Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

Sheikh,is it permissible for the husband to ask his wife to help with the household chores and do cooking for his parents as they are old and sick? can she disobey him in this?(she doesn’t have doesn’t have children yet) the husband can’t do cooking&cleaning for his parents as he’s at work,should she obey him?

09 Dec

ANSWER: She’s not obliged to cook and clean for her parents in law. However if she does it while she’s already preparing food for her husband (which is her duty) then she will be rewarded for it. Kindly refer to the following link(s): https://youtu.be/NWK6kJcMytI

my husband and his brother supports my husband’s parents financially. iam also working. my mother in law and sister in law indirectly accuses my parents in that they are not helping me and my husband financially.when I keep telling this to my husband he gets angry.What should I do?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

06 Dec

ANSWER: Don’t keep nagging, just keep him updated whenever you are accused and have patience. Ignore what your in laws are saying and explain to them that your parents are not obliged to provide for their daughter and her husband.

My mother in law is a widow and my husband is her only son. it is very stressful and mentally exhausting to stay with her.she is generally a person who notes people and critises and labels them often.she does it even more with me. she is also my aunt and we have common relatives.it is very hurtful that my own relatives have started thinking badly of me. she picks on me all the time.how do i deal?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

14 Nov

You need to deal with her with a smiling face as if to show whatever she comments, does not have an effect on you, slowly and gradually she will reduce in shaa Allah. Learn to never answer back or argue with her as this is what fuels conversations. Just reply with a smile and say […]

islam says if someone accuses u, u shud clear ur blame like yusuf alaihis salam esp if u are a daee.i am.My mother in law has told horrible lies abt me to my whole inlaws,friends, neighbors.am heart broken. If I write emails to clarify this & tell everyone she lied,am afraid my husband would dislike & SHE will turn more nasty & dangerous.is it necessary i clear blame to everyone?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

31 Oct

There’s no need for that as you wouldn’t know who all she told lies about you to (if she actually did). Ignore all this and don’t let her demoralize you or depress you. Move on and concentrate on making your own married life beautiful and ignoring her would be enough for her to leave you […]

sheikh I live with my mother in law and I try to keep a balance in our relationship although she has her mood swings and loves picking up fights and commenting thins I dislike infact Ishe would not even reply to my salam despite having reminded her several times…It hurt me such that of late I stopped giving her salam as she wouldn’t reply. Am I wrong?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 Oct

You shouldn’t react to anything she says. Just smile and she will eventually stop creating fights as she won’t get any negative response from you. No need to feel hurt, if she doesn’t respond to your Salam, she will be sinning and Allah will appoint an angel to reply to your Salam. Keep on giving […]

sheikh i live in joint famly where my mother in law n sistrs ov husband always taunting me fr one thin g anothr n making fun ov me my husband he also taunts me mistreat n my mothr says u have read quran so do its been 4 years now n im fed of my husband he always abuses me n shortly apologize i cnt frgt what he has said plz guid me accord to islam wat to do rep AsAp

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

17 Aug

It is your right to demand a separate accommodation where you don’t need to see anyone from your in laws. If he can’t afford this or he is not willing, try to isolate yourself from them and not contacting them except the very minimum. If this doesn’t work, you have the right to ask for […]

Y all the scholars recommend husband and wife to stay in a separate home.ie)Y staying with the inlaws in the same house is not recommended.Is the wife allowed to ask her husband to take her alone even if creates a problem between him and his parents.Will the daughter in law be rewarded for cooking and taking care of her inlaws eventhough she doesnt likes to stay with them

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

16 Aug

It is the wife’s right to have separate accomodation after marriage to avoid any problems which may be caused in staying together also yes she will be rewarded if she takes care of her in laws but it is not mandatory on her to serve them as she is not their maid. Praise be to […]

My question is i live in a joint family, my husband’s sister always taunt me regarding my clothes, shopping and the colors i ware whenever she gets the chance. I wanted to know what is the ruling in Islam in this regard.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

11 Jul

Ask your husband for support in this matter or to provide you with a separate accommodation. You are not obliged to put up with her bad behavior but you will be rewarded if you smile in her face and ignore all of her bad comments while anticipating your reward with Allah the Almighty alone. If […]

I have problems living with my mother and father in law. We r not alike & they keep trying to dominate me to the point where my father in law doesn’t speak to me. Im forced to live with them bcz my husband cant afford a separate home. I dont like them from my heart but Im not rude to them. I keep getting angry inside & my husband cant do anything to stop them frm abusing my rights

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

15 May

Limit your interaction with them. You must be respectful to them as they are your elders. Treat them with kindness and honor them. Having said that, they have no right over you and you are not obliged to obey them. You are only obliged to obey your husband.

I have this uneasy and awkward feeling towards my inlaws and sometimes i feel them stepping on their limitations. What are their rights and restrictions to me and my husband. What are my obligations to them as my inlaws. Please give me some advise for me to establish a good relationship with them.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 May

You must be respectful to them as they are your elders. Treat them with kindness and honor them. Having said that, they have no right over you and you are not obliged to obey them. You are only obliged to obey your husband.

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