Kind Treatment of Spouses

QUESTION: My husband doesn’t do any job and want me to work outside and do household chores and doesn’t even want kid because of the responsibility of it …meanwhile he is loving towards me but put responsibility of his mother on me also.. should I keep patience and continue my marriage and pray from Allah for better days or leave him right now as this is effecting me mentally all the time?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

10 Sep

ANSWER: You are not obliged to work outside the house or even take care of his mother. Providing for the house is the man’s responsibility, not the other way around. Be firm and adamant about staying at home and make him man up. You must weigh the pros and cons of leaving him wisely and […]

QUESTION: In sub-continent mostly people say that the husband is a virtual god in urdu (مجازی خدا) is it right to say this.

Innovations, Kind Treatment of Spouses

08 Sep

ANSWER: This is totally prohibited!

QUESTION: I have a sister in law she has only been married to my brother for hectic 2.5 years and in those years she has made my mum suffer by making my brother constantly get angry at my mum. He will get his own home but he never wanted to leave home and made that clear when he got married but now has to due to his wife behaviour. please advise.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

19 Jul

ANSWER: He should have moved out right after he got married because Allah has given the right to women to ask their husbands for a separate accommodation after they get married. Better late than never! Let them live their lives without any intervention from the in laws.

QUESTION: Till 7 years my husband gave the zakath as i don’t work and he himself opted to do so . Also once when he was unable to pay it i sold some jewelry and paid the zakath. Now last year i gave most of my jewelry back to my parents saying i don’t need it and i want to return it back . When he learned about this he said either give me the zakath amount of all those years or the gold .

Kind Treatment of Spouses, Zakat

11 Jul

ANSWER: He has no right in asking for such a thing as he paid it as a gift and not as a loan. The prophet salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said: the one who goes back on his gift is like a dog that vomits and then eats back its own vomit!

QUESTION: My husband says his Only responsibility is to earn. Is that true? He doesn’t help me in any way. Me or kids I’ll not his concern, he goes out and chill with friends but demands me to fulfill whatever he orders. Is that true that I’ve to obey him ANYWAY?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

24 Jun

ANSWER: What he is doing is totally wrong as he is responsible for his children and his wife in other means than financial provision! It is his responsibility to teach them all about Islam and to raise them up to be good individuals in their communities. The wife can also claim that her responsibility is […]

QUESTION: My nieces husband will not allow her to leave the house unless unaccompanied by him She is not allowed to sit in the front of the car with him She is not allowed to go outdoors with her mother or any other female relative She wears a full hijab He has said that even if she wears niqab he will not change his rule She is struggling with this and wants to know if it is permissible

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

15 Jun

ANSWER: I don’t know the full story here but I have seen many similar cases where it ended in divorce as such enslaving of the wife has dire consequences in the future but it would have been too late then. She must get him to have counseling or she is better off without such a […]

QUESTION: Sheik I am pregnant and living with my mother because I am not well but my husband doesn’t support me financially and he says that my parents should take the responsibility of first child birth expenses

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

15 Jun

ANSWER: What he is saying it an absolute lie and not related to Islam. It might be related to Hinduism! You and your child are his sole responsibility and he must provide for both of you. He can stop providing for you if you left his home without his permission.

QUESTION: If a husband is angry and saying some really bad words to his wife (not threatening to divorce her), how should a wife react? Also, this happens every time whenever the husband is angry. How should his wife calm him down?

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

14 Jun

ANSWER: By not responding to his insults or defending herself at all and de-escalating things.

QUESTION: Sheikh, is i am sinful if i go out with my wife and children without asking my mother’s permission? as she always create a fuss when we leave the house without taking her with us, she curse me for leaving her alone in house…I don’t know if this is right or wrong as my wife also don’t want her to go with us. Is my wife has right to object?

Fiqh of the family, Kind Treatment of Spouses

12 Jun

ANSWER: Your mother has no right in interfering in your married life at all. You can DEFINITELY take your wife and kids anywhere you want without taking your mother along or even informing her! You can compensate your mother by taking her alone with you or with your kids without your wife to wherever it […]

QUESTION: I don’t like my husband I don’t want to see his face or hear his voice I don’t know why is that from the first day of my marriage I didn’t let him touch me I’m sinful I know but I can’t live with that man.

Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

11 Jun

ANSWER: Technically, if you are unable to live with him or fulfill his rights, you can divorce him. Realistically, this is not logical! You accepted him and agreed to marry him without anyone forcing you. After all this time wasted and money lost, you simply want to divorce him and for a silly reason such […]

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