Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

I have this uneasy and awkward feeling towards my inlaws and sometimes i feel them stepping on their limitations. What are their rights and restrictions to me and my husband. What are my obligations to them as my inlaws. Please give me some advise for me to establish a good relationship with them.

08 May

You must be respectful to them as they are your elders. Treat them with kindness and honor them. Having said that, they have no right over you and you are not obliged to obey them. You are only obliged to obey your husband.

My question is regarding inlaws,my mother in law and sis in law does everything possible to upset me when I go back home and they give lots of taunts when I talk to them and at the end of the day they say they did no harm to me and always gossips about Me to every1,they keep complaining about me to my husband, Now I’m not talking to them to avoid Any kind of problem. pls help

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

07 May

Keep the relation but be distant and do not put everything on your heart. Pray for them instead! If you don’t allow what they do to penetrate your heart and you keep your calm, this kills them and makes them furious as they are anticipating that you become angry or at least upset.

Alhamdulillah my mother in law is causing alot of problems for me. Please i want to know what rights she has when it comes to our children. She always gets angry because i dont like my 3 year old daughter to be eating sweets all the time. Does she have rights to be able to do whatever she wants when it comes to our children even if i dont agree to it?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

05 May

No, she can not go against the wishes of the parents. Try to be patient and diplomatic with her, usually grand parents always like to spoil their grand children. If she eats sweets once a week, this is normal.

Is my mom wrong if she expects her daughter in law to help her in every household chores..I heard from a speaker that,in Islam daughter in laws should be respectful and courteous towards their in laws..she will not be held responsible if she is not obedient towards them..is this correct? And Can u please shed some light on responsibility of daughter in laws towards her in laws

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

03 May

This is true, she is not required to do any household chores for them, she is not their slave or servant.

Brother of my husband had posted some pics of my daughter on facebook when she was 6 months. when I asked him to remove he became stubben & said no matter what he will never remove and whenever he feels like posting he will and which he actually did also. my husband’s family backed him up. my husband stoped him at first but to avoid any kind of bad environment at home my husband kept quiet later times and asked me to be patient and let him do whatever he want.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

23 Apr

It is your husband’s call and you must not communicate with him at all about this, as you are sinful for speaking to him unnecessarily.

On wedding ceromonies are we allowed to kiss our mothers fathers and brides mother father and other elders on there hands and kiss their forheads as to show respect is this ok to do Rather bowing down to somebody.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

15 Dec

Bowing is not permissible. After marriage, your parents in law are your mahram and you can kiss them.

sheikh,I wish I didn’t have to complain about my in laws. It’s unethical I know. How do I deal with my mum & sis in law… they keep calling my mother up, spreading outragous lies about me at the say so of my psychopath husband. All of my in laws are terrified of him especially his mother by her own admission. They made the relationship between me & my mum turbulent. Advice?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

30 Oct

Ask your mother not to believe her and ask your husband to stop them from calling your mother or demand moving out to a separate home.

My parents and other family openly insult my wife and do not respect me as I earn much less than them but I do not shoult back out of respect for them as my parents n elders. I feel very upset that my wife has to go through this and guilty because I can’t help her here (May Allah reward her patience). However, is this fair? What are my rights as the youngest family member?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

12 Jul

You should stand up for your wife with respect and while being dutiful to your parents. If they insult her in front of you do not take her to meet them as this is not an obligation on her.

My mother in law has been avoiding my family because of a family dispute. We have been trying to make amends but she is refusing to Salam us, walk away from us. What is the best advise and solution?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 Jul

Leave her as she is and don’t pay any attention to her. If your family see her accidentally, they should give Salam. But they don’t have to go and visit her or call her at all! Leave her and how she wants to be.

do in laws have the right to accuse falsely,insult & scream at their daughterinlaw & her family infront of everyone?the motherinlaw had an illegal relation with a guy same age as her son.she asked daughterinlaw to accept it but she & the son refused & begged her not to.so she hates her & makes her life miserable.the fatherinlaw tries to cover his wifes fault by blaming daughterinlaw & her family.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

12 Jun

Assalamu alaikum, She must stay away from them and not meet up with them as it is not an obligation upon her.

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