Fiqh of Marriage

How to deal with abusive parents who are mentally abusing me and my wife every few days. When I to moved to another house, father said he will disown me. I am going into depression. Please advise.

Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

24 Jul

ANSWER: Move out of the house as this is your wife’s right upon you and your parents will eventually accept this, it may take time but after sometime they will have to come to terms with it. Be respectful, diplomatic and humble towards your parents in all situations while at the same time not compromising […]

My family is forcing me to do education on riba based loan. I refused to do so. My mother started crying and said she’s dead to me. Everyone is elder and they are forcing me to do it. They don’t follow the Shaira rules and said to me you don’t know about life. Please I need advice what should i do.

Fiqh of Marriage, Halal/Haram Matters, Riba

14 Jul

ANSWER: Remain steadfast on Islam and don’t be intimidated or pressured as pleasing people while displeasing Allah would cause your failure and destruction in this life and in the hereafter. Do not compromise Islam for anyone, even your parents but be dutiful to them and respectful while holding your grounds.

I believe that I need Islamic counselling for my stress and anger management issues that I am struggling with in my marriage and my mother says that I should not go to strangers for counselling and instead take counsel from parents. I have done that also but it hasn’t worked. And to make things better I think I need to be more proactive which is why I am thinking of Islamic counselling.

Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family

11 Jul

ANSWER: It is totally not recommended to speak to your mother about your problems with your husband as this would tarnish his reputation in her heart against him forever and she would carry a grudge against him even if you make up and are living happily with one another.

I am married for a 1.5 year. Me and my husband are in long distance relationship which i do not like. He has gone to other country for job.I live with my in laws .I feel alone. Recently i had a miscarriage, since then i am depressed so much. I ask my husband to come soon.I can’t live like this.he calls me mad if i complain. Am i sinful if i dont talk to him?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

04 Jul

ANSWER: You need to weigh the consequences of your actions and consider your options and what you want from this marriage. If you behave in a certain way while he is away from you, he could easily consider divorcing this woman whom he has no children from and she is causing him and his family […]

I have received a proposal which is currently under discussion. All the terms are fine between both families. But the problem is that I wear naqaab from my non-maharim like my brother in law. The proposed guy has 4 brothers and they live together in joint family system. So they have asked to observe hijab at home but not to cover the face from his brothers.

Fiqh of Marriage

03 Jul

ANSWER: This is not permissible at all and such a proposal is not a good one and it would make you compromise your religion in the future bit by bit and impact your Iman.

My husband is very rich but he doesn’t give me money other than for what we eat and dress so whenever I want to help my parents financially he is not happy so I decided to put money together from what he gives me for our monthly house allowance and help them whenever they need my help and I also give sadaqa from that money without him knowing so I was wondering if what I am doing is haram or not?

Fiqh of Marriage, Halal/Haram Matters

30 Jun

ANSWER: What you are doing is totally prohibited. It’s not permissible for you to spend his money on anything else other than what he has given it to you for, whether it be giving it to your parents or in charity, both are not permissible.

If some matters were discussed and agreed upon verbally while deciding to marry a man/woman, but they were not physically written down in the Nikah contract. Do those conditions have to be fulfilled as nikah conditions by the husband/wife?

Fiqh of Marriage, Marriage Contract

26 Jun

ANSWER: If he has committed himself and accepted such conditions, he must honor them even if they were not written because the prophet salla allahu alaihi wa sallam had said: the Muslims are bound by the conditions.

Recently I got a proposal from a boy. He has good character, namazi & has a decent job. My family was very happy with proposal. But we came to know that they are involved in shirk. So had to reject the proposal. My relatives weren’t happy with this decision. Sometime later I developed feelings for him. I have never talked with him. He is engaged now. I shouldn’t feel like this. Please advice me

Etiquette, Morals and Heart-Softeners, Fiqh of Marriage

25 Jun

ANSWER: You should be happy you were saved from such a proposal. These are waswas from shaitan to depress and sadden you. Allah is the provider. As long as you had rejected him for the sake of Allah, don’t look back or else you will lose your reward and you would feel depressed for losing […]

I don’t have a relationship with my father and i have no other male relatives besides my younger brother. When i am getting to know someone for marriage would it be ok with just my mum being there acting as a wali or could my younger brother be there. He is 4 years younger than me but he has passed the age of puberty.

Fiqh of Marriage, Halal/Haram Matters, Mahram

22 Jun

ANSWER: It’s not permissible at all for your mother to sit there as she’s a non mahram to the guy and a woman cannot be a wali! Your brother must sit there after you get your father’s consent to do so. It is not acceptable not to have relationships with your father.

When a man goes to see a woman for marraige, is he allowed to ask about woman’s past or can woman ask about man’s past?

Fiqh of Marriage, Sins

21 Jun

ANSWER: This is totally prohibited.

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