For a while now I have really tried to stop backbiting and Alhumdulillah, I think I am doing well. I have a problem though as my mum backbites a lot and I don’t get involved but she gets annoyed when I ask her to leave it. I try to say it in a nice way and not be rude, but I know she’s getting and I think she thinks I am being high and mighty. Can you kindly advise as I’m starting to feel distant.
ANSWER: You should politely tell her it’s haram or change the topic when she’s about to backbite. You must not be part of it at any cost as you cannot please anyone at the cost of displeasing Allah. However, be as diplomatic and respectful as you can.Read more
ANSWER: This might backfire and do more harm than good! Ask Allah for forgiveness, feel remorse, repent to Allah and do good deeds without telling that person.Read more
Yes, as in the case of advice on marriage or partnership in business or to warn someone from a deviant teacher etc.Read more
Do not tell them, repent sincerely, make lot of Duaa for them, and praise them in front of people.Read more
If it is for seeking advice and to find a way for helping him, this is not backbiting.Read more
Yes, as they are backbiting and not seeking nasiha. You must not join them and should advise them to stop.Read more
Is it backbiting if i inform a person of a habit or an evil of someone that could actually harm him ? For example if i tell my sister or a friend to not believe everything mr. Xyz says because he lies ,then will it be considered backbiting? If it is then how are we to warn our beloved one of treacherous or evil people ? And what if the evil person is in family ?
If it’s something to sincerely warn others, this seems permissible.Read more
Does complaining about someone fall into backbiting? Or does it have limits? Sometimes ppl come to my mom to complain abt someone.. Usually they do it to let out their feelings. People also narrate things that has happened in their homes.. Arguments etc. The Intention is not for fun or to laugh at someone. But usually we end up learning about someone’s bad qualities
Venting is not permissible and it is backbiting.Read more
I laugh at someone because he looks funny when he speaks.Or, someone when they speak their accent is funny. Or, when I look at video and the man is bald,I laugh. By laugh,I don’t mean laughing out loud. By laugh,I mean smiling or slightly twisting your lips only. Because I am trying my best not to laugh. Is this backbiting (if done in secret) or insult?
This is not backbiting, but you should not make fun of people like this.Read more
If it was genuinely to warn him, this is permissible.Read more