Kind Treatment of Spouses

Can a husband record the arguments between him and his wife and make there family listen to it as they live separately??

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

08 Sep

ANSWER: Of course not! This is prohibited spying and backbiting. Allah has said that spouses are eachother’s garments!

I and my husband both have good jobs. He is asking me to spend my money on our house whilst he is spending on his parents( which he claims). My salary account is joint account and his is personal. I know Islamically it’s the man’s duty to spend on me. 1) How can I tell him gently that I don’t want to spend my money and want him to spend on me.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

19 Aug

ANSWER: Make him understand that along with his parents you are also his responsibility after the marriage and he should fulfill all your financial needs as he will be questioned about this in the hereafter. Give him references from the Quran and Sunnah in a polite manner and make dua for him to understand this. […]

Actually i recently got married and had to come back to my hometown because of some unfinished duties so my husband and I are having a long distance relationship,he gets mad if I don’t check his messages immediately and claims I don’t really care about him and tried to fight without understanding my reasoning.I try to always see it positively but its affecting me mentally

Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Aug

ANSWER: You should take it in a positive way that he is very keen to have your attention. There are ladies who cry saying that their husband doesn’t want to have any contact with them through the day. You can send him messages from your side before he sends any to show him that you […]

I feel very depressed as my husband is not regular with his prayers. Even if he prays, I’m not sure if it’s accepted because he is just too quick with it. How do I explain him about the importance of salah as he is short tempered? Sometimes he even misses Friday prayers.

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Prayer

04 Aug

ANSWER: If you have children in the house, you can address them and teach them about the importance of prayer and the great reward of perfecting it while he is listening and this would be indirect advice.

I’m 33 years old housewife and a mother of a two years old son.I am happily married but the problem is whenever my husband get upset on me he threats to give divorce or told me to get out from his house.and its constantly happening for 7 years. But nowadays I’m getting sick of such behavior. What should I do?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

02 Aug

ANSWER: Whenever he does such a thing, you should make him feel that such a threat is not going to pass well by giving him the silent treatment where you show him that you are hurt and not willing to let it pass, though you are doing all of your chores as usual by cooking […]

Sheikh if my husband wants to be intimate and i reject him politely for any reason, and he is okay with it would i still be sinful and cursed by angels? even though he says its fine?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

20 Jul

ANSWER: If he is fine with it, you are not sinful. Praise be to Allaah. If a woman refuses her husband’s request to come to bed with no Islamically-sound reason (such as sickness, or his being drunk, for example), what happens is as described below: Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The […]

Not daily, but just once after a very tired day, if I ask my husband to massage my feet, am I being disrespectful to him or degrading him? Is it allowed in Islam? Or am I sinful for asking such favors? I have this doubt because of the high status Islam has given a husband over a wife.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Jun

ANSWER: No problem in massaging the feet of a spouse.

My husband never shows love, or laughs with me or share any moments as a couple. When he feels like he wants to have sex only then comes to me. Fights are very common. smallest things are blown out of proportion. married for nine years now. I have given up. My heart, shaitaan is lurking it. I am looking for that love, attention, kindness from elsewhere. am scared of sinning. But I feel so empty.

Kind Treatment of Spouses

03 May

ANSWER: You need to be more realistic and logical! If he is providing for you and he is respectful and tries to make you happy but fails to express his feelings or to say love words for you, this is what most men are alike! You must not be ungrateful to Allah and wanting to […]

My husband doesn’t know the duas that we does in salat and he always perform 5 salats on time. When I came to know about this I asked him to study duas and also he doesn’t know ayat ul Kursi etc .Some times we had fight on this topic .I asked him to study and he behaves like he is doing it Only for me and he is not ready to study this but I still forces him .What can i do now ?

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Knowledge & Propagation

30 Apr

ANSWER: You are not his mother! You must not force him in learning duaa that are not mandatory. You can only advise him when he is in good mood as such person might get away from what they are already following. Find out some other ways diplomatically to recite in front of him so that his […]

Sheikh, my husband left me and our kids for almost 3years, no words from him or his family. Then he came back later and said he was sorry, though his mother never wanted us to be married, she controls him and now he said he wants us to be a family again, and my parents have said they are no more in support of the marriage that I should seek divorce frm him and he refuse.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

03 Apr

ANSWER: If he didn’t divorce you yet, you are still his wife. He is obliged to give you the back pay of the past 3 years for your maintenance and child support of your children. After he does this, you can discuss whether you want to continue in this marriage or not! You need to […]

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