Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

Sheikh.i live with my in laws. They very frequently taunt me and say things that hurt me.whenever i tell my husband about it he says that I should talk to them and solve it myself and that it is not right for him to speak into these matters.what should I do? Is it right for husband to not take my stand and ask me to deal with it on my own?

01 Jun

ANSWER: It is your right to demand a separate accommodation where you don’t need to see any of them! However, you should weigh the pros and cons as if you know he can’t afford that, you shouldn’t embarrass yourself. It is not logical to expect him to disrespect his mother or scold her for a […]

I live with my in laws and they want me to spend much of my time with them even when i don’t want to or i want to do something else also my husband want me to ask permission from my mother in law that whether i go to my parents home and other matters etc and my husband also don’t give me a separate kitchen even i want it i wanna know are they sinful to do such things and interfere in my life

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

22 May

ANSWER: They have no such rights, none whatsoever and they’re definitely sinful for this transgression! You have all the right in Islam to ask your husband for a separate accommodation. Your in laws have no say or right in this. He must fear Allah and give you your rights. If he cannot give you a […]

My friends mother in law’s took all my friend’s zakat money without her consent and travelled to other country. Her husband also knew this but he didn’t say anything to his mother and now my friend is struggling to pay zakat as she is left with nothing

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Zakat

06 May

ANSWER: She must pay the zakat money to the poor and needy! Her mother in law is a thief and must be held accountable for the money she stole without her consent. She and her son are obliged to return it.

Does a husband have the right to force wife to take care of his family members saying wife is obliged to listen to husband so if a husband says to serve his family she must serve.But she says she honors his family but she don’t want to serve them, she tells the husband to appoint a service giver for his parents as he has no right to force her in this.Who is right?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Kind Treatment of Spouses

26 Nov

ANSWER: The husband has no right whatsoever to force his wife to serve his parents. If he asks her to stand on one foot or to cook food for the whole neighbourhood, is she obliged to obey him? Of course not! My motherinlaw is bing vry aggressive and vile towards me, I’m not allowd to […]

How must one who wants to start wearing niqab deal with the non mahrams in her family who don’t view it as obligatory? Also if she wears niqab can she go chat with them but wearing niqab, not alone in the room together. Is it impermissible to chat regularly with non mahram family members?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Halal/Haram Matters

15 Nov

ANSWER: She must wear the niqab in front of non mahram family members as well. It’s not permissible for her to chit-chat, hang around or socialise woth them at all. Therefore, she simply ignores them and not reply to them if they insist on mixing with her and socializing.

My father passed few months back and my relatives taunts my mother and tells that she is reason for his death should she keep kinship what to do

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives

24 Sep

ANSWER: Breaking ties with those who are her kinship is a major sin. She must maintain Salam with them at least. If they are her in laws, she is not obliged to be in contact with them and can boycott them if she wants.

After marriage my mother house is not mine and my in laws house is my house and my everything. What islam say in this matter.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

15 Sep

ANSWER: This is baseless. Your house is the house or accommodation that your husband provides for you. You do not have any right on your inlaws house. At the same time, you are not obliged to serve or obey them as they are not your parents.

Sheikh, i live with my inlaws my husband is in abroad he sent money every month to his parents they not even asked me that if i need something for my personal use etc they said we are providing food n shelter then why she needs money so my husband sends for me separately in my account my mother inlaw taunts his son is this necessary for my husband to tell her that he is sending money for

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

08 Sep

ANSWER: No, he must not tell his mother anything and you must not tell them anything nor give anyone access to your bank account.

Is it permissible to call our parents-in-law as father and mother or how they should be addressed and called?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

22 Aug

ANSWER: No problem in this.

My parents talk to my wife like they have authority on her.They try to control her in various matters.I explain them politely that they shouldn’t do it,they can speak nicely & she will listen,if she misbehaves or has mistakes,they should complain to me.They become very upset If I say this.Am I sinful?She is given separate accommodation though but she only eats with them.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

13 Jul

ANSWER: They have no right, none whatsoever over your wife and she should have her own room, washroom and kitchen that nobody enters without her permission and she must not be forced to sit with them and eat! Be a man and protect and honor your wife as she is your responsibility and at the […]

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