ANSWER:

No, you’re not wrong!

In fact, what you’re doing is what needs to be done. Your wife shouldn’t also go to such gatherings. Calling the dead for protection is shirk.

QUESTION: My wife’s family practices non-Sunnah rituals like Khatam on the 3rd, 7th, 40th day and yearly for the deceased, and seek help from Hazrats against evil. I avoid these as they aren’t from Quran or Sunnah. They call me Wahabi or extreme. I stay respectful, attend normal visits, and my wife supports me. Am I wrong for avoid their invitations?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Innovations, Sects, Shirk and its different forms | May 18, 2025 7:16 am
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QUESTION: Right after finishing the tasleem in salah, I’ve seen so many worshippers in Malaysia using their right hand to rub from the right side of their face to the their face (the motion may differ from one person to another it seems). Is this kind of practice part of the Sunnah?
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QUESTION: Do i have to offer kafaarah if we didn’t know that we have to give it if we break swear or promise I made same promise to Allah about praying all night on shab e mehraj and barat every time they came so on barat I keep making promise about trying to be perfect Muslim so how many kafaarah should I offer.