Fiqh of Marriage

QUESTION: In my culture when someone is married they give the couples a white wrapper to use on their first night to wipe the blood of the virgin, and the wrapper has to be returned to the relatives. I know it’s not islamic to do so. But to protect my wife’s honor, would it be appropriate to prick my finger and put some blood on the wrapper just to protect my wife from harassment.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Oct

ANSWER: You must put your foot down and totally prohibit anyone checking your bedsheet at all, this is absolutely degrading and insulting.

QUESTION: In our society, when a man gives money or gifts to his parents, it is appreciated but if a daughter gives her own money that she earned to her parents, in laws usually make an issue about this and call names to such parents on taking gifts from daughters. What is the ruling on this.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

12 Oct

ANSWER: The in laws have no right, none whatsoever to say anything as such and the daughter in law is not AT ALL obliged to tell them or her husband what she does with her own money or how much she earns or have!

QUESTION: Can I talk with a boy before marriage to know what extent our comptability matches on phone for sometime ?

Fiqh of Marriage

12 Oct

ANSWER: This is not permissible. You’re allowed only one meeting in front of your mahram where the guy comes to meet you for the first and only time.

QUESTION: I am a housewife and financially dependent on my husband and he gives me pocket money and never asks where I spent it. is it ok if I quietly give some chunk of my pocket money (not on monthly basis) to my mother as a gift without telling the husband

Fiqh of Marriage

11 Oct

ANSWER: No problem as this is your money now. This is different that the money he gives you for the house or groceries as these can’t be used without his permission

QUESTION: I have converted to Islam but my wife is still a christian, she told me that if i convert she can no longer be with me. I tried to explain to her that i converted but once i saw her reaction i made it seem as if i was not serious about it because i want to protect my marriage for my kids. Is it a sin to keep my islam a secret to my wife? What should i do?

Fiqh of Marriage

10 Oct

ANSWER: You must come out of the closet and announce your Islam. This might be a reason for her to consider Islam and be saved from eternal hellfire. If she refuses, you can stay married to her as she is Christian. But if she chooses to leave, you will be better off with a new […]

QUESTION: Is an Imam/Sheikh needed for a Nikah to take place? If not, why do some weddings have one, is there any benefit?

Fiqh of Marriage, Marriage Contract

05 Oct

ANSWER: Such an Imam is not part of the marriage contract. It is only for the purpose of registering it with the authorities.

QUESTION: Is it permissible to lie if telling that truth will lead me to huge sins? Example:If a girl maintains distance from non-mahram, but secretly has feelings for a boy without communicating. If he asks to her by a friend, if she has feelings for him or not, can she lie that she doesn’t have feelings in order to prevent fitna?

Fiqh of Marriage

05 Oct

ANSWER: She should not answer that friend and pretend to be offended and tell her that chaste women are not asked such questions and that if he was interested for real, he would have proposed to her father.

QUESTION: My question is I have been hearing this from my childhood that Allah has created pair for everyone, where as I don’t see people getting married, some dies before marriage, in childhood, in young age my question is that will everyone on earth get spouse? And What about those people who Used all resources for marriage but not get spouse , how they will be compensate on judgement day

Fiqh of Marriage, Paradise and Hell

02 Oct

ANSWER: If they die unmarried, Allah would marry them to someone who would make them happy.

QUESTION: If marriage is not written in a girls fate how to have patience while everyone is enjoying with their spouses what will be her reward in akhriah

Fiqh of Marriage, Psychological and Social Problems

30 Sep

ANSWER: How does she know what is written for her? She has no other choice but to be patient and hope for the best and if this doesn’t happen, she will be compensated handsomely on the day of judgment.

QUESTION: What should be the general behaviour of a husband towards his relatives&siblings who openly hate his wife, insult her and want him to divorce her? My husband remains quite on spot when i am insulted and later confronts them in my absence.This hurts me.Also, he will be angry for a moment but after a few days will be laughing with them like nothing happened.So, they keep repeating it.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

18 Sep

ANSWER: She shouldn’t be free mixing with men who are non mahram. If she is not living with them in a joint family system, she can demand from her husband a separate home as this is her right in Islam. If she is already living separately, she is not obliged to ever meet them. This […]

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