ANSWER:

Yes, this is permissible in both cases. 

Shaikh when im mensturating and my husband feels the need for sex, he asks me to relieve him by hand, is this ok to do? Also is it allowed for him to relieve me by his hand during mentruation (i know penetration is not allowed) but with his hand is it ok to do?

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