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You must not listen to her in these matters as there’s no obedience to the created at the cost of disobedience to the Creator. 

However, you must handle these situations firmly but diplomatically, without being rude to her as this is one of the major sins in Islam. 

 

What should i do when my mother tells me: to do haram or makroo like shaving beard, Al Qaza etc or dont talk to me, leave the the house etc?

Fiqh of the family | June 25, 2018 7:18 am
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Sometimes I intend to do something for my mother but then ask ALLAH reward me for these actions for my mother but after some days when my mom says u dont do a single thing.I reply in frustration by saying U never appreciate never praise not say good of me for any work i do for u,reminding her my actions.Is this shirk.Am i non muslim.Do i have to shahadah and ghusl?
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I am aware that we have to respect our parents & Allah says be humble never say uff.If parents & grandparents follow cultural tradition like kids should bend down & say Salam, going to graveyard & putting flowers on grave. I have noticed if I try to say that its not right thing to do they get upset saying now kids will teach us right and wrong. How to deal in such cases pls help.