Kind Treatment of Spouses

first I would like to thank for answering every email. My Q: can I totally refuse working and earning money?We have a 4yo child.my husband forces me to open up private buissness.he earns good money but he believes I must help him in building our life till we are both young.i would prefer to look after home as he works till late and I do not want my child to be left with a nanny.

22 Jun

It is your right not to work.

Is telling our wives “Honey, you’re perfect” to please them ok? because perfection is only for Allah!

Kind Treatment of Spouses

21 Feb

This is permissible.

I have seen one of your video clip in YouTube, where you mentioned it is a sunnah and great reward for husband and wife to pray 2 rakha prayer every night. Could you please tell us how to pray? Should we intend for nafl prayer? Will it be pray in congregation? Iqama is required, if so who will give? Also enlighten the reward for this practice.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

29 Sep

It should be prayed as 2 rakah of voluntary prayer, in congregation, the husband leading the wife and standing in front of her. It is a normal prayer and iqamah is only don’t for fard prayers.

If parents of the husband oppress his wife, unduly interfere in their marriage and emotionally/psychologically disturb the girl and the husband doesnt do or say anything out of respect or fear of his parents, is that wrong? Will a husband be held accountable if he lets his parents oppress his wife?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

17 Aug

Yes, it is wrong! He should take some sort of action to be fair with his wife such as separating her from them!

My husband scolds me from day to night. Whatever I do is not good for him..either in the home or in the office…I am working in his office. He scolds me loudly in front of people if I disagree with his views. It is so embarrassing as I am also a director of his company. Initially I responded in the same tone but now I remain silent mostly as I have no life in me to fight back for my rights. I am blamed for all the problems…financial issues etc. He never talks politely or kindly to me. My mother in law is also a cause for creating rift btwn us. How do I handle this problem. I have no kids. That is a cause of worry for me but hubby is not bothered. He wants me to work in office only n do house work. He is not bothered to spend a little quality time with me. Pls advise by email

Kind Treatment of Spouses

15 Aug

It is not permissible to work in a mixed environment! You should either work from home or quit this job! Once you are home, you may be able to have some quality time as working with him may cause some dryness in the relationship between you two!

In one of your lectures i heard 3 qualities that muslimah should have: wadud, walud and 3rd one i forgot. Can you please clarify what was the 3rd one. And what they all mean?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

09 Aug

Wadood: caring and loving to her husband Walood: giving birth to many children A’awood: the one who always reconciles with her husband and asks for his forgiveness.

Sheikh my wife is a Dr and is stressed about her exams and doesn’t physical get involved with me for months and it is frustrating for me.. I tried to fast but no help and to marry again I can’t as it is not at all accepted in our culture…So what should I do?? Can I masturbate so I will be away from sins as it becomes v v hard at times

Kind Treatment of Spouses

09 Aug

Your wife is in great danger! All of her studies will be sins upon her if it prevents her from giving you your rights whenever you demand it! You can’t masturbate yourself but she can do that for you! She has no excuse and stress doesn’t justify her from being intimate with you as it […]

Can I give charity, a gold chain, my husband gifted me without him knowing?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

01 Aug

You can give it within his knowledge as it is your own property and you may do with it what pleases you! However, if it has some sentimental value, you shouldn’t break his heart by giving it away, even if it is permissible.

If a Muslim husband and adult son do not practice the deen although the wife always reminds them to follow the sunnh and do salah but they don’t. Is she has the responsibility and will be asked about this on the day of judgment?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Knowledge & Propagation, Manners

11 May

No, there is no accountability on her if she tries her best to help them in following the right path and they don’t listen. It is theirproblem.

It is permissible to treat my Cellulite by going to Massage Therapy, because my husband doesn’t like ,and the only way i can get rid of it is a massage therapy.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

17 Feb

If this is a deformity or an abnormality, it is permissible to treat it as long as this is a medical procedure and not something for fun and enjoyment. You should also be careful not to expose what doesn’t need exposing. And Allah knows best

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