsoever. Being with your parents is the right thing until he gets back. You should live in a separate accommodation away from his brothers as they are not your mahram. Hijab in front of […]

Sheikh.. Is it really permissible to address my husband’s parents by calling them too as my “mother” and “father”? If it is not permissible, how should I address them with respect when talking to them??

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

31 Dec

ANSWER: No problem in calling them mother or father if this pleases your husband and increases the love for you in their hearts.

Im am a revert & wear niqab. When my husband invites his brother & cousin w/their wives to my apartment, they all congregate in the living room and eat together. Is it a sin for my husband to have them over? I addressed my concern to my husband and he dismissed it and said to look at it as dawa. also they think I am extreme, therefore making me feel even more uncomfortable. pls advise.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

13 Dec

ANSWER: It’s not permissible to have these mixed gatherings. You should have separate arrangement for ladies for eating as well as sitting. Tell your husband it’s not permissible at all to mix in this fashion especially between in laws as Prophet salla Allahu aliaihi wa sallam said it’s ‘Death’. Kindly refer to the following link(s): […]

Mother in law already has two houses n getting rent.she visits for months each son but whn shes over she shows its her sons house n interferes in matter.moreover disturbs d normal running of house and keeps unhygenic behavior n shows its her house as she has more right to her son.if thus is true,which is the wifes and kids home?dont they hv right to keep their houses as they want

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

12 Dec

ANSWER: You have the right to keep your house however you want and can ignore her suggestions but keep in mind she is your elder and you must honor her. Tolerate her for the sake of Allah and Allah will reward you accordingly. A mother usually believes that she has great rights over her son who […]

Sheikh,is it permissible for the husband to ask his wife to help with the household chores and do cooking for his parents as they are old and sick? can she disobey him in this?(she doesn’t have doesn’t have children yet) the husband can’t do cooking&cleaning for his parents as he’s at work,should she obey him?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

09 Dec

ANSWER: She’s not obliged to cook and clean for her parents in law. However if she does it while she’s already preparing food for her husband (which is her duty) then she will be rewarded for it. Kindly refer to the following link(s): https://youtu.be/NWK6kJcMytI

my husband and his brother supports my husband’s parents financially. iam also working. my mother in law and sister in law indirectly accuses my parents in that they are not helping me and my husband financially.when I keep telling this to my husband he gets angry.What should I do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

06 Dec

ANSWER: Don’t keep nagging, just keep him updated whenever you are accused and have patience. Ignore what your in laws are saying and explain to them that your parents are not obliged to provide for their daughter and her husband.

My mother in law is a widow and my husband is her only son. it is very stressful and mentally exhausting to stay with her.she is generally a person who notes people and critises and labels them often.she does it even more with me. she is also my aunt and we have common relatives.it is very hurtful that my own relatives have started thinking badly of me. she picks on me all the time.how do i deal?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

14 Nov

You need to deal with her with a smiling face as if to show whatever she comments, does not have an effect on you, slowly and gradually she will reduce in shaa Allah. Learn to never answer back or argue with her as this is what fuels conversations. Just reply with a smile and say […]

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