ANSWER:
There is no harshness in your question! It is only the thing that separates faithful Muslims from people who do not submit their will to Allah and object to His rulings similar to how Satan refused to obey Allah and prostrate to Adam like the rest of the angels and justified it by saying that he is better than him as Adam was created from clay while satan was created from fire! We know what happened to him.
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