Fiqh of the family

After five years of no contact and maintenance, ex comes back and after two months of saying he’ll start paying up and disappearing,now says we dont have right to demand,he will pay when he wants to, but first he wants to meet the girls.Isn’t this wrong? Dont my brothers and father have a right to say first pay up to this horrible excuse of a father!? Five years sheikh!

Divorce, Fiqh of the family

27 May

He is sinful and accountable by law to pay. However, this doesn’t deprive him from his rights to meet his girls and to be with them. File a case against him at court demanding that he pays the backpay of 5 years and to ensure he pays on regular basis from now on.

Me and mother’s relationship is not very good due to many issues and her mistrust on me, i was brought up in disturbed home.My husband feels that I don’t know how to express love to her, as he never saw me hugging her. he feels i lack in expression.This is my nature and i am straight forward but i show love to my best ability,am i wrong, do i need to change?

Fiqh of the family

25 May

You must try your level best to mend your relationship with your mother as this is your duty. Maybe by you taking the first step towards her, it will help her open up. Hug her and be affectionate so that her heart will become tender.

sheikh my fathr has 2 wife’s 1 her relative n my mothr but he fought with my mother n they haven’t talked since august 2016 he lives in anothr city n we live in anothr I talkd 2 him on cel but now since 3 weeks he is not answering my cals my mother she backbites my fathr n he does the same he also fought with his secnd wife n nw livng alone as a daughter wht shuld I do?m 17 i need them 2gether

Fiqh of the family

25 May

You should not get involved in their marital issues, but you must try your level best to be in contact with your father. If he does not answer your calls maybe you can text him or write him a letter explaining that you love him and miss him. Show him that you are not taking […]

My parents owns a house and one of my brothers live with them. My brother has three children whom my parents give obvious preference in terms of love and gifts. We are four sisters and we all feel badly that our children have least importance apparently even when we visit their house. My sisters and me love and care our parents too much but we feel sad about it. Ruling?

Fiqh of the family

25 May

This is very selfish of you. You cannot blame them for loving their grandchildren who are living with them 24/7. You must not give so much weight to such an issue. It will only cause friction between you and your parents and would not make them act naturally with you and your families.

sir , when parents ask to do stuffs like sometimes when we spend time on phone without studying and parents ask to study we dont pay much heed to it , oh they ask for help or to do something like house works we dont do it out of ignorance or delay it , will these actions make Allah’s curse fall upon us..??

Fiqh of the family

18 May

It is sinful and Allah is angered by it.

we have recently adopted a 7 months old baby girl, we have not concealed her reality.when she grows up we would tell her the truth. my husband doest want to give her his name but making bay forms for baby or school admissions can become very difficult.what should we do? her parents had left her when she was newly born. we dont know about her parents. we got her through orphange.

Fiqh of the family

18 May

She can’t be named after you or him! She must be given a general name such as the daughter of Abdullah. Your husband’s close relatives like sisters, mother, sister in law married to his brother or you personally must suckle the child five times at least in order to become mahram to him.

My father keeps talking to his sister, his cousin (female cousin) and also his cousins daughter. I don’t know what to do. I know that relationship with cousins or cousins children is not permissible. What should I tell my dad.

Fiqh of the family

15 May

You should advise him in a kind diplomatic way bearing in mind that he is your father so you must not cross the line of respect. If he doesn’t listen, this is his sin.

My father puts me in a situation where my Salah gets delayed to offer on right time. I think when obedience to parents for certain limits. Is it ok if I scold my father and l leave for prayer.

Character and Morals, Fiqh of the family

12 May

If you scold your father, you won’t enter Paradise! What kind of a question is this? Have you ever read the Quran? Didn’t you read an ayah that says that even if your parents force you to associate others with Allah, you must not obey them but you have to give them good companionship and […]

My husband’s father does not allow him to come to my parents house. This has hurt me and my parents. Even once my husband has not visited my parents house. should he obey his father in this case?

Fiqh of the family

07 May

Of course not! His father has no right in preventing him and you husband has no right in obeying him.

Sheikh I live abroad and my mother live in Africa.I take care my mom financial but I’m to far to be close to her anytime she need me.I’m married and Ihave children .Will I have to leave my home to go and stay with her .PLEASE HELP ME.

Fiqh of the family

23 Apr

If you are the only child, you can first try to bring her to stay with you. Otherwise, you can pay for someone to go and help her and take care of her if your work and earning requires you stay there.

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