Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

Mother and daughter in law living in separate cities. Mother unhappy and wants her to serve. mother tells her daughters about the problems and complains (truth/false) she has from her daughter in law. If try to turn the talk, she cries and goes into depression and becomes very angry, hyper and abnormal. Does her complains(true/false) fall under ghibah or slander? What should the daughter do then?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

29 Sep

ANSWER: Yes, this definitely falls under backbiting which is a major sin. She has no right whatsoever to want her daughter in law to serve her! She can keep a servant for that! As a daughter, you must try and make her understand the Islamic ruling regarding this topic. But if she is as described, this […]

i want my future husband(whoever he is) to live in separate house after marriage.this decision should be entirely his own and his family should be supporting this decision.is this too much to ask for?is this demand islamically right?can i reject a proposal if a man doesn’t want to live in separate house?people around me often get amazed and tell me that this is not right…i m from pakistan!!!

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

26 Aug

ANSWER: It is every woman’s right in Islam to have a separate accommodation after marriage. Yes, you have the right to reject a proposal if he is not ready to provide you a separate accommodation. However you must not keep rejecting proposals like this as it would become very difficult to get good ones after […]

My husband want to go on hajj with his mother but i am pregnant due at same time of hajj.He wants to leave me & kids with his brother as we staying in a joint family….What should i do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

22 Jun

ANSWER: He should not go leaving you with his brother. His brother is not mahram to you. If his brother has his wife as well, she can break such seclusion. You can also stay at your parent’s house.

i m nwly maried.Aftr my mariage my parents wanted my inlaws to give thm clthes on eid.when my parents visit my inlaws house,my parents alwys compln about the qlty of food and demnd more respct.Aftr a mnth my parents demand my wife 2 do all the house work.My wife refused and at last I sent my wife to her parents house.I told my parents it’s haram.they cal it culture and curse me if I move out

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

21 Jun

ANSWER: Your parents are sinful for asking your inlaws for clothes, and it is not your wife’s duty to serve them, and in case they really nead help, then you are the one who is obliged to serve them but not your wife, fear Allah, offer a separate accommodation for your wife, and ignore all […]

Am a doctor by profession presently not living with my in laws as we work out of the state.but whenever I think of living with them as they are old I get hurt because they sometimes taunt.i get so much hurt that I can’t be normal but Alhamdulillah I never misbehave.i never said a word back.i want to settle in Muslim country for my kid but my husband wants to stay with his fam

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

18 Jun

ANSWER: It’s not your duty at all to live with them or serve them. You have all the right to have a separate accommodation.

I have told my in-laws I don’t celebrate birthdays anymore but they took it the wrong way thinking I’m saying I’m getting older and it’s for kids. I went quiet as they don’t understand anything I say when it comes to Islam and they don’t like to be told. My mil said its ok to do kids birthdays. How do I deal with a situation like this?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

02 Jun

ANSWER: Don’t argue with them and let your husband explain it to them. Don’t participate with them in it.

I always get in to fight with my husband because of brother in law coming without any hasitation claiming his parents lives here i feel very abused in this matter , home respecting no women with in there is avery little privacy in home what would you say about it

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

24 Apr

ANSWER: You must always be fully covered whenever he comes and keep your room locked so that he doesn’t enter there and you know when he’s home, so that you be prepared and not come in contact with him unnecessarily. It is best to move out to a separate home where you can get your […]

how can a husband deal with a wife who abuse her mother’s husband infront of people and can they leave in different House coz the husband is unable to pay rent.until he gets a job

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

14 Apr

ANSWER: He must not allow his wife to abuse his mother! He must segregate them and live in different houses.

After marriage taking decisions like what to wear where to go isn’t allowed ?When my husband permits me something todo so the intervention of in laws is right?My in laws always said not to stay at your parents home and try to manipulate my husband 2.My husband’s very kindhearted,fearful person to Allah so he always took my side when needed.Tell me the ruling over their interference

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

01 Apr

ANSWER: Your in laws have no right to interfere in your life at all. You’re only obliged to listen to your husband.

Currently I’m working abroad and i cannot afford to keep my family with me as i hv to settle some debts.my wife and 1 year old daughter was staying with my parents.my paraents have some issues with my wife and i asked her to stay in her house.but my parents is too attached with my daughter and wants them home,but in their mind they still dnt like my wife.i love my parents and wife. What should i do

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

12 Mar

ANSWER: Your wife must stay at her parents house while you are away and not at your parents house. She’s not obliged whatsoever to stay with your parents. Your wife can bring their granddaughter once in a while to visit or she can leave her there for a few hours, without your wife staying there, […]

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