Continuation of part 1:
I said if I talk to your husband he would say, “She’s always nagging, she doesn’t let me sleep, if I want to sleep she turns on the lights, and she says I haven’t finished talking to you. She turns off the air conditioning, and she… Wallahi for two and a half minutes almost, I was just bombarding her with this. After I finished she says, “Yes, this is what he says”. I thought; “Alhamdulillah, now I’ve got it made!” I know that this happens. Khadijah was never like that ever; Whatever the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam wanted, he got it made. Not only that, she never made him work in the house, and when he came to the house, he was like a king. She did all the chores of the house, and she never asked him to do this or that, she never asked him to stitch his clothes, or to clean the dishes, or to take the garbage out. She never did that. On the contrary, in Madinah, Aishah, may Allah be pleased with her, tells us, when the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam used to enter his house, he used to serve his wives. So, he used to stitch his own thobe, he used to fix his own sandals, he used to milk his own goat, which means that Aishah who is righteous and a good wife, she is nothing compared to Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, nothing. This is the reward of a woman: ‘palace of pearl in paradise’ who sits at home and who does not go out and brings up the children in the way that Allah loves! Look at what happened to one of her children who is Fatimah. Both of them are the heads or on the top of the list in Paradise. ‘Why?’ because of how she was brought up by her mother.
Now, there are things that every woman has to keep at the back of her mind, and these are essentials. A man is ordered to do so many things by Allah Azza wa Jal: we men are ordered to provide for our wives. So, even if my wife is a multimillionaire, and she has millions in her bank account, she is obliged to spend nothing on herself or her children. I have to be the bread earner; I have to give her money for their clothes and for the house, support and everything. I am supposed to go down the market, if I see something wrong, I have to enforce virtue and forbid evil. I have to pray five times a day in the Masjid; I have to go and work, and to teach people in the Masjid, to do Jihad if I am required to defend my country. I have to do so many things. I have to be obedient to my father and to my mother, though I have a wife and a family, but still, they have priority over me as well. So many things for me to do, and maybe and maybe not, I will enter Jannah. Because the temptation is so great, wherever I go, there is temptation, everywhere. While my wife, Allah orders her to do four things and she will enter Jannah. If a woman:-
- Prays her prayer,
- Fasts Ramadan,
- Preserves her chastity,
- And obeys her husband,
She will enter Allah’s Paradise; this is what the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam says, ‘Just four things.’ Now, we men think, ah, this is easy, they have got it made. No, it is not easy. Praying, well, half of the month, they are off. Fasting one month, it is the same thing. Preserving their chastity, women by nature are shy and they do not play around as men do. The fourth thing is the most difficult, which is, obeying their husband. This is the most difficult task ever, because now, with the media, women think they are equal to men. A woman thinks, “This man, why should I obey him? Just look at him! He never combs his beard, he’s smelly, he doesn’t shower, his mouth is ‘ugh!’, his belly is half a meter in front of his body and he hasn’t seen his toes in ages!! Whenever he comes out of the bathroom, he flexes his muscles as if he is Arnold Schwarzenegger, he does not know that he is a big fat bag of fat! I have to obey him! Is this fair?” This is your test and it is fair. Allah does not rule by anything except fairness. Allah is testing you and if you obey your husband, you will enter Jannah. Someone might say, “Sheikh, he is not romantic. He never had a candlelight dinner with me. He never said to me, ‘I love you too.’ He never kisses me when he comes home or goes out. If I call him while he is in the office, he hangs up. If I send him a long romantic poem, saying how I love him, he sends back to me, “what is this nonsense?” This is how men are, by the way. This is how Allah created us, without any feelings, without any remorse, and with hearts as hard as stone; But this is a test for women, as women are a test to men. If you do the above-mentioned four things, you are guaranteed Jannah!! I know that a lot of the time, the media comes and says, “Why stay at home?” When we ask our women not to work and to stay at home, it is as if we are asking one of our lungs to stop working. This is wrong! The place, the original place, by default of a woman is in her home, to take care of her husband and children. In the Sahih Al Bukhari, the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said, “There is no one like the women of Quraish, the best women ever to ride on camels.” This is their description. Then the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said, “They are so merciful to their children and they are so careful in preserving their husband’s wealth.” Meaning that they do not spend a lot, they do not ask their husbands for money to spend, so they take care of their household and their children. Never did the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said that they go out and do this and that. Does this mean that women are not supposed to work! No, it does not mean that. If her job is Halal and it does not compromise her responsibilities of her house, husband and children, and she is observing her Hijab, this is okay; but if she is working in a mixed environment then that is a different story! I went to Abu Dhabi couple of months ago on business. There, I went to one of their media companies and I saw the local women and men sitting in the same offices, next to each other. I was sitting in one of the cabins and there was a partition; on the other side of the cabin, there were 2-3 women and 2-3 men sitting Wallahi, you could hear the laughter from miles away. Laughter?! The women are laughing and the men are cracking jokes and I was saying Astaghfirullah wa atubu iliah. Would I like my daughter to work in such an environment? Definitely not, and would anyone in his sound mind would say, “Akhi, this is normal, this is just friendship.” Would anyone accept this? Definitely not!! So working where it is suitable is good. However, you will not be productive more than you would be in your house. Look at the great scholars in Islam. For example, look at Muawiyah ibn abi Sufyan. He is one of the Muslim Caliphs, one of the companions of the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam, one of the scribers of the Qur’an, and the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said that Muawiyah is a Mu’min, and that he is a believer. Who brought him up? Hind bint Utbah, Radi Allahu anha, was the one who brought him up. When he was born, his mother said, “May I lose him, may I become the mother of a dead man, if he doesn’t rule the whole world!” Look at the aspiration she had when giving birth to this man. Who did he become? Muawiyah ibn abi Sufyan, the great Caliph of Islam; since his birth, the mother had set the objectives and the plans to execute and reach these objectives. What do we have for our children? When a mother now gives birth to a baby boy, she says, “May I lose him if he doesn’t become the first in Playstation III, or if he doesn’t become the best rapper, or if he doesn’t become the best ‘Arabs got talent’.” Now we have ‘Arabs got talent’, ‘So you think you can dance’ in Arabic! I do not know what they call these shows in Arabic. Everything is brainwashing people. They want you to become westernized. They say, “Leave your Islam, leave your abaya, leave all these ‘bad things’, come on, you can be more than that!” Sufyan at Thouri is one of the great scholars of Islam. His mother said to him, “Leave everything. I will work in sewing clothes and making things, and you devote yourself to memorizing the Qur’an, and learning the Ahadith.” She was a single mother, and she made sure that her son became one of the greatest scholars of all time in Islam. Everyone knows Sufyan at Thouri. If you look at Ahmed ibn Hambal, his single mother raised him. He said, “My mother made sure that I memorized the Qur’an when I was 10 years of age.” She also used to wake up in the morning for Fajr prayer, warm the water, prepare the clothes, and make Wudu for her 10-year-old child, in the freezing weather, dressing him in warm clothes, taking him to the Masjid, and waiting outside until he finished his prayer, and walking him back home. Look what happened to that young man. These kind of stories, from the early ages of Islam, can go on and on!! This is how you can be productive. So sit at home and raise your children and Wallahi your children will be miracles to this world. Finally, the most important thing in being productive is to know your responsibilities, your obligations; of course, this is mutually said to men, but I am not addressing men, I am addressing women today! If you know your responsibilities and obligations, you will be the most productive muslimah ever. Why is this so? By nature, men and women neglect their obligations and responsibilities and only know and demand their rights. That is why most of marriages collapse, when the two parties abide by their rights and neglect their obligations and responsibilities. Therefore, I as a man want my wife to do this for me and this and this and this. “Ok. What about your responsibilities and obligations?” his wife asks. “This is none of your business,” the man says, “do what I tell you!” This is wrong, because she, on the other hand says, “Well, you have to do this and this and this for me, and then I will think of what you want for me to do.” Then the marriage is finished. It takes two to tango. You have to know your responsibilities and obligations and do them, and then ask for your rights or some of them; and this is portrayed in the Sunnah, the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said, “Do what your obliged to do and ask Allah for your rights.” So imagine being in a country and there is a red traffic light. I go and cross it and the traffic police stops me and says, “Why did you cross the red traffic light?” and then I say, “The government did not give me my benefits. These are my rights. Once you give me my benefits, once you give me free health care and do this and this for me then I will obey you!” Then it is chaos. If this happens, this is chaos. If you know your responsibilities and obligations and fulfill them, you will become the most productive woman around. However, this does not mean that you should not ask for your rights; always ask for your rights, but let this come as a second stage and Allah Azza wa Jal knows best.
(Question and Answer session)
1) Question is not audible
Answer: Firstly, Alhamdulillah that Allah did not make the sisters judges. Because then divorce cases would be judged in a split of a second! When someone comes to you with tears filling his eyes and he is crying and weeping, do not look at his tears; look at what his hands had done. That is why, in judicial affairs, if someone comes to you with his eye poked (i.e. his one eye is gone), do not give him the verdict until you see the assailant because then you will probably find someone with two eyes gone! That is why, the sisters, when they call me and complain, I do not give them a judgment, because in the beginning of my life, a sister came to me and said, “O Sheikh, he did this, he did that.”She cries and my heart is breaking. We are men. We feel emotional very quickly in front of the tears of women, if they are not our wives! I would feel so bad and I would say, “Your husband has to be hung for 6 days and 7 nights, because of what he had done to you!” Then the husband comes. And when I listen to his side of story I cannot stop myself but say, “Akhi, your wife should be put in front of a firing squad, with A K 47s!” When I put them in front of each other, to talk in front of me, 50% of her talk is gone and 50% of his talk is gone as well, because they are in front of each other. Never, ever judge for one person until you hear the other person’s story. Now, I heard your allegation, you were emotionally affected by the sister’s call, and you did not speak to the husband; I presume, nor did you speak to the judge, but you heard her story. Now, I am not betting. I believe in the judicial system and I believe in the fairness of the judges because there is nothing personal. However most likely, I do not know the Ghaib (unseen), most likely, if you go to the judge, he will tell you that the husband is not as abusive as she says. He might have hit her once or twice but he also brought medical reports that she threw an ashtray at him resulting in six stitches on his forehead. I know, personally, a teacher, an acquaintance of mine, who said once, “Wallahi Sheikh, yesterday I threw a coffee pot at my wife.” I said, “Ya Akhi, are you crazy!” He said, “No, no, it’s okay. We had a fight and she first threw an ashtray at me; but she missed and I did not. Ha! Ha! Ha!” I am shocked at the way spouses are treating each other, and the amount of violence. Therefore, most likely, this sister who is calling you, she complained to the judge and the judge looked into her case and found that she is not right. She is not correct. Perhaps she might have abused her husband as well and both of them have done so many wrong things but not to the extent to dissolve the marriage. Once, and this is why I say to the sisters not to jump the gun, not to always go for divorce, because once a brother came to me and he said, “My wife does this and that, she wants 5000 riyals as a monthly salary, she wants to have her freedom or I should divorce her.” He put in front of me a list of things that were horrendous. No man would be a man if he accepted these. So I told him, “Wallahi, Akhi, if this is the case; I see that you have to divorce her,” but that was my mistake because this guy said, “Wallahi, Akhi, I love her but she is asking for things that are unacceptable for a man to adhere to. So what do you think if we sit together in the house of Fathima Naseef and she tries to straighten the matter?” Fathima Naseef is a well known Sheikhah/ Alimah/reformer in Jeddah. So I said, “Okay.” I went there, I had never met Fathima before and she was fully covered, Alhamdulillah, and she knew one of my wives. She sat with the brother and his wife, and she spoke with them. This was about 7 or 8 years ago and they are still married. The point is that sometimes, in the married life, you may get glitches and you think that this glitch is the end of the marriage, not knowing that if you are a little bit patient, it will go away. Therefore, I cannot judge this sister’s case. Going on for one year is too long. However, during that year, from the second month, things were good for 3 months and then they had a fight, so she forgot this good period and went back directly to 4 or 5 months ago; and then for three more months, they were living fine but they got trouble again. You cannot judge this and you cannot be so impulsive in saying, “Yes, divorce! The best thing to do is divorce!” I get about 200 questions a day through email and most of the sisters say, “Sheikh, my husband doesn’t pray, he doesn’t fast, he takes alcohol, he cheats on me, he chats with women, he fornicates, and he is abusive. So can I ask for divorce?” Earlier I used to say, “Definitely, you have my blessings!” Now, with time, I say, “How long have you been married to him?” She said, “Thirty-five years.” Masha Allah, it is been thirty-five years and only now you come do discover this? No, it is because this week or two, she is depressed and she does not feel like being married to him and she wants to call it off; so if you say yes, you will bear the burden of breaking such a marriage. Moreover if you say, “OK, call me in a week’s time”, and she calls you after a week, everything’s fine. “Alhamdulillah, we went out for a vacation, we are doing great and our marriage is beautiful!” That is why divorce is in the hand of a man. Usually, and I mean usually, men are not impulsive. They think twice before divorcing, and they do not change their mind six times a minute. They; are usually fixed on something; they are slow in taking decisions and decisive. Women, on the other hand, are very different. You wake up in the morning; your wife has a very big smile. After breakfast, she is like, “Why did you do this”, or “Why did you do that”, and you feel like you are the most horrible person on Earth. Then ten minutes later she gives you a kiss on the cheek, saying, “Have a good day”. Then she calls you in the middle of the day bombarding you with things like, “Your mother did this and did that!” She texts you, sends you hate messages, sends hate mail. When you come back home you are always on your guard; putting on your armor, never knowing when THAT blow will come your way! Masha Allah, she puts on her nice clothes, hair and make-up done; ‘you are walking on a landmine’; that is what husbands feel. You do not know when that BOOM will come your way and ‘end of game’ for you now ‘only 3 lives left’; so my answer to the sister who called you is this: I do not know your case but judges should be quick when they know that it is a hopeless case. I know sisters that their khu’ul took about 6-8 months. I know a sister who called me and she said, “I filed for khu’ul and 5 days later I was free in Jeddah.” So it depends on the judge, how he looks at the case, if he thinks that it can be fixed and mended and Allah Azza wa Jal knows best.
2) Question not audible
Answer: Firstly, this is only one incident that took place in the whole of Shariyah. When a woman came to the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam and said, “O Prophet of Allah, I want to separate from my husband,” and he said, “What do you not like in him?”She said, “Nothing, in Islam Masha Allah he is perfect, but I hate Kufr after Imaan. I hate to become in a state of disbelief after believing.” Now this statement by itself means that there is a reason and the reason was that there is no chemistry and because there is no chemistry, she cannot satisfy him, she cannot fulfill her duties and this would make her Kafiratal Asheel. She would fulfill her duties towards her husband and this would make her not a disbeliever, not a Kafir but she would make her do what is right in return for the blessings and the graces and favours of Allah Azza wa Jal. Therefore, the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam let her divorce her husband. This is an incident. Not ‘there are incidents’. Secondly, Zaynab bint Jahsh, the cousin of the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam, came to him asking divorce from Zayd ibn Harithah, “O Prophet of Allah, I hate him, I don’t love him, he is a freed slave, and I am an original Quraishi woman of dignitary and lineage. I cannot stay with him.” Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam did not say, “Khalas, go ahead.” He kept on saying, “No. it is too early, come on Allah Azza wa Jal would mend things, and fix things,” which means that this is the role of a reformer. Asking people to give divorce is the easiest thing on earth. Some people say, “Sheikh, my wife is abusive!” and the sheikh says, “Divorce her.” Khalas it is easy! To reconcile and try to mend things and try to reach the best thing is the most difficult thing. Barirah and Maghees, when you say that Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam was only interceding and was not ordering, yes, because this was not a proper marriage. Barirah may Allah be pleased with her was a slave and then Aishah may Allah be pleased with her helped her to free herself and now she is a free woman and her husband is a slave. A free woman; cannot be forced to be with a slave. There is no equality between them. Therefore, Islam gives her the right to cancel the marriage. This is her God given right. Yet the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam was giving an advice, “If you wish, you may stay with him.” She said, “Are you ordering me or are you interceding?” He said, “No, no it is not an order, it is an intercession.” Therefore, she said, “I don’t need him and I don’t want to be married to him.” I think this in sha Allah clears the matter a little bit.
3) Question is not audible
Answer: What did the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam describe women as in Hajjatul Wada’ah (the farewell Hajj)? He described them as Awan. What does Awan mean? Awan means prisoners. The Prophet salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam described them as prisoners. So he said to the men, “Fear Allah in women because they are prisoners in your houses.” Therefore, a woman, by description, is a prisoner. She is the weakest link. No one says that, “No, that is incorrect!” Certain men do oppress women. There are men who do not fear Allah who make their life difficult; I fully agree with that. However, at the same time I fully agree with the fact that there are lots-of women making the lives of men extremely difficult. I have to admit this. Therefore, it goes both ways. Now, men abusing women is not a cause or a justification for divorce to take place immediately, or for women to retaliate by abusing their husbands in return. There has to be marriage counseling, there has to be involvement of wise people in the family to sit with each other and clarify things and this in shaa Allah will take care of that, and Allah knows best.
4) Question not audible
Answer: This is a difficult question. She is the only one who can answer that. Taking care of the parents is a good thing to do but sometimes the parents have other offspring of their own who could take care of them. Therefore, in normal cases, if all the boys and girls were married, and there is this girl living with her parents, and she gets proposals. If she is extremely beautiful, talented, and educated, she can afford to wait like three or four more years to take care of her parents but if she is not that beautiful and talented, the demand is far greater than the supply nowadays, and the biggest example is the fact that I have thirteen girls and no boys. Therefore, I am not in a position to just sit and wait; and say, “No, no, I’m waiting for my knight in shining armor to come on top of his white horse to marry me.” Maybe he comes in a Toyota truck or whatever! It depends, if there are others to take care of your parents, no, get married. If you can financially afford to get someone to care for them physically, a servant who would take care of them, get married. The priority is to get married. Moreover, there are very limited cases where yes, your sacrifice is{appreciated} and you should stay with them because there is no one at all who can take care of them, and if they are: handicapped, crippled or too old to serve themselves; in this case Allah would reward you. However, in normal cases, they are in their forties or fifties, and you say, “I’d like to serve them, no they’re young then you should go head and move on with your life.
5) Question not audible
Answer: Most likely, these are not practicing families. In Arabia, unfortunately, we tend to give the freedom to the boys more than to the girls. I am talking about non-practicing families. So, the boy, we buy for him a sports car, we make him stay out late until eleven or twelve or maybe even let him come back at Fajr. We allow him to travel to Europe on his own, knowing what a punk like him would do in Europe alone! Is he going to the Masjid and visiting Islamic centers in Paris and in London? Definitely not!! He is going to nightclubs, fornicating, and falling into Zina! Whereas the daughter; his sister, who may be older than him or younger, is restricted from going anywhere without the company of her mother, and she cannot come back after ten. Moreover, we have to know if the family has boys or not, is the father of the girl she is visiting is in the house or not? We have so many restrictions on girls! This is normal and logical when it comes to the girls. The girl is the most precious thing in our life. Girls are like glass, if broken it cannot be mended. Boys are boys. No matter what they do externally, nothing is different. We cannot say that there is a defect in this brother, no there is nothing like that. That does not justify giving the boy freedom and it does not justify being so strict with the girl. But I know girls who go out with the driver in Saudi Arabia, alone, telling their parents that they are going to their cousin’s, only to end up in her father being called by the religious police saying, “We’ve caught your daughter with other girls in a disrespectful place, partying or whatever.” Therefore over-trusting them is wrong. Differentiating in equality in treatment is also wrong because he is also accountable in the sight of Allah, you cannot let him do whatever he wants to do. Nevertheless, there always will be a difference. A girl is more precious. If you have a jewel, you would not expose and give it to anyone to take it. You would put it in a safe place and lock it, because you care for it, not because you want to oppress it, and Allah knows best.
6) The question is not audible
Answer: Again, I have repeated like six or seven times, through my talk that you have to abide by the Qur’an and Sunnah. Therefore, if your husband tells you to do something that goes against the Qur’an and Sunnah, he has no right to ‘be obeyed’. There is no obedience to him. There is no obedience to any creature in disobeying Allah Azza wa Jal. By the way, obedience should be in Ma’rouf, meaning that something that is accepted. If your husband says, “Didn’t the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam order you to obey me?” you say, “Yes, my dear.” So he says, “Ok, I am ordering you to stand on one leg for half an hour, and also do not move.” Should you obey him? If you say, “Yes.” Then, wow. I should get married again! No, you should not obey him because this is not Ma’rouf. If he tells you, “Do not sit for an hour,” or “sit and don’t stand for an hour.” This is not: ‘Simon Says’! You should obey him only in the perimeters that Islam told you to obey him in, such as, he tells you, “Do not leave the house tonight.” She says, “No, I am going to my friend’s wedding whether you like it or not and I will show you who the man is!” This is Haram. You cannot do this. If he tells you, “I do not want your friend to come to my house.” This is his God-given right. The Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said, “You may not allow anyone in your husband’s house except with his permission”; Even if he says, “Do not get your mother inside my house, do not allow your father inside my house,” you should obey him, this is his God-given right. That is why Asma bint Abi Bakr, {may Allah be pleased with her} in Madinah she said, “My mother is coming and she is a disbeliever, and she wants to correct my kinship. Should I honor her? Should I allow her in my house?” The Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said, “Yes.” However, this is with her permission of her husband. Other than that, it is not permissible. Therefore, obedience has to be through the Qur’an and Sunnah. If he tells you, “I’d like you, when my friends come, to bring the coffee and serve them.” This is definitely unacceptable. If he tells you, “We live in a joint family, and my brothers live in my father’s house, we all live in the same house and I don’t want you to wear the Hijab in front of them.” You must not obey him; {this is totally prohibited}, because it is going against the Qur’an and Sunnah. I hope this answers your question.
7) Is it permissible for a girl to pursue higher education if it is in a co-education university?
Answer: It is permissible for a woman to pursue her education to the highest levels, providing that she is abiding by the Qur’an and Sunnah. If there is a university, that is segregated and she is, studying whatever she wants to study that is Halal in a segregated environment; she could pursue her PHD and masters degrees without any problem. Islam supports her and tells her that this is good thing to do. However, if it is a mixed environment, if men and women, boys and girls are studying together; this is prohibited, totally! It is better for her to sit home, being uneducated, and entering Jannah, rather than getting a PHD through a mixed educational process which might end up with her flirting or having a relationship with another student. Allah knows best.
8) Can a woman travel alone with the permission of her husband?
Answer: Well even if the husband gives her permission, Allah Azza wa Jal did not give her the permission. The Fatwa was answered by the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam in the Sahih hadith. When the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam once addressed his companions and said, “It is not permissible for a woman, who believes in Allah and the Day Of Judgment, to travel without a male Mahram.” Who said this? The ‘Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam’ said this. Now a man stood and said, “O Prophet of Allah, my wife went for Hajj and my name was registered in an expedition of so and so to go for Jihad. So what should be done?”The Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said, “Go and accompany your wife, because she has already travelled, you have to rectify this by going and following her and leaving Jihad.” So now, this is the verdict. If the husband says, “I want you to come,” and the Prophet says it is not lawful! Whom would you follow? “But Sheikh, Imam so and so and sheikh so and so says that it is okay.” I am shocked. The Prophet says it is not permissible. Moreover you say that so and so says it is okay. Are you a Muslim? Do you say, “None has the right to be worshipped except Allah and XYZ is Rasool Allah or Muhammed is Rasool Allah?” Therefore, you have to submit your will to Allah Azza wa Jal. You have to abide and follow the Sunnah of the Prophet Salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam, and Allah knows best.
9) Question not audible
Answer: It is one of the greatest forms of Da’wah and the greatest forms of worshipping Allah to go for studying Qur’an and Sunnah and giving Da’wah to women in segregated places and safe places. There is nothing better than that. Allah says in the holy Qur’an (English translation), “There is no one better in rhetoric than he who calls to Islam and does righteous deeds and proclaims, ‘I am among the Muslims.’” There is no one better than he is. So yes, the sister can go and participate in Da’wah, in giving Da’wah and learning and teaching the Qur’an and Sunnah and this is extremely beneficial and good. If she is single, she has to take the permission of her father, and if she is married, she has to take the permission of her husband. However if both refuse, she has to adhere and obey.
Jazakumul Allahu Khairan wa barakal Allahu feeekum and I ask Allah Azza wa Jal that He uses all of us in His way and His cause and to accept all of our good deeds and to make our lives better in this life and the Hereafter.
Assalamu Alaikum.
The quotations from the Qur’an and Hadiths in this article are not the exact words but a rough translation of the original text.