Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

QUESTION: I am married and live with my parents and sister. My sister is disabled. My father is partially blind. My mother has late stage cancer and a difficult person (always been abusive). My wife and Mom have issues. I have considered putting distance between my wife and Mom but my parents never accept any compromises (separate house, separate story). How can I give my wife her right of privacy?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Mar

ANSWER: She has all the right in Islam to ask you for a separate accommodation. Your parents have no say or right in this. You must fear Allah and give your wife her rights. If you cannot give her a separate house, you must give her a separate room, washroom and a place to cook […]

QUESTION: Should a woman serve her MIL because her husband asks her to do it? Because he isn’t able to do it as he is busy with work. And he says things like “you must obey your husband in whatever he says, so please do it”

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

08 Mar

ANSWER: No, he has no right in ordering the wife to serve his parents or family! Why doesn’t he order her to wash the cars of the neighbors as well? He can hire a maid for his mom. If the wife does it out of love for her husband, without any pressure from him then […]

QUESTION: I don’t know what to do ,I’m married .. But my parents are asking me to study further and do job and sling me to be financially independent .. on other side my in-laws doesn’t like me studying.. even I’m not interested in further studies.. I’m in such a dilemma.. what should I do … How can I convince my parents??

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family

25 Feb

ANSWER: Simply ignore their demands without being disrespectful. Your parents and your in laws have nothing to do with your life. This is between you and your husband. Everyone else must mind their own business and stay out of your life.

QUESTION: I’m living abroad with my wife and son. My parents wants to visit us for 10 days, but my wife doesn’t like them coming as last time they came before 2 years and stayed for 3 months, there was misunderstanding between my wife and mother. As my mom keeps on nagging my wife even for small things. I’m stuck in between and don’t know what to do. Please advise

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

23 Jan

ANSWER: Your wife should understand that these are your parents and that you love them and they can come and stay for a few days. It’s not as if she has to live with them forever! You have a right to host them for 10 days without her complaining and she can stay out of […]

QUESTION: My husband and I live in *****, we are both working and got married last year. After marriage, he uses religion only to oppress me. His brother lives with us he tells me to stay in normal clothing and asks me to spend time with him, cook for him and treat him like a son. He is only 2 years younger to me. His parents are also very controlling and create issues if I don’t call them.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family

09 Jan

ANSWER: This is totally prohibited! You must put your foot down and never come in front of him like this and never be alone with him in the house. He is obliged to provide you with a separate house. If he doesn’t do that, you are better off leaving him before you conceive from him!

QUESTION: How important is to stay in contact with in laws like sister in laws or brother in laws?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

06 Jan

ANSWER: This has no importance at all as they are not your kinship.

QUESTION: Mostly in India/pakistan,sons are told by their mom’s not to share things with their wife.like a divorce,upcoming close relative wedding or any small stuff which eventually surfaces n causes fights amongst couples.what advise you give to d mom n the husband?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

26 Dec

ANSWER: A wife who would make an issue of this deserves what she gets! She should be bigger than this! If she has small brains that would make her pick up fights over such silly things that would not benefit her or gain her anything, she is the only one to be blamed for what […]

QUESTION: My husband and my in laws live in the same apartment but separate houses. Though I have a house, there is zero privacy. My mom in law backbites about me to my father in law and sister in law which creates a huge problem everyday. I ask my husband to take my to a house next street so there is some distance. But he denies saying he has to be available for his father

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

05 Nov

ANSWER: As long as he has given you a separate accommodation where nobody can enter without your permission, you are good! Ignore your in laws and what they say. If someone calls you a donkey, will you grow two ears and a tail?

QUESTION: What is the ruling of husband sharing to his parents/family regarding personal matter of his wife such as health problems, daily routines and places we go?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Sep

ANSWER: This is not permissible if the wife is not happy with that or agreeing to it.

QUESTION: I have a sister in law she has only been married to my brother for hectic 2.5 years and in those years she has made my mum suffer by making my brother constantly get angry at my mum. He will get his own home but he never wanted to leave home and made that clear when he got married but now has to due to his wife behaviour. please advise.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

19 Jul

ANSWER: He should have moved out right after he got married because Allah has given the right to women to ask their husbands for a separate accommodation after they get married. Better late than never! Let them live their lives without any intervention from the in laws.

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