Kind Treatment of Spouses

Sheikh Me & My husband have a very good understanding & my husband stays in UAE and I was too with him der but my in laws called us back and they now want me to stay in India with them and telling my husband to go back after marriage they kept us away for 1year.My husband doesn’t take a stand against it and he obeys his parents even in their wrong decision he thinks disobeying them would be sinful

24 Mar

ANSWER: It would be oppression on you if he were to leave you with them while abroad! He can’t be obeying the parents when it comes to taking your rights away. He should man up and tell the parents that either you go with him wherever he goes or you stay with your parents till […]

My husband says that if you want to keep me happy for my sake you have to serve my mother as i say, as it’s Allah’s command to keep husband happy and also he is providing me food house etc. So it’s my turn to repay him.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

13 Mar

ANSWER: It is not your obligation to make his mother happy. If you do that out of your own good will, this is rewardable and a good deed. He can’t expect you to do things that are not obliged upon you just to make him happy! If he is happy if you don’t open your […]

My mother curse me all the time if i don’t listen 2 her like to let her control my marriage. She ordered me not to take my wife to shopping or to give her money even to extend i should not let to her talk to her own parents. And i don’t do as she command She start cursing and start saying i will go to hell to not to obey her and she says there is blssng in mothrs cursing. Is it true?

Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Mar

ANSWER: Your mother is transgressing against your wife and she has no power or control over her. It is obvious she wants to enslave her. If you are a real man, you should protect your wife from such aggression and pay no attention to what your mother is ordering you to do, while being respectful […]

I am a woman in polygamy the last wife of 3 wives. I recently got married and didn’t know my husband is struggling financially. I’m responsible for my upkeep 100% and do give my husband money from time to time. I have some savings and willing to forfeit them for him to pursue a new career which in sha Allah will benefit us all. However, I’m scared of what the future would be.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

19 Feb

ANSWER: You are not obliged to spend on yourself, let alone your husband! It is his responsibility to look after you and not vice versa. With wives like you, he wouldn’t have to work as long as he has “sugar mommy”!

Married for 14 yrs.Husb gave nafkah only for 1st year of marriage&stop till today.Reminded him its a must to give wife nafkah but he didn’t care.He went for counselling with an ustadz but still refuses to give nafkah.I’ve been working 14 years&all my money is used to help him with kids&financial.Once in 3 months I’ll take abit from my salary to buy my necessaties.What should I do?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Feb

ANSWER: You must not spend anything. You must not give any money to your husband. It is his responsibility to take care of you and to provide for you and your children. You can take him to court if he has money and refuses to give.

If I am married to a woman who is not virgin but was regarded to be virgin before the marriage what should I do? Should I inform her family that she was not virgin or should I keep it a secret and continue with the marriage?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Feb

ANSWER: Most women lose their virginity due to playing sports or riding bicycles etc. Other girls don’t break the hymen from the first few attempts. Therefore, one must not be haste and assume things that have no basis to it. You have sisters and would have daughters in the future.

I’m recently married yet unhappy about the marriage as she can’t satisfy me sexually.She gets tired very fast due to her obesity.I couldn’t make out her physical appearance well during my visit to her home before marriage as her obesity wasn’t obvious from external look.But because of intimacy issues between us,I’m losing interest in her.Due to this,I’m afraid of getting attracted to other girls.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

12 Feb

ANSWER: As long as she is not denying you your marital rights, this is sufficient as she is only required to lay there while you do your thing! You can advise her to lose weight with good manners and wisdom if her weight bothers you. Remember that you are also not Mr. perfect! You are […]

Sheikh my husband is earning good and cn do aqeeqa of my child easily. But he is reluctant to do according to him if i contribute then he will do it. Now i want to know what quran n sunnah is about that…

Kind Treatment of Spouses

02 Feb

ANSWER: You are not obliged to contribute as this is his responsibility. Once you open the door for contribution, he will always ask you to do so in every aspect of life! This is not very healthy.

Ruling on joint bank accounts in Islam for couples. Is it a good idea?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Jan

ANSWER: No, as most disputes and fights happen over money. Both should keep and maintain separate accounts.

Does the husband have to treat, speak and handle for example like buy gifts and allocate time each day to his wife differently to anyone else or is it permissible for him to deal with, handle and speak to his wife the same as any other person?

Kind Treatment of Spouses

29 Dec

ANSWER: She is not like any other person! The kinder he is to her the better a muslim he is at the sight of Allah.

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