ANSWER:

Your wife does not have to serve her inlaws and has all the rights in the world to her privacy. 

You need to man up rather than take your mother’s complaints out on your wife! Your wife did not marry you so that you can be a momma’s boy rather she married you so that she would have a shield to protect her!

If your mother has such a problem with your wife, provide your wife with a separate accommodation as this is her right in Islam.

QUESTION: Have a mother who interferes in my wife’s life excessively as to when to have a child what clothes she must wear and what time she must wake up. She doesn’t let my wife pick out clothes she likes for an event and always has a complain about how it is not nice. She also complains that my wife never served/cooked my side of the family. When she gives me too much pressure I come take it on my wife.