Fiqh of Marriage

Alhamdulillah Allah has blessed us with 3 children mashaAllah. MashaAllah we have space and can afford to have more children but my husband has said no. I do 90% of the parenting but still he thinks it will be too tiring to have more kids. He never mentioned this before we started a family. I feel utterly heartbroken, do you have any advice sheikh.

Fiqh of Marriage, Pedagogy education and upbringing

27 Jan

ANSWER: Giving a gap between children is permissible, however permanently stopping to have kids is not permissible. Try to speak to him couple of years from now.

If we have brother and sisters who we KNOW they dont pray OUT OF LAZINESS. Is it fard upon us to boycott them? Or can we still hang out with them and talk. Sadly MANY peoplr around us from freinds and family dont pray. They would never drink alcohol or zina etc because its haraam but everyone seems sooooo leniet when it comes to prayer.

Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Fiqh of Marriage

27 Jan

ANSWER: Don’t cut them off and keep on praying in front of them and inviting them to join and giving them gentle reminders every now and then.

Is there any authentic Hadees discouraging marriage between 1st cousins over generation after generation. (eg : my parents are cousins to each other, my self and my offspring also continuing same.)

Fiqh of Marriage

13 Jan

ANSWER: No, there’s no prohibition or discouragement in this. This is something permissible.

My hubby finds a few of my dad’s habits offensive, which my dad doesn’t do intentionally, it’s only his nature. Now my hubby asks me to tell my dad not to do so and so and sometimes me and my hubby gets in to a big fight because of them. My dad not aware of this at all. Please suggest me, should i tell this to my dad or should i keep it myself, knowing that this will irritate my hubby furthermore

Fiqh of Marriage

07 Jan

ANSWER: Your husband has no right dictating about your dad’s habits. If he doesn’t like something, he shouldn’t meet him rather than asking him to change for him. Your husband is not obliged to maintain ties with your father. Therefore, ask him not to meet your father.

Im newly married,his mom tortured me in 1st mnth n his sisters got separated us,takes care of his mom.i live alone,in a 1bedroom house where i feel suffocated,my husband goes 40kms away to office,even if im sick theres nobody to take care,can i ask him to move near his office where he can visit in emergencies? Or am i sinning?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

06 Jan

ANSWER: If you mean you live alone and your husband lives with his mother, this is absolutely wrong. You must live with him. You’re not sinning at all as having a separate accommodation with your husband is your right.

If a girl’s father completely refuses a man for his daughter because he is not of the same “financial status”, can the girl’s brother or uncle automatically become her wali? or what is the procedure

Fiqh of Marriage

03 Jan

ANSWER: Her father must be her Wali and she can’t choose another Wali other than him. It is the father’s right to refuse whoever he believes is not suitable for his daughter. If your father is against you marrying anyone permanently, in this case, you can go to the Muslim court or the authorized Islamic center and they will appoint another guardian for you.

What is the ruling on speaking on the phone with the opposite gender for the sake of getting to know each other for marriage. Note, this will be within limits and not going beyond the scope of getting to know each other (likes, dislikes, personality) . Note, she lives in another state and she would like to speak on the phone to get to know each other more.

Fiqh of Marriage

24 Dec

ANSWER: This is not permissible. You can only speak with her in the first meeting, in the presence of her wali when you go to see her.

I want to marry a good looking & religious girl. I got a proposal frm very religious girl bt she is little fat and not good looking. Now I feel like I should not let this proposal go as such religious girl proposals come rare & should give preference to her deen over looks. Howevr, I fear that what if I get a feeling of dislike towards her later aftr marriage. What should I do? Pls tell in detail.

Fiqh of Marriage

24 Dec

ANSWER: This is up to you! If you don’t like her weight or how she looks, move on and look for someone else. You have to bear in mind that you are also not Mr. Universe and you need to look at yourself in the mirror as well!

I’m in a deadly problem. Im 21 years old running and extremely in need of Marriage. If I dont i dont get married then i fear falling into heinous sins. My parents will break their ties and i have to leave the home and cant have contact with them if i marry.

Fiqh of Marriage

19 Dec

ANSWER: Generally speaking, if you are a man, you do not require the permission of your parents to get married. Try to talk to them in a diplomatic way and tell them you fear falling into sin if you don’t. If they don’t listen, get married even if they cut you off! Try to work […]

Sheikh, can i make it a condition in my marriage contract that my husband doesn’t remarry as long as I’m in his nikah? I know he doesn’t need permission before remarrying the second wife, but I do not want my husband to have a second wife as long as I’m with him.

Fiqh of Marriage, Marriage Contract

15 Dec

ANSWER: It is permissible to stipulate this in your marriage contract.

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