Kind Treatment of Spouses

I heard a shaikh saying that umar ra said to someone he knows that he should be atleast be with his wife the fourth day. The other three days before he is praying and islamic things but he should atleast be with his wife the fourth day. Is this correct. If so where is the hadith? Or a ijtihad

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Jan

ANSWER: This is not a hadith. There is no specific time mentioned in the Quran or the sunnah for intimacy between husband and wife.

My husband who is naturally short tempered blackmails me on going for a second marriage every time I do some mistake (even very little ones) . It really hurts me and I can’t show same love to him. I pray Allah for patience and continue to love him for sake of Allah. Is this type of behavior permissible for men just because Allah had made it halal to have 4 wives?

Etiquette, Morals and Heart-Softeners, Kind Treatment of Spouses

30 Dec

ANSWER: He is sinful for hurting your feelings like this and he is an ignorant imbecile. Abusive people want to depress you or at least to make you say a negative remark or response to what they had said. When you ignore them, not defend yourself and not argue with them, this kills them and […]

Sir in india when a women is about to deliver child,her husband sends her to her parents for delivery and he doesn’t pay for anything,all the hospital and delivery expenses should be paid by her parents,if they dnt then they force them by threats of divorce and says its their responsibility as its cultural ,plz tell me isnt it the responsibility of a man to pay for his childs birth and delivery

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

25 Dec

ANSWER: This is totally prohibited as this is the responsibility of the child’s father. Her parents shouldn’t pay anything. However, it is unfortunate that many husbands in India are not real men!

If the husband asks for my social media passwords,can I request him not to burden me like this?Since i might have conversations with my family that I don’t want him to know,and accidents(like he is angry and posts something bad on my Facebook for which i lose my reputation)rather can i say that if he suspects i will show him at the moment in front of me if i am suspicious?

Halal/Haram Matters, Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Dec

ANSWER: He has no right in asking you for your passwords!

I recently got married and we had a son. My parents had a fight with my wife and now she doesn’t live with us anymore. My parents won’t let me see any of them. I didn’t even give her a chance to explain herself. What should I do? I can’t disobey my parents.

Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

07 Dec

ANSWER: You were mistaken to get married in the first place as you were not fit for that! Marriage is only suitable and permissible for real men who would care, protect and fro vide security for their wives and be their rock. Mommy’s boy can’t do that! No man would ever say: my parents won’t […]

Does a husband have the right to force wife to take care of his family members saying wife is obliged to listen to husband so if a husband says to serve his family she must serve.But she says she honors his family but she don’t want to serve them, she tells the husband to appoint a service giver for his parents as he has no right to force her in this.Who is right?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

26 Nov

ANSWER: The husband has no right whatsoever to force his wife to serve his parents. If he asks her to stand on one foot or to cook food for the whole neighbourhood, is she obliged to obey him? Of course not! My motherinlaw is bing vry aggressive and vile towards me, I’m not allowd to […]

The husband has duty from morning think 5am to 5pm. And then he goes around with his friends or does something which doesn’t allow him to spend time in house with his wife. How much can he spend his time with his friends? And hour or 3 hours or etc? Even if the case was that he is giving dawah but also neglecting wife. How much can he stay away from her?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

30 Oct

ANSWER: There is no prescribed time to be allocated to the wife. The best of men balances his time and give all their due right.

If the husband doesn’t love his wife, should he force himself to be kind to her? Is it obligatory to be kind towards them or be just be cold?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

28 Oct

ANSWER: Yes, he must force himself in order to avoid Allah’s punishment as it is an obligation upon him.

If adornment is very much limited for men then how can a wife enjoy her husband?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

17 Oct

ANSWER: He should keep oral and physical hygiene, wear clean and fresh clothes, perfume himself so that the wife is pleased when he is around. Does she also want him to wear makeup and lipstick?

Sheikh, my que is, my wife is pregnant and she is not taking pills which are mandatory in pregnancy. When I remind her she always says i will take it later,and she miss the pills for that day though i remind her two times in a day. What should be done? What kind of person she is as per islam?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Sep

ANSWER: When a woman is pregnant, she has hormonal imbalances, mood swings etc, so treat her with love and patience. She is not sinful for not taking such supplements. Maybe if you bring it to her with a glass of water she would feel loved and cared for and would take it. Tell her mother […]

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