I felt so bad at the way he was behaving towards me that I mentioned divorce. I didn’t grow up a muslimah so I didn’t know in Islam we cannot utter the word divorce even when upset. The same day this happened my husband went home to his parents. Can he divorce me just like that? Don’t I have any say? He’s also asking I give him back my engagement ring and wedding band. It’s like I’m not allowed to make any mistakes but he is.
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The husband has the right to divorce his wife without consulting her.
I can’t justify or condemn your husband’s position as I don’t know how you are with him. He would probably give more complaints about you than you have mentioned. Sometimes a wife can make the life of her husband unbearable to the extent that marriage can’t go on and it is not healthy to give it one more try, especially when there are no children involved.
He has not right to ask of you anything as long as he is the one insisting on the divorce. Therefore, don’t give him anything. He is supposed to support you until your Iddah is over (waiting period). Your Iddah is 3 menstruation.
His parents are most likely supporting their son and they must have heard him complain of your nagging and of your disrespect for them. they can blame their son as they see the misery he is living in and they can feel the coldness from your side towards them.
If he didn’t give you divorce by verbally saying it, you are not divorced yet. Therefore, try to supplicate to Allah that he might get back to you and that you would both try to make things better.