Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

Sheikh i live with in-laws i have 4 brother in-laws i wanna do parda but if i or my husband will talk about this my in-laws will surely said yu studied in university dat time where was your so called parda they will say it’s drama to live separately from them taking away their son kindly briefly ans me in my past life i just covered my head in front of namahram now i wanna live as musl

03 Aug

ANSWER: It doesn’t matter how you were in the past, what counts is your present and future. You must repent from your past sins sincerely with deep remorse and start observing the actual Islamic hijab in front of all non mahram males no matter what anyone says. You must not listen to your husband at […]

What are the rights from a daughter/son-in-law to their father/mother-in-law? What is the right of the in-laws?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

30 Jul

ANSWER: The parents in law have no rights whatsoever. However, they should be respected as they’re elders and parents of the spouse.

Sheikh my question is that my husband is living in france and im living here in pakistan.i just want to know without husband is it ok to live with in laws while there are so many non mehrams.i want to live with my mother please guide me about this that what islam say about this??

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

23 Jul

ANSWER: You must not live with your in-laws when your husband is not there, especially when non-mahrams are there. Go and stay at your parents house.

When we say, a wife is not obliged to serve her parents-in-law, they say, it becomes obligatory if the husband commands to do so. Because it is obligatory to obey husband’s command. Is it true? If it is, then every husband will command like this and will make it obligatory upon women.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

17 Jul

ANSWER: No, the husband has no right in commanding her to serve his parents as he has no right in asking her to stand on one leg for an hour for example. She is not obliged to obey him in whatever he orders her to do!

My in laws didnt allow me to go for Namaz e Eid.. Sheikh what should i do??

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

17 Jun

ANSWER: Your approval and denial comes only from your husband. Your in laws have no authority over you. Ask your husband for a separate home if he is living with you in a joint family. If he is abroad for work, demand from him that you go and live with your parents until he comes […]

I have tried my best to fulfill my husband rights on me. But he ignores me when he is with his family. I fought for his time & care also I used to live with my parents when my husband lived out of country. Due to this my husband is not happy and blames me for not giving his family time and care. His family is very demanding and thinks they have more right on my daughter than anyone else.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 Jun

ANSWER: You are not obliged in Islam to serve your in-laws and you are not sinful for not giving his family time or care however, you must not stop him from serving them as this is his obligation. You need to be diplomatic and tactful as his family are most likely whispering bad things about […]

I am from Bangladesh and I stay separately with my husband. My parent in-laws are not happy with the decision and would come to my house only when i would invite all of them specially my sister in law & her husband to my house once. Although I visit my parent in laws and send food, Is invitation to so many non maharam necessary, to please them?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

24 May

ANSWER: You are not obliged to invite his family often, however, if this would make your husband happy, you can try to invite them more often to your convenience. You must not come out in front of non-mahrams or mix with them whatsoever. The invitation must also be segregated as you shouldn’t allow them to […]

I dont live with my in laws. My mother in law always taunt me whenever i talk her over the phone or face to face which affects me mentally and my marrital life also. So i stopped calling her and going in laws. Am i sinful for this or what else i can do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

17 May

ANSWER: No, you’re not sinful as you’re not obliged to maintain ties with them because they’re not your kinship. However, you must give them Salam whenever you meet them somewhere. You should also grow up as normal people and mentally healthy people are not affected like this! She is your children’s grandmother and the mother […]

My husband wants us to celebrate Eid with his family and said that we will never celebrate Eid with my family as they are non Muslim and they only celebrated Eid for my sake (he meant my family doesn’t want to hurt me so they celebrated it for my sake). Is it wrong to celebrate Eid with my family? Or is it better to celebrate Eid with Muslims?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

01 May

ANSWER: Do not make it a huge issue, you could host a big get together at your place and invite both the in-laws and your family at the same time. Or You could visit them the next day too. Concentrate on creating a happy atmosphere rather than keeping score.

I live with my inlaws and their children are very ill mannered they waste food,yell at elders,throw away food,burp on faces and if i try to correct them strictly their parents dont like it, i have 6 monthsold son too m scared he will get influenced by them.grandmother gets angry if we try to correct them she tells they can do anything as they r small for it to learm manners!! What should i do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

21 Apr

ANSWER: You have all the right to have a separate accommodation. If this is not possible then keep yourself to your room and only come out when it’s necessary. You have no right in correcting these children if their parents don’t want you to!

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