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You are not obliged to keep ties with them as they are not from among those Allah has ordered you to uphold ties of kinship with. No problem in keeping a healthy distance from them and giving them salam whenever you see them.

People who bully you want to upset you and hear an abusive response from you! Turn the table on their heads by never defending yourself when they make fun of you and by never arguing with them or showing them how hurt you are. Simply keep quite with a smile on your face while ignoring all what they say as if they don’t exist! After few attempts, this would make them feel and look silly as if they are clowns jumping around but no one is laughing! By doing this and keeping your calm, you would be killing them softly as they are failing in provoking you and making you react negatively to what they are saying and doing. 

My husbands family do not like me at all because i am a different race they have made fun of me and bullied me countless times.i have tried for years to have patience and be kind to them however the pressure and bullying got so bad i got really sick with my pregnancy. I am pregnant again and could get same sickness from stress what should i do islamically.

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My parents talk to my wife like they have authority on her.They try to control her in various matters.I explain them politely that they shouldn’t do it,they can speak nicely & she will listen,if she misbehaves or has mistakes,they should complain to me.They become very upset If I say this.Am I sinful?She is given separate accommodation though but she only eats with them.