ANSWER:

You can’t accuse them of gaslighting you like that!

They want the best for you, otherwise they wouldn’t have insisted that you get married. However, they want you to choose someone who would be good for you. 

Think positively about them and try to work with them until Allah grants you a good righteous husband 

QUESTION: My parents are pressuring me to get married, but they consistently find fault with any potential suitor. When I decline, they urge me to reconsider, but when I agree, they criticize my choice and taunt me for considering it.

Fiqh of Marriage, Fiqh of the family | May 1, 2024 5:14 am
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QUESTION: I have 2 kids and my husband started sending me to my mother’s place whenever he has work outside or when we get sick. Even though I tell him I can handle the situation staying with in-laws he says his parents can’t look after the kids & he can’t stay stress free if he goes outside.And now he is sending me to my mother’s house without valid reason Is my husband doing right?
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QUESTION: Can I disobey my mother and fast on Mondays, Thursdays, and the 13th, 14th, and 15th of the month? I’ve often fast, but due to long bus travels and extreme weather in India, my mother worries and only permits fasting on weekends. Will I still receive the same reward for obeying my mother and not fasting? Can I still enter from ar-Rayyan?