My only so lives in with a none muslin GF Brother, we of course we condemn the relation with anger. But what diplomatic ways we can handle.we offered them to get married asap in the mosques and so bigger event later. its not working can we put bigger sanctions on them on the other hand we also want the girl turns to islam. dont want to scare both away. beside he is the only one pray for us after death
If you mean your son lives in with a non muslim girlfriend, this is absolutely prohibited and you must not accept this at all. There is no compromise in Islam even if he is your only son. Prophet Nooh peace be upon him asked Allah about his son who refused to believe in Allah and accompany the believers on the ark. Allah said to him: “O Noah, indeed he is not of your family; indeed, he is [one whose] work was other than righteous, so ask Me not for that about which you have no knowledge. Indeed, I advise you, lest you be among the ignorant.”
If you give him pocket money or his university fees etc, cut off all these financial aid ASAP and let him know if he continues this haram relationship, you won’t help him in any way whatsoever.
He cannot marry her if she’s neither a muslim, Christian or a jew. Even if she’s one of these three, they both must separate first, repent sincerely to Allah and then only they can get married, if the wali of the girl approves.